Twins - Cranston,RI

I worked hard to get my twins on the same sleep schedule and it really paid off. When mine were about 6 weeks, I read the book, Baby Wise and started using the sleep schedule they suggested and I swear it made them different babies- happier, well rested, etc. Mine are 21 months now and are still awesome sleepers. Congratulations and good luck, you'll find a routine that works for you!

P.S. If you haven't already, joining a Mothers of Twins club was so helpful for me just to have the support of other moms who get what it's like to have multiples :)

When one wakes up, wake up the other one. If you do, they will adjust and get on the same schedule. You have to with twins. It is totally different with just one. You and your husband MUST get your rest. Having twins is really tough in the beginning but it does get easier, I promise.

Totally unrelated, but WOW! 9 lbs. 4 oz. Is HUGE for a twin! Good job, mama!

Congratulations!! :)

We have twins, almost 11 yrs old, I think you answered your own question in the last couple of sentences. You and your husband didn't sleep more than an hour at a time.

Well, people who say don't wake a sleeping baby didn't have multiples, so they can all kiss my b@#$ because they have no idea what it's like to have more than 1 kid being up possibly all day and night if they're not on the same schedule.

When one woke up we always woke up the other one. My husband always got up with me even though he had to go to work, well I had to stay home and have babies all day. Then when they're big enough to sit in their car seats and take a bottle one of us would get up and feed both at the same time. It's the only way to do twins!!!!!

I don't believe in waking sleeping babies, but when I had my twins, I really felt for sanity's sake I had to. When one would wake up, I would nurse her, put her back down and then wake her sister to nurse her and put her back down. Otherwise I was up all night!!!

I just wanted to say that I don't think any "rules" ever apply to everyone. Many moms of multiples swear by the "wake them up to feed them together" rule.... I never did it for a few reasons. 1) they were 2 completely different children, 2) it was WAY EASIER to deal with one awake child at a time! especially at night! 3) one child quickly established herself as the better sleeper. She started sleeping through the night at 6 or 8 weeks... her sister continued waking up at night until 18 months! So I always laugh & say, "Thank GOD I didn't wake her sister up along with her all those months!" Because, seriously, she would've adapted & accepted that as her schedule too.

So, I don't have any good answer for you, except - you never HAVE to do what works for someone else, you just have to figure out what you think works best for you & your children. If waking them up together saves your sanity, then by all means do it. But don't feel you have to. And yes, it WILL get easier... they're so little now, but they'll start sleeping for longer & longer stretches... I promise! : )

The best piece of advice I was given when pregnant with my twins was to always feed them at the same time. When one wakes to eat, wake the other. It will force them on the same schedule and prevent you from being up at all hours to feed your babies. Congrats on the twins!

My mom's first were twins and she said the first few months were a sleepless blur that included sitting on the floor in their room crying and crying because she was just SO tired she couldn't control her emotions.

I absolutely let my babies sleep and eat on their own time/schedule and co-slept.... but I only had one at a time! I often stated that there is NO way my method would work if there was more than one baby. If you aren't taking care of yourself in the way of getting even the minimum amount of sleep and eating a few times a day, then you aren't going to be able to care for those babies.

Get them on a schedule and don't feel bad about it at all :) You will all be happier and better rested! Good luck and congrats on two bundles of joy

We have two sets of identical twin grandsons born to different children so I am beginning to know a little about twins, but not what the parents found out!! :-) I did help out more with the last set who live near us and they are now almost 3 years old. At first I kept telling their mother to not try to do the same schedule as they are not the same person and yet after she did that I see now that it has to be done almost. They slept pretty much at the same time, ate pretty much at the same time. You just need to remember which one you feed first so that one is always fed first and then the second one is on their own schedule sort of. I know it's a lot of work with twins and you do need sleep to keep up with them and they also really need to develop good sleeping habits so you also get sleep. I hope you enjoy them as much as we enjoy our grandsons. You are at that hard point now with them being one month old, much adjusting for babies and you, so try to get help sometimes if you have a friend or parent who can just rock, talk to, cuddle, etc. the little ones. If I was close I'd come and enjoy them while you rested. :-) Oh, also my daughter's boys were just a pound different in weight and still are at almost 3 yrs. old. They will probably stay that much apart for awhile. Just be sure they both gain accordingly.

First of all I would like to congratulate you for having your twins at such a healthy weight. My twins are now 3 years old. I kept mine on the same schedule because after a month I was burnt out and I felt like I would lose my mind! Keeping on the same scheduled meant a little more rest which is good for your body and your mind.

Congrats on the new boys!! This is a tricky one, especially at one month. For our twins (now almost 5) we kept them on a tight schedule. In fact, my family made fun of me and how rigid I was with the feeding/sleep schedule. I would wake a sleeping baby to feed them, but it was just so that it could be easier for me. But after a few months (6 maybe?) things were running smoothly enough for us to get more than two hours of sleep at a time. Sorry for not sounding more hopeful:(
We put a bed in the babies room for my husband and I to sleep on, took turns tending to them at night (one night for me next night for the husband) so that we weren't completely sleep deprived. It gets better, you just have to get through this tough part. They sound perfect by the way, great weight for twins!!

Congratulations! Any sleeping/feeding/schedule rules don't apply to multiples. My twins finally got on the same scheudle at around 6 months of age once food and regular naps started. At 3, I still have one that naps daily, while the other does not, different wake times, etc. When I was at you stage, I usually woke the second twin to eat if I thought he/she would be up in the next hour. However, I spent maaannnnnny nights up with 3 seperate feedings each with maybe and hour sleep in between. I can tell you that it does get easier.