Say Your Child Has a Birthday Party ...

I don't know how old the child is that you are talking about.

But for myself/my kids and all of my friends, we STILL write thank-you cards to the gift giver. Even if we verbally said it at the party.
If my child is old enough to write a card, then they do it.
If not, I write it and then they sign it.

I have alsways followed up with a handwritten note sent via US Mail.

That is just me and the way I've taught my daughter.

These days, one is lucky to get an acknowledgement of anykind or an RSVP. I try to err on the proper etiquette side.

I have always had my kids send a written thank-you. I figure the gift giver took the time and money to find a gift, so the least we could do would be to take a little time to send a thank-you. (This is not for family members, but for invited guests at a birthday party.)

My girls are still on the young side, but we always write thank-yous. I had some made at Walmart with a picture of our daughter at her party for only $.28 each.

I wasn't raised to give thank yous, so I am making sure I teach my kids to do it. I think it teaches great manners, and is appreciated by the gift giver.

We do both for each and every gift. It isn't hard. Sometimes a simple "thank you for coming to my party" written out suffices. We want our child to know gratitude isn't just that moment when you see something for the first time.

So sad to see someone slam writing thank you notes. Knowing that, I'd be hesitant to send my child to that bday party in the future.

I do thank you notes. I keep track of everything given, and my kids say thank you verbally OF COURSE, but we also send the notes. It's only once a year (who'm I kidding, I write thank you notes for three kids for every birthday and holiday so it does seem like all year long ugggh) but I just can't abide not doing it.

Also, every birthday party my oldest has been to, she has received a thank you note.

My kids do write thank you notes. Even if the presents are opened at the party. We write and thank them for coming to the party as well as for the gift. I think it's rude not to.

You can never say thank you enough.

Yes, write a thank you note.

@ Nikki G., that might be OK if your child is young and your parties are just family or if in your circle of friends you all agree to that, but you will get to a point where people will interpret no thank you note as being rude and ungrateful. Yes, tracking what people give is expected. Everyone else manages to do it and you can too. If you'd rather be "in the moment" then ask someone else to help write things down as they get opened.

only for gramma, great aunts, people that deserve a higher level of respect and adoration.

We always do thank you notes. Always. I want my guests to know that we appreciated the gift, but we appreciated their presence even more.

When they were younger I wrote them and they colored them. Then as they got older I wrote them and they told we what to say and they signed them. Last year, my son was just getting to where he was writing sentences well. So he wrote a form letter of sorts and I copied it for everyone, he signed each one. This year, he will be stuck writing each one on his own.

And I don't judge anyone or get upset when we don't get thank you cards, I realize that people just busy or don't out much importance on it. But I have to admit, I notice.

I'm not sure what the actual etiquette is, but I always have my kids write thank you notes, no matter what.

I definitely send a thank you note, but that's MY etiquette. I think for a children's party, a verbal thank you is generally acceptable.

We generally do not do thank you notes. Every gift is acknowledged in person. If the gift is received when the giver is not present, then my children telephone them to thank them. If the giver is present, then my children thank them then and there. I have taught them to always make an appreciative remark such as, 'thank you for my beautiful new toy car, I love how fast it goes!'. I actually think they do a pretty good job of acknowledging a gift this way. I have also witnessed other children receiving gifts without a sideways glance at the giver, and it makes me wince.

We don't do Thank-You notes. I don't see a point. I'd have to literally spend all my time writing down who gave what instead of taking pictures or bonding with my child during her special day. However, my daughters know to thank people well when they are given something. I went to my niece's birthday party and was disgusted to watch her open her gifts, and fling each present to the side and move on to the next without ever uttering a single 'thank you' to anybody. Then when she was done she said 'is that ALL?' and crossed her arms like she was mad. Ok, if that was my kid, she'd have hell to pay when we got home! lol!

I'll stick with Emily post. My daughter has had many a party at our house and always says thank you to that person at the time of opening. To me that is sincerely enough. I don't expect to get thank you cards when my daughter attends parties. I'll be the outcast on this question lol a present shipped to us, I will have her personally call. I just don't see the need in cards Except for weddings and baby showers.

Ideally, in a dream world, yes, I would. But, since I didn't even get all the invitations out to my son's party (It was on Saturday) I don't see how to do thank yous....I'll let you know when I finish his birth announcements. He just turned 1. LOL

I usually have my daughter send thank you cards to her friends. However, we don't usually send thank you cards to family members who we have thanked in person (this is pretty much the policy for all my siblings, aunts etc). I think it is a good idea for kids to get into the habit of writing thank you cards.

I would still have my child write a note. I think it's a good thing to teach them when they are young.

If she has opened them in front of everyone and thanked them I would not think it should be nessasary. I have never had my kids do them. I tell them to go to each person and tell them thank you and if its family or an adult they are close to to give them hugs. I don't make them hug someone they are not comfortable hugging. I know my son texted eveyone after his party and thanked them.

we only do thank you cards for people who aren't present at the time of the gift opening.

Nope, the only time I ever did thank you notes was for my wedding gifts. Other than that I have never written one and do not expect to every receive one.