Sleeping Problems - Arlington,TX

I wouldn't let my boys sleep with me at all unless they were infants and I was nursing them in the middle of the night. Even then most of the time I would end up putting them back in their crib. However it really depends on what you want. If it doesn't bother you or your husband, and you think you can continue as such indefinetly then why change. But I'm horrible if I don't get my sleep, and always thought I would rather have a 12month old cry through the night until he/she is used to the routine (& not remember it in the morning),then a 3/4/5 year old cry through the night not understanding why Mommy won't let he/she sleep w/ her anymore. So it really depends on what your priorities and preferences are. Having watched many nanny 911 shows, as well as some of my relatives having late night rising todlers, I'm glad I've stuck to my guns despite my husband wanting to cave in during the "let the baby cry-it-out" nights. My biggest advice is that if you decide on a routine, stick to your guns, don't cave in, and stick to the routine. Going back & forth is confusing to your child. There are great resources out there on how to get your child to sleep through the night if you do need it.

Good Luck
S.B.

First of all you have to feel good about what you are doing, some mama's might tell you never to put your kids in bed with you or you'll have to do it forever. Well, that might be a little true, however, how do you feel. I let my kids sleep with me. They get to a point where they want to sleep in their own bed. I sleep better knowing they are next to me, not just them sleep better because they are in bed with me. I need my sleep, in some cultures that is very normal to have their kids sleep with them. I even heard that children sleeping with their parents have a lower "SIDS" rate, because when you sleep next to someone, you usually pick up their breathing pattern... Actually there are a lot of other mothers that sleep with their kids, they might not say anything about it, but we are out here...

I'm sure lots of moms will say put her in her bed and let her cry, but I agree with your husband. If everyone is getting sleep and you're fine with the current arrangement, why worry? I do understand your concern. I thought I had to do everything by the book with my first child, but after my second was born, I just do what works best for us no matter what other people think. What's the problem with her napping in your bed? I would just be happy she's napping. Enjoy it while it lasts! Both my children sleep in their own beds-4 years and 19 months, but both have slept with us when they needed to and we never say no. I think that is why they are secure in their own beds because they know we will always be there if the get scared or sick or just feel alone. Do what makes your family happy. I love sleeping with my kids sometimes. Someday when they are out late with their friends and I'm worried, I'll wish their warm little body was curled up beside me!