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Oh my. I wished you had been watching TBN last night with Jesse Duplantis. He spoke on the babies in heaven. I was thinking about ordering his entire series. It would have comforted and blessed you. If you would like go to www.jdm.org then click on store-then US - The series is called Heaven Valu pack. You will be blessed and comforted.

I myself had 2 miscarriage, it was the most painful thing ever, and it got to the point that my husband and I gave up, everyone tells you that once you give up it will happen and guess what it did, I am now the mother of 2 wonderful children my son is about to be 3 and my daughter is 11 weeks... Trust me there is a reason for everything you may not see it right away but you will and when you are ready it will happen and it will be the most wonderful thing that happenes to you.... Keep the faith and put the past in the past....

Good luck

K.

C.: There are no words to lift you up. But there are some words of incourgement that I hope I can give you. Pray for straength remeber that God havent forsake you. We never understand why thing happen Just undersand that you havent loose all hope you can still have you baby and Im sure you want a healthy baby. Go shopping, go to the church involve your self with friend.Keep preparing your self for your next child. You will never forget your first but remeber its a little angel that is in the presence of the Lord. I will keep you in my prayer

I cannot imagine what you and your family must be going through. Even though I dont know you, I am terribly sorry for yoiu loss. And I think that you should consider yourself a mother. You have gone through all the trials and blesssings of a pregnancy and deserve to feel like a mom.
I dont know what to tell you because I havent experienced that type of tragedy. My mother miscarried her first baby and went on to have my brother and myself and I know that she still thinks about it sometimes but I can assure you that her pain didnt last forever and she is a healthy, happy person with healthy, happy children. You will have children one day and yoiu are so young so there is no rush, even though I know how bad you wanted your daughter.
I really try to remember that God does everthing for a reason and maybe that child just wasnt ready for the world or some other circumstance kept it from happening, whatever the reason, try to learn something and have faith that youll have someone come along oneday to bless your life. Maybe another baby with the same spirit as your daughter...it sounds funny but yoiu never know, and it could help you feel better and look foward to the future.
If youd like to talk, feel free to email me at ____@____.com, dont rule out seeking a counseler to help you through this obstacle.

C. I'm so sorry for your lose. I myself had two miscarriages within 6 months of each other(my first was on Sept 11,2005 and my secound was Jan 6, 2006)however I do have a little boy who is 2 1/2 so this would of been by secound child. I know how your feeling and I wish I could say that your pain will ease soon but I still have a hard time dealing with it when it's been awhile now. I thought I was accepting it more but then everything came crashing down again. This is an awful thing to go through and at times I still feel like I'm the only one dealing with it since it seems like everyone around me doesnt even think about. Why does your doctor want you to wait a year? My last miscarriage I had something called a molar pregnancy which abnormal tissue grows and has a chance to grow back into cancer (I know weird huh getting pregnant can cause all this!) so I was told to wait six months to make sure my blood work(the abnormal tissue releases the HcG pregnancy hormone) showed that nothing was growing back. You may want to get another doctors advice because some doctors tell you to wait longer just so that you can heal emotionally. This site ( www.pregnancyweekly.com) Has message boards and one is for woman who have had miscarriages, I loved the support I got on there and it was nice talking to other people who have been in your situation instead of those that try to help and completely say the wrong things to you. If you ever need to talk to someone you can email me at ____@____.com . I'm truly sorry for what has happened and may your little angel be blessed

So sorry for your loss. I am a Homeopath and there are several nautral remedies that help with loss and grief. Google them and read about them...they are wonderful. Ignatia, Causticum, Nat Mur and Carcinosin.

Dear C.

let me just start out by offering my deepest sympathy to you. I had a miscarriage four years ago and I was eleven weeks when it happened. the pregnancy was not planned but that did not make it any easier and we did to have names picked out. We however did not know the sex of the baby. I had two children already at the time. Their ages were 14 and 12 at the time. We just had a baby in June. a healthy baby girl. I had rough pregnancy in which I started to go into labor at the sixth month and I was so fearful that I would lose her. I was so afraid and it brought up all the memories of the miscarriage. You never get over it. You just learn to live with it. It is a very devastating thing. I feel for you and I know what you are going through. The only thing I suggest you do is to get pregnant again and start a family. That is the only remedy to this. I wish you the best. I am not a religious person but you will be in my prayers. God is good and you will get through this. I wish you well.

I too had a miscarriage about 4 months into a pregnancy for my second child. I was devastated. My Dr. advised me that we could start trying again after 3 months. We tried again and immediately got pregnant. The only thing that kept me going was knowing that if the baby would have been born, it may have had more problems that would have made it a difficult life for the child. I prayed alot and know that in the end the baby is in a better place. I tried to read books to get me through the difficult time, but nothing really helped. In my case, time helped to heal the wounds, and still to this day thinking back I still remember and still have pain in my heart, but I know I will one day see her again.

Do not keep the emotions in, it will only cause more pain. When you do again become pregnant, it will be bitter sweet. You will focus on the new pregnancy but in the back of your mind you will still remember. Don't feel guilty for the excitement you will once have again. I had a lot of guilt and missed out on some of my pregnancy that I would have otherwise enjoyed.

Hi C... I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have never experinced a misacarriage myseld but just wanted to let you know if you want to talk about it or if there is anything I can do please let me know . I am a great listener and would love to be there for you .. C.

Your story is very real to me, the same thing happened to my husband and I. It has been four years since we lost our first baby and on that day ever year it seem like the day it happened. I was 5 1/2 months pregnant and had to delivery my little girl and I held her in my hands and that memory will stay with my until the day I die, but I am able to cope with it now and it does get easier to live your life, even though you will never forget what you have been through. I did a lot of praying and asking God to give me the strength to get through each day, day by day. Since that day we know have 2 beatutiful children. I got pregnant with my son four months after I lost my baby girl and I was so scared throughout the pregnancy but he is healhty and strong. Believe me, when the time is right for you to have a baby, you will, and you will make it through all the obsticles if you just trust that God will see you through. Hope this helps and I feel your pain...L.

I am so very sorry about your loss.
Here is a great group of women that have been through the same. They are a great source of support.
http://www.constantchatter.com/forum/showthread.php?t=22000

Let me start by telling you that I am so sorry for your loss. I have so much experience with the loss of a loved one. My first born passed away at fourteen months old. This was almost five years ago. Everyone has to get through these hard times in their own way. I can tell you this, what got me through her death was the fact that she didn't have to suffer anymore. She was born with some medical conditions, and spent a lot of time in the hospital. I beleive that a miscarriage is your body's way of saying something is wrong. I'm sure you would adore your child no matter what he/she comes out with, as I did Kaitlyn, but it can be a long, difficult road. I would do anything to have Kaitlyn back with me again, but it would mean she would have to go through all the trauma that comes with spending so much time in a hospital, and I don't want that. I have learned to have a different relationship with her, and she is still very much a part of my life, and family. I now have two more children, 2 1/2 and almost one, and they already know who Kaitlyn is. My 2 1/2 year old recognizes her in pictures. I pray to her now, and I speak to her everyday. Time does not heal all wounds, but it does give you the oppertunity to learn to deal with things. You have to make the decision to get through this in a way that makes you comfortable. If you are meant to have children, which it sounds like you are, it will happen for you soon. I know very well what it's like to need for something so badly, and I truly hope things work out for you.

Hi C., I'm so sorry for your loss! Here are a few links that may be helpful. Not sure where you are located.

http://www.sidsalliance.org/whenababy/when_gr_ns.html
http://www.floridahospital.com/services/maternity/support...
http://southflorida.babyzone.com/parentresources.asp?prid=47
(for the above link try changing the location to wherever you are)
Try google.com for miscarriage support groups in your area. Also try yahoo.com/groups for online support.
Please take care.

I am so sorry for your loss. That must be so incredibly hard. Probably the best thing would be to wait a while - so that you can heal emotionally and physically. I'm not sure about the "year" wait; I had heard it could be a little sooner.
I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am that this has happened. I will say a prayer that you become a mother again soon.

Hi, C.. First let me say how very sorry I am that you have had to go through this. There are several good websites out there that can be helpful. The one I recommend is Angel Babies Forever Loved - http://www.angels4ever.com Please email me privately if I can help at all... Sending angel hugs ~ T. (mother of 5 - 3 boys that are heaven sent - and 2 in heaven)

Well I have had 2 of them and 3 medical term and 1 twin still birth. The other twin is alive. Honestly it is hard to get over especially if you wanted it badly. What I may suggest that helped me out and it may sound stupid. Get a baby doll, sit in the room that you were going to put your baby and just hold it and say your goodbyes to the babydoll. Tell it everything you wanted to tell your daughter and when you are done, here is where it gets hard. Bury the babydoll in a box in the back yard. I had to do that because I never was able to hold them or tell them good bye. It really worked really well for me. I hope it works for you.

Dear C.:

My name is L. and my husband and I lost a daughter full term 39 weeks - I wish I could tell you everything will be ok and life as you know it will be great, but only you can decide when you are ready to let life be ok. My husband and I did not wait, we lost Emalee Aug 12th 2003 and I was preg. 7 week later and now have a beautiful little girl name Caraline and by our suprise I was preg. again 8 weeks later and also have a little boy. Does a day go by that I do not think of Emalee no, did having my other 2 help yes, but every person is different. I will tell you Lexapro helped me and trust me I am not one to talk scripts, but my Dr. threaten me and said it was in everyones best interests. I also would not condisider yours a miscarriage - you were so far along and to know the sex, and to have felt her move that makes it more, just know it was nothing you did - and again you will know when it is time to have another - your heart will tell you - also stay strong if you can - a loss of a child is very h*** o* a couple - it was very h*** o* us and we had to work through it. You have to go with what is in your heart - and know she is in a better place - I will not lecture or preach to you, I will just say - cry when you need to cry and know it is ok to cry and laugh when you need to laugh and scream when you need to scream - it is all ok to do.

Please keep my name and e-mail if you would like to talk more

I am 34 yrs old with 3 kids a 12 yrs (mine) and a 2 and 1 yr with my husband..

L. R - ____@____.com

I wish there was something that I could say that could make all the pain go away. I just had a miscarriage this year in January. In addition, I also lost my father two months later, and my grandmother a few months before. There are som many emotions that go on at this time, and what I can tell you is that you should let yourself go through each one, and allow yourself to grieve. There is no time limit, and everyone grieves in a different way. My biggest mistake was trying to be strong and act like nothing was wrong. Big mistake.

The thing that helped me the most was a group called Silent Grief. I was able to just "let it all out." I found that there were so many other women going through the same thing, and that I wasn't crazy for feeling the way I do. It's a wonderful site, and I even made some new friends!

The site is www.silentgrief.com

I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are in my heart and prayers.

Hi C. I am so sorry I do understand, I miscarried 2days before Christmas in 2004, we too were so excited to find out about our third child. If you ever want to talk you can e-mail me at ____@____.com, again I am sorry about your loss. Hope to hear from you.

B.

C.,

I am so deeply sorry. I've never had a miscarraige, but I was always afraid I would while carrying my son. I was 24 when I had him too (a year ago) and also wanted children very badly since I started babysitting at 12.

I wish I had some helpful advice, but all I can say is that you are not alone. Your child was just as real as mine is and I would die if I lost him. Please take the time to mourn her as if she had been born alive. Seek grief counseling. I will pray for you and you are in my heart.

Sincerely,

T.

(((((( C. ))))))
First of all , I am terribly sorry for your loss. And I won't even pretend to know just how you feel , and I don't know if * I * can help you , but I do know that God can. Take your pain , your fears , your anger and lay it at His feet ... tell him ALL the details of the way you feel inside ; talk to Him like He is your best friend ... because He is.

As for my personal thoughts , I am often horrified by things I see every day in this world , and it's really easy to let bad things ruin you. I always try to remind myself that God sees FAR ahead where we don't have the ability to. He may see something down the road which would be far worse than what grieves us , as hard as it is for we humans to consider that , I believe it's true.

God is a loving God of restoration. Let Him restore to you what you lost. (( hugs )) I hope you are able to find the comfort you need.
~ A.

Please accept my sincerest condolances. I am sure your little girl was called upon for a greater purpose in this world and she is a beautiful little angel smiling down on her mommy and daddy.