Spitting Child

This is preschool right? At my son's school if there is an incedent they are not allowed to identify the child who did the wrong. Although the child would be old enough to tell her mom who it was. The teacher should have definitely told you what your daughter did when you picked her up. At my son's school we get an incident report. I would talk to the director about their policy. What I would do is talk to my daughter about how wrong it is to spit and how there will be consequences if she does it again but I wouldn't punish at this point. She should apologize to the girl too. I do think the mom handled it very wrong as I don't think she should have spoken to your daughter or infront of her. I will say though that I would be upset if my child got spit on, and at five that is too old to continue to behave that way.

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I'm sorry for how that mom treated your daughter. She's 5, they have their phases. The problem could've been dealt with if you had KNOWN about it. I'd look for another daycare. I mean they didn't tell you about it at all. Man, I hope this stuff doesn't happen to me... I would just stare back at that mom and tell her not to talk to my daughter in that rude tone. There's no need for it. I can't stand people that are harsh to young children in defense of their own. You should talk to them about it, yes, but in a respectful way. Anyways, I'd find a new preschool/school that believes in actual communication with the parents.

That mother is over reacting over something that may not have been tasteful but it is a 5 year old and they do things disgusting at times, doesn't make them bad or disgusting, just 5. I would invite some of the kids over one on one with your daughter. Remind your daughter that we treat others the way we want to be treated and if there is a problem to talk it over nicely. Even role playing on how things should be handled rather then spitting. The school probably contacted the other mother because it bodily fluid and could contain diseases but they should have let you know it happened too so you could reinforce the no spitting on people rule at home. First and foremost, make sure you make your daughter realize that while we all make bad decisions at times, we don't lose who we are when we do. She is a kind and sweet girl and a good person, even if some act in a negitive way towards her. Hopefully with the one on one play dates, this will all blow over without causing your daughter years of punishment for one little act.