H.J. asks from Peoria, IL on February 14, 2008
Schedule - Peoria, IL
When should I expect my son to get on a schedule? He will be 7 weeks on Sunday. When is it ok to put him in his crib drowsy but not asleep? Right now, I'm starting to try to put him in there when falling asleep, but not completely asleep. Last night after one of his feedings, I put him back to bed without being completely asleep. He fussed for awhile, and cried just a little but eventually fell asleep. I felt bad, but can't take an hour to put him back to sleep after every feeding! Does anyone have any input about sleeping, and schedules?
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I feel good about getting him on a schedule and making him go to sleep on his own. I feel the earlier we establish night time rituals, the better it will be for both of us later on. I'm no longer catering to every cry. I used to jump and get him no matter if he ate just an hour earlier. I'm learning that I may have to listen to him cry. Things were becoming very chaotic, not to mention I felt like I had no control! I had to step back and realize that wait, I'm the parent here! I feel like I can be a better mom to my son if there is some order, and I feel less overwhelmed. Babies do need consistency. Too many moms are made to be horrible mothers if they take charge instead of letting the baby take the lead.
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L.M. answers from Chicago on February 15, 2008
He is ready for a schedule! My sister introduced me to a book called "Baby Wise" and it worked wonderfully with both of my children and both my sister's children. By six weeks, they were on a great schedule and sleeping through the night. The book is easy to follow and gives great tips on what baby's need, scheduling and many other things that really do work. Good luck
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L.M. answers from Chicago on February 15, 2008
He is ready for a schedule! My sister introduced me to a book called "Baby Wise" and it worked wonderfully with both of my children and both my sister's children. By six weeks, they were on a great schedule and sleeping through the night. The book is easy to follow and gives great tips on what baby's need, scheduling and many other things that really do work. Good luck
D.G. answers from Springfield on February 15, 2008
H. - I started right away keeping track of my kids eatings and sleeping habits and found over time they had a schedule and I used that schedule as a guide. I tweaked it alittle and it has been wonderful. My son is 3 and my daughter is 8 months. Also - a great book - On Becoming Baby Wise. They also have On Becoming Toddler Wise, Potty Training Wise, and many more. It talks a lot about the schedule. It is a great resource.
J.E. answers from Chicago on February 15, 2008
Most pediatricians prefer that you put your baby to bed drowsy, but not completely asleep. I don't think I was on a good schedule with my second daughter until she was about ten weeks. Basically, you have do what is best for you and your family. There is no perfect advice. What my two girls have taught me is that every baby is different. If your baby fusses a little, but goes to sleep on his own that is wonderful! Whatever works for you both! I have found that shedules work themselves out with time. I am also not afraid to break them because you can always get back on track. It seems like you are already doing just fine. Good luck!
Jen E.
A. answers from Chicago on February 14, 2008
If he's fussing a bit and then falling asleep.. just go with it.. no better thing than that.. he'll just get used to doing that and soon he'll even stop fussing about it. Don't feel bad. I know its hard but him falling asleep on his own will help you maintain your sanity. Just keep trying it.
Good luck,
A.
J.P. answers from Chicago on February 14, 2008
They will start to show recognizable schedules between 3/4 months. You will start to see a pattern and you can go with it. When you start seeing the pattern you will also need to watch for signs of tiredness, which can be different for each child. Also, unless you choose to let your baby cry it out, most kids will need assistance going to sleep. This could mean nursing, walking, rocking, singing, etc. Sometimes this can take a while. He is too young at this age to cry it out and doctors will not recommend that method until they are older. At this age it is okay to let them sleep in a sling, bouncy seat, swing, etc. But again over the next few months you will see your baby's schedule emerging.
T.S. answers from Peoria on March 08, 2008
i was told when my son was born to never turn the lights on during a feeding in the night. use a flashlight when they wake up in the night or use dims lights when feeding. then in the morning when it's time to get up always turn the light on. that teaches them day from night. then they go right back to sleep after feedings. it worked like a charm for me. also docotrs completely disagree, but i always mixed cereal with his formula after i went back to work because then he would sleep ALL NIGHT and we could both get some rest. if their bellies are full they sleep veery well!
T.P. answers from Chicago on February 14, 2008
Hi H.!
Congrats on your newborn!! What an exciting (and exhausting) time!!
My little guy started sleeping in his crib with a regular bedtime and schedule when he was about 10 weeks old. I wanted to co-sleep so he was sleeping with me before that but I just did not enjoy it as much as I thought I would. You will be amazed at how quickly he will adapt to whatever schedule you set for him - as long as you listen to the clues his body language is telling you.
At 7 weeks I think he is a little young for the "cry it out" method, but if he just fusses and cries for a few minutes when you put him down, that will subside very quickly. It sounds like he understands that the crib is his sleep place which is great! My boy was soooooo much happier once he got into a nap and bedtime schedule (and so were we!!). I think he really likes knowing what to expect from the day. I would also say that swaddling works wonders for calming a baby after a feeding - we still wrap our son a little and he is 5 months old!
Best of luck to you!!
T.
N.M. answers from Chicago on February 14, 2008
Good for you! I've been told babies can't get themselves to sleep until they are four months old. That's when you can start actively putting your baby on a schedule, too. My baby put herself on her own schedule starting around 6 or 7 weeks so things might start getting a little more regular for you soon. My baby is 11 weeks old now and is getting pretty predictable. The big wild card is during the night. She'll usually give me at least one longer stretch. Whether it is six hours or eight, I never know, but at least it is enough that I'm starting to feel human again.
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