Tantrums/self Damaging

Believe it or not, try ignoring them. The more attention they get, the more they may act this way.

To expand on the previous responses, your son has become aware that when he hurts himself, you come running and a lot attention is poured out on him. This is manipulative behavior. Once he realizes that he IS only hurting himself and nothing put pain comes as a result, he will quit.

Hi my name is K. and I am a single Mom with a 3yr.old son. He does the same thing. I dont know what this is about. Im having a hard time with this and Im not sure what to do. I do the swat on the butt also and he sometimes laughs at me. What the hell is that. People tell me to start taking things away from him. I dont know what to do. Good luck with your kids. Let me know if you have any good ideas !!!

My son (whose almost 2) was doing the same thing with banging his head on the floor. I'd just ignore him and he got to the point where he doesn't do it anymore cause it never got him anything so try ignoring it when she does it and hopefully she'll just stop doing it.

I agree about ignoring the behaviour. It sounds like they are trying to get attention but in a negative way. Don't respond to it at all. Don't give them what they want. Only respond to positive behaviour.

You should use the technique that I use called extinction. You let them tantrum and do whatever and you leave the room. Ignore the behavior completely. If you feed into it, which you are, it will only make it worse. Leave them in a safe area, like their bedroom and walk away. I know this sounds harsh, but it won't be much longer until they stop. It might take a few tries for them to finally understand that it won't work with you anymore.

You and your husband have to be a united front against it, and trust me, it will be worth it in the end. Just be patient and hang tight. You will get through it.