Separation Anxiety for Mom

I think every child goes through a stage of this. YOu might try to do more short few minute things with the three of you, baby , husband, so she sees him as included in the fun time, and also there could be a new person working at the day care she doesn't care for. but I would say it is probably just a stage that will pass.

Most children experience seperation anxiety around 9 or 10 months and then again between the ages of 2 and 3. It's perfectly normal for her to act like that. My husband is wonderful with our daughter and she is the same way around my mom. She is starting to grow out of it now and so will your daughter. Just let him know that it's normal and it's nothing he did

hello my name is L. , and i feel ya on this subject i have a daughter who is 13 years of age and is going through the same thing, i know she was not that little but my daughter started hers late and it has been a bumpie round ever sence i do ask that you see your childs doctor now before it gets worse cause it can belive me.

I worked in childcare for 5yrs and the best thing i know is to keep to the routine and when you drop her off say goodbye and tell her you will be back for her and walk out and don't go back. the kids will stop crying in just a few min. Tell your husband that he did nothing go it is just a stage and before you know it she will be daddy's little girl again. Try not to take her back from you husband when they are leaving or maybe you go and put her in the car and go back and inside try not to stay around and wait for the melt down it will get better with time. Hope this will help you.

This happened to my husband and I when our now 17 year old daughter was 3, we did discover about a week later that she was being mistreated by the daycare teachers. We found a bruise on her arm one afternoon after we had picked her up. We asked her what had happened and she told us that the teacher had grabbed her and threw her to the ground. We asked her how long this had be happening and she told us that she didn't know but for a for a while.(Remember she was only 3) She went on to tell us that they told her that if she told us she would never see her mommy or daddy again. To a 3 year old that has got to be the most terrifying words they could her.Any how you might want to ask her questions and reassure her that she will not be trouble for telling you if something is wrong. Hoe this information helps.
M.

One thing that really helped me to deal with the separation anxiety is that I read somewhere that if children did NOT have separation anxiety then it was a sign there might be developmental problems. Separation anxiety happens when they start recognizing strangers and knowing that some people are family, some are not. These feelings are very confusing and the child just gets anxious - it's not about your husband, it's just that mommy is the one that helps her calm down when she is upset just from the anxiety period. When my twin girls had this problem, I would do just as you have already been advised. Be matter of fact but very reassuring when she is upset - get down to her level, assure her that you acknowledge her feelings (it does not help to tell her there is nothing to be upset about). You acknowledge that she is nervous but assure her that she will have a very good day and you will be back to hug her soon. Then, when you can, give her some extra mommy time. At this time in her life, structure can be very comforting. Try to find some regular time every day to spend a few minutes of special mommy time - does not matter how long it is, just that it is regular and something she can count on. That special time will help to reinforce her and make her stronger. She may be reacting negatively to your husband only because he is the one that usually takes her away from her home. This stage will pass as her mind gets around the whole stranger thing and she will settle down. Different kids take different amounts of time; could be a number of months or it could be a number of weeks. Just remember you are the parents and you know you are doing what's best for her.

My 2.5 year old daughter does the same thing right now. The only difference in our 2 situations is I am a SAHM. It's just a phase that every child goes through and she will eventually get over it. We never had this problem with our daughter until I started staying home. Just be patient with her and assure your husband that he has done nothing wrong, and give your daughter a little extra mommy time when you can to assure her you love her and any time you leave, assure her that you will always come back. :) It will get better, I promise! Hope this helps!

Hi, I would not worry about it to much. I have a 6 year old that went through it and I now have a 2 year old girl that just started doing the same thing. She wants to go where ever I go. Even if daddy is there or not. It is something every kid goes through. It made me feel better when I stood where I could watch my son which now is 6, but could not see me. He usually would quit crying in about a minute or two. My Little girl is the same way she will quit crying in about a minute or two. One day they will not be crying any more but telling you they can go in by themselves. That is just as hard. Don't let your husband think it is him. There was a time when my son only wanted him. I think he was about 3. This upset me then. It is just a stage that your child is going through. I promise it will get better as she gets older. I hope this helps you out a little. Good luck and have a blessed day.

hahaha I feel your pain!! :)
I remember when my 7 year old started doing that when she was two. She would scream and claw at my leg and yell until she was blue in the face and gagging. It was hoooorrible!!
Don't worry. It's just a faze. Just try and remain calm and remind her that you will be coming back. And as far as the "grandma can do it, but daddy can't" haha I don't know why they do that but....they all do. :)
Don't worry, she's normal, you're normal, he's normal. haha
Have a great day.
C.

I hope this is nothing...but just had to mention this. I have a friend with a little girl who is 4 and she started having problems sleeping and was afrad at night and didn't want mom to leave....they found out her uncle was mistreating her. It was serveral months after the fact and she was already doing better when she finaly told. Of course this would be the worse case but worth the mention...if not in your case for someone else reading this.

My son started doing this around 17 months. He was fine with me or my mother (apparently we are pretty much interchangeable, lol), but he would cry when left with Daddy, even if I left the room for a minute. But two months later, it is getting a little better already. It is a stage, and it sounds like most kids go through it. Your hubby did nothing wrong, and it will get better. In fact, my friend who has a kindergartener said that around 3, her son went through a stage where Daddy was king. I hope we have that stage at my house - my husband will be beside himself!