Talk Me into It

Have you tried stretching? It's amazing the number of people I've known with groin, knee, hip or back pain that was really troubling them for quite some time. Someone showed them how to stretch or they just tried themselves and the pain went away. They were all convinced it was something bad and it was actually very simple.

Have you tried yoga, massage, physio or chiropractic? For the type of pain you describe I would try those first.

Actually, there is a possibility this could be sciatic nerve pain. Go to the doc. Get it checked out. I had this long ago. It started one day in the shower when I turned to reach for soap and thought I pulled a muscle. I was in a great deal of pain a couple of days later. Went to the ER. The doc said I pulled a muscle and gave me a shot for pain. That's it. Nothing else. However, when I was checking out, the nurse told me to talk to my doc about sciatica. I think I might have had an xray done but not sure. Yes there are recommendations but physical therapy helped a LOT. I learned how to deal with it. I was warned it could flare up during pregnancy. But since I learned how to stretch, no problems. There have been a few occasions since that I had a slight pain but I knew what to do. The nerve travels from your lower back and down the leg so can cause knee pain.

My husband is also--well I dealt with my pain when..... Of course he has had major pain due to nerve damage but we learned a heck of a lot about the back and the nerves while he was recovering from surgery and therapy.

The thing about putting it off is that it can possibly cost you more in the long run, financially as well as potential doing damage beyond repair to your body.

You're 33, that's young. You should not be going through that much pain at your age.

A full physical with some bloodwork might help as well as an MRI.

Note: I went 2 years ago on 2 occasions for an MRI on my ankle. I am well insured. However, I was told my portion of the $2600 MRI was $1250. I simply said..." Geesh, what happens if someone has no insurance?" I was told " they pay cash price $450". I immediately said, " I'll pay cash price and forget the insurance". Lesson learned... You never know the "deal" unless you ask!

Do you exercise? Stretching is also important.

I hope you get relief!!

It seems the problems are very specific which would be much easier to diagnose. This is not a "I don't feel good" issue, which could be anything. Given your symptoms, I would think it would be much easier to diagnose. I'm a tightwad myself so I can understand your hesitation however, you must go the distance with this, especially because it's getting worse and interfering with your life. I wish you the best with this journey.

No one should live with pain and "suck it up". Pain is our body's way of telling us something isn't right and needs to be fixed. I went into the doctor earlier this year because I was experiencing horrible pain and vomiting. My left foot felt like I was walking on glass almost all the time, I had searing pain in my left knee and leg. My right wasn't as bad but it wasn't pain free. I was getting burning pain and itching in my lower abdomen as well. I would get heartburn-esk pain that at times felt like I was having a heart attack. In the end I found out I had gallstones that was causing my gallbladder to start getting infected and it was causing bad issues with my liver. When I initially began describing my issues it didn't present as gallstones. It did take testing and a trip to the ER during the worst attack I had ever had to finally figure out what the issue was but I am so glad I went in and found out what the problem was. I had my gallbladder removed and it's been nothing but improvement, albeit slower than I'd like, ever since.
You should not be in pain! There is a cause. Go see your doctor and be open and honest about every single thing, no matter how small you think it is. Spend the money to find out what it is now and have it addressed before it becomes a bigger problem that ends up costing you even more because you let it go too long.

I would NOT put it off.

If your husband is giving you a hard time, tell him to stuff it. Hiding pain is the best way for it to become worse. You might have something very seriously wrong... letting it linger will only cost more in the long run.

I can tell you that I've had very good results with physical therapy and massage from the PT. It hurts, but it loosens up all those muscles which are incorrectly bunched up, etc.

So, yes, it's very likely that getting a process started is the right thing to do. When I went for shoulder, arm, wrist/hand pain, yes, I had to deal with bills from a specialist, but it ruled out concerning (and easy-to-address) issues and got me on the path to a physical therapist. You can always ask your doctor if you can try PT first and then do the more expensive procedures. It's an investment in your long term health. Don't let other people's experiences become your reason for not going, and if your husband really has so little compassion-- maybe tell him to STFU and do the parenting and shopping if he's such a trooper. No patience for that. (eta: Tad, you DID bring up the situation with your husband, we didn't. Please don't tell us what to think about it. You were the one who mentioned his attitude or we wouldn't have commented on it. Glad that he's willing to get some help, though.)

Do you take any OTC cold meds? But if you have allergies and take Claridan or any other for a long period it can cause body aches. Also, what type of car do you drive? Your seat in the car can also be causing your problems.

Have you ever had a massage? If not, I highly recommend it. I have had 2 back surgeries. I'm symptom free for the most part. Any pain I have I can live with. Physical therapy could help as would as an anti-inflammatory. Swimming is great as well. No gravity and just hanging in the middle of the pool on a noodle is SO soothing.

Go see the doctor.

33 is not old!!

Okay...here is my two cents...of alternative options...because I think a doctor will try his best and give you anti-imflamitories (sp), muscle relaxers and or pain medication which might help. My hip was killing me when I walked after giving birth and my OB gave me some prescription anti-inflamitory and after a week it stopped the pain...so they could help.

1. A highly trained professionally licensed massage therapist will cost you about $60 for an hour and work on getting your trigger points open, your muscles that are tight from pain to relax and show you exercises to help with what is going on....or if it is serious send you to an MD for an evaluation. (I found one after a back injury

2. An experienced acupuncturist again licensed in your state will cost you about $60-80 for one session and can work on pain and a cause of it.

For sure go get it looked at...by someone either an MD or someone alternative. But don't struggle in pain at 33...good grief girl...at almost 45, I don't hurt like that and I suffered a major back injury in my 30s...

Good Luck!!

Not being a doctor, but just someone who has experienced different types of pains, it sounds to me as if your pains are related to exertion.....walking way more than usual, bending while gardening. This could be tight muscles. Do you do any systematic exercise? For what you've described, some basic yoga might be beneficial. I think also you might find that what your doctor will prescribe is some sessions of physical therapy.

you might have fibromyalgia.

you won't know until you get checked out. If you want to live in pain? That's your choice.

I'm sorry that 0bama(doesn't)care hasn't helped you afford insurance. That's sad.

I usually go when it starts to affect my quality of life. If I can't do the things I normally do or have to cut back on things that's my motivator. If you are in pain you need to check it out and maybe get some PT which will help work certain joints to help strengthen them. Medication isn't always the first choice a good doctor gives you.

I am usually highly in favor of having a dr check things out.

However, given that this sounds mostly muscle related, have you tried daily stretching?Someone else mentioned sciatica - that's possible. If you sit a lot at work, hip flexor pain is also possible. I had hip flexor pain that I felt on the inside of my right pelvic bone. That influenced how I walked, and then since I was walking a little abnormally, I would get knee pain and other issues.

If you want to try something before going to the dr, I would say to google hip flexor and/or sciatica stretches. Do them without fail, every day, for 1 month. If after 1 month you don't feel any better, then promise yourself that you WILL go to the doctor. If you know you won't be disciplined about it, then don't waste the month, and just go to the doctor.

You are 33. You are only about 1/3 of the way into your life. That is waaaaay too young to simply accept daily pain.

I don't jump over to the doctor's office for every ache and pain by any means, and I do work with food science to strengthen my immune system. That said, I don't think what you're going through has anything to do with being a "wuss" or is something you should just learn to accept. I don't know how you're going to tune out your husband, but I think you have to. At 33, you are not "getting older" to the point that you shouldn't be able to walk through the store or take your child in an inner tube. So set that aside and work on getting well.

Most any medical treatment can be on a payment plan, so just pay your co-payment and pay the rest as you can. I'm not going to diagnose you by any means, but I do think it's very common for someone with injury A to find it either creates other problems in Area B, or you favor it so much that you wind up taking the strain somewhere else. My husband has been going through that a bit (partly because he tried some new exercises with zero instruction about how to protect his body from injury) and he has seen injuries "travel" from shoulder to bicep, and another set from lower back to thigh. Where he did the best was when he went to an osteopath with a sports medicine sub-specialty - he got way more help there than from his primary care physician, who was happy to send a referral. This is someone who understands that we are active people (in our 60s, and regular gym goers plus my husband runs 25 miles a week) and who respects what we do non-medically to keep ourselves in such good condition. This doctor is someone who can provide both medical info and help with things like proper icing and stretching to prevent referred pain from one area of injury to another.

If you go from one to another, you have to insist on a team approach rather than just a passing of your case to a new person.

Good luck! But DO take care of this. No way you should just give in to this. And take a friend with you if you need more support than your husband is providing.

You are way too young to be living in pain, or to be experiencing such pain from simply walking.

Time for a trip to the doctor. You have to spend the money. It might be something simple, but if it's something more serious, you need to get it fixed before it gets worse. http://www.webmd.com/pain-management/tc/groin-problems-an...

You're 33.
You're coming up to a part of your life where you are just going to be going to doctors more than you have in your younger days.
In your 20's? Who needs a doctor?
In you're 30's? You start going more regularly!
In your 40's and 50's - you go even more often!
You're teeth start to go (surprise! root canal!), you're eyes start getting more far sighted (hello reading glasses!), menopause issues (I didn't really go to the doctor any more often than usual for that but some women have a rougher time of it than others).
You're at an age right now where maybe just wearing more supportive shoes might make a big difference in your posture and therefore have an impact on your aches and pains.
Flat shoes with no support won't cut it anymore - and often shoes more than an inch or so high aren't very good for you either.
A little middle age spread (little pot belly) shifts your spine (makes you a little swayed backed) and your stance and gait changes - suddenly sciatica can be an issue.
Some people like chiropractors and swear by them.
Others like taking a yoga class and toning up and stretching some muscles.
After garden work - take some Advil and enjoy a warm Epsom salts bath.

Don't discount the possibility of your aches being a result of a drug interaction/side affect.
I had some horrible aches in my joints in my late 30's - I limped for 10 minutes after standing up from sitting and my hands ached.
It turned out I was having a bad reaction to a statin drug I was taking for my high cholesterol.
I stopped taking it and my pains disappeared.

If you have been in pain awhile - just go see the doctor.
Life's too short and you're too young to be living in pain for another 50 years.

Really, why do you think you'll have the same experience as others? Did they have the same kind of pain in the same places you have pain? I suggest, based on my experience, the doctor will have an idea for what's causing the pain and will likEly refer you to physical therapy. What you describe sounds like it's caused by muscular strain and pinched nerves. Those who have test after test usually have no definitive location of the pain. Their gut hurts, they ache all over. They've not done anything that would cause the.pain. Gardening stretches.muscles. Sciatica, which has similar symptoms, is caused by pinched nerves.

I had increasingly more abdominal pain.before much was known about endometriosis. Over the years I had several tests as the pain changed. Today, endometriosis would be early.on the list of possibilities. As more was known, I had exploritory surgery. Bingo! Increasing and an increase of different symptoms fit with endometriosus. Yes, there were more tests to be sure. There was no known way to treat it. 30 years later, a hysterectomy took away the pain. Medical science has improved. Early on I chose to not have surgery.because I still hoped to have babies. I'm suggesting that if you don't know each woman's circumstance, you don't know if your experience will be the same.

I urge you to make an appointment perhaps with a specialist dealing with this sort of pain. Ie. muscular, or first see your PCP. If they can't make a diagnosis, you can choose to not have further tests. Isn't the possibility that you can be painfree enough to make that first appointment?

I had excrutiating lower back pain. I was sure my doctor was going to send me for X-rays and an MRI and find something seriously wrong. After he examined me, he said he was almost certain it was muscular. I thought there is no way muscles could cause this much pain. He told me to take 2 aleve, two times a day and put me on a muscle relaxer. He also gave me something to coat my stomach so I didn't end up with stomach issues. Within 3 days I was like a new person but it still took over 2 months for me to recover. My point is it could be an easy fix.

Btw...I have a broken bone (tibial sesamoid bone) in my foot. It became symptomatic in July of 2014. I was in serious pain and just walking one step required so much effort. I had another foot issue in 2008 and happened to have an X-ray of my foot from back then. It turns out that I had that broken bone in 2008 and never knew it. I still have that broken bone and it is sore but no one would know it. I try hard not to limp. (At this point I need to have the bone surgically removed but that is another story). My point is that your husband most likely was not in severe pain and he should not compare his pain to your pain any way.

Best of luck and feel better soon!!!

EDIT - you may want to try a swimming pool. That has helped me probably as much as any drugs.

Sounds like me. Possible sciatica.

I don't have any been there done that stories to trade with you. But I will tell you that at 33, you are way too young to feel like this is typical aging related stuff. It isn't. I'm 47, and I do feel things more when I work in the yard, move furniture around, etc. But, at age 33? I had just had our 2nd baby and was fine! I didn't start noticing ANY of those random "what did I do?" moments when I'd wake up sore from moving the sofa the day before, until I was in my early 40s. In fact, I took up running at age 43. Now, the past 4-5 years, I can tell that age is creeping up on me for sure. But at 33?? You shouldn't just accept daily pain or aches/pains that inhibit your normal life style/routine as "normal aging".... It isn't.

Tendonitis. No tests will show up. Google it. Find which muscle is being effected and then work on strengthening it. There are many therapies that can help this area. I also suggest that you see an ortho doc instead of a family doc. Your insurance might need you to get a referral first though.

If you go in with some photos of the muscles that hurt and why you think it's tendonitis and what you'd like to do the primary care physician might be easy to convince.

You could call some ortho docs, get a list from your insurance provider as to who they have a contract with, and ask if they treat the area that you find. Then you'll have all the information ready and on hand.

Check out hip flexor, groin, IT band hip, quad, and hip joint. Check out the videos or pinterest pins on KT Tape. They have very good photos and what stuff is hurting, then tape it to help the pain. I'm researching this right now myself.

Well, without being seen and treated, you have almost a zero percent chance of having the pain stop. It sounds like you need an orthopedic doctor. 33 is too young to have this kind of pain for no apparent reason. It's not normal.

My friend's sister ignored her pains for a long time. Her husband called her a wuss too and he didn't want to pay for medical tests. She's in the final stage of cancer now. By the time someone convinced her, it was too late to treat.

I'm not suggesting you have cancer, but whatever your issue is you risk it becoming harder to treat and less chance of recovering mobility.

My husband and I pay almost $750 per month for insurance and we still have to pay a ton every time we go to the doc. AND...my ex put my kids on an HSA plan and guess who gets to pay THEIR family deducible every time I take the kids in????!!!!!! UGH Ok, rant over.

I totally get it. I have an "undiagnosed" issue that I just deal with. I'm blessed to be able to stay at home so when it gets bad, I just lay down and sleep it off. I'm not a big pill fan so I rarely take anything and so far it's been manageable, although I would like to know *what* it is.

If you don't have life insurance in place, LOCK IT IN before things, especially "undiagnosed" things, gets in your medical records! You may think you can't afford it now, but you for SURE can't afford it if you wait until you are older and then have possible medical issues.

Maybe see a chiropractor before a medical doc. We have ones here that only charge $20 per visit so it isn't a huge cost and may be something simple that a good adjustment will fix. Hope you feel better soon. Good luck!

I experience a lot of the same pain that you are describing. First, I would find a good chiropractor and go! Insurance doesn't usually cover it any way. I go to the local chiro college, where they are income based, and pay $20 a visit. My latest intern, they change every 8 months or so, suggested that I do 'girlie' pushups. Basically its like the snake move in yoga, push up with your hands til our arms are straight, but leave your belly on the floor. Do 20 reps of these, then see if it feels better. If it does, then do more. If it doesn't, well, then do some more anyway. The idea is that it is moving the spinal fluid through the disks in the low back, which make the pain in the leg go away. She also does some massage type stuff with a metal tool that breaks up the muscle knots. You could have lots of different things going on in your back and hips to cause the pains. 33 is not old yet, and shouldn't have any of this pain. The groin pain could be from something out, a pinched nerve, or a combo. After I had my kids my pelvic bones would pop in and out. Its been 5 years since the last one, and I think its been a few months since the last pop. I personally feel that anything skeletal should be dealt with by someone who studies the skeleton and the muscles that support it. If there is something else medically wrong, then the chiro will tell you to see a doctor. Or, do both.

As for your husband belittling you, tell him that you feel YOUR pain, he feels his. He can deal with his how he CHOOSES to, and YOU will deal with YOUR pain in YOUR way. This is something that his counselor should be able to support. You are not negating his methods or feelings, but you are also not discounting his either. And, let me tell you, I get it! It hurts! it is not made up, it is not unreal, and it is something that should be dealt with.

I also recommend 800 mg of ibuprofen 3x a day to let the muscles heal, take down the inflammation, and calm the pain down. Your body can't heal something that is hurting and inflamed all the time. If you go to a doctor, this is the first thing they will tell you to do. (Wanna know how I know?) Good luck! I wouldn't take it anymore if I were you.