Uh.....OY. I just became good friends with a Mom over the summer. Prior to this I had kind of been "lying low" as the result of 2 psycho friends many years ago. Honestly, I am just so happy to have many friends -- but none that are too, too close. I like my space and my "me" time. Really. But this Mom that I recently friended is not acting like the same one from the summer. Now that school has resumed it is like she has gone into over-drive at the school and driving everyone crazy! I am almost embarrassed to been seen with her. She has issues with everyone. Swears and bad things have been coming out of her mouth and it really makes me uncomfortable. I understand that she is a caring and passionate person but sometimes when the majority doesn't agree with you about something -- then you have to let it go!!! She also talks a lot. At first it was ok...but now I am getting bored. I cannot get in a word. Waaaa!!! Not only does she complain quite a bit but she thinks that there is a conspiracy against her at school.....which I don't think is true!! What do you do with someone like this? What are your psycho friend experiences? It doesn't help that my daughter and her daughter are good friends now...
I don't keep psycho friends.
I carefully gauge, my interactions.
And being the age my daughter is now (she's 8) and even when she was younger, I would e.x.p.l.a.i.n to her... about my reasoning per friends and choosing friends... and per their parents etc.
So she now, is also "wise" about discerning friends, too.
No psycho friends, does a psycho ex count?
keep a friendly distance...
She is not your friend. Sorry, but she isn't. She may think she is, but no. She sounds like she is having some major emotional issues that need treatment, but you can't provide that, your daughter doesn't need to be around it and although it's hard to get out of a relationship like this, do it. Get out now. You have been friends for a short time. There is no reason to hang in there. Your daughter can make other friends, slowly but surely remove this toxic relationship out of both of your lives.
Does a psycho stepdaughter count? She is truly a psycho in the full sense of the word. We have absolutely no contact with her whatsoever. We have to do this in order to protect ourselves. It's sad but that's the truth. I could tell you all the things that she has done that has brought us to this conclusion but you wouldn't believe me. It's that outlandish.
If you find a friendship taxing on you, find that it's tiring, more work than it's worth, it's time to move away. I would definitely start distancing yourself from her. You need to surround yourself with positive happy people and those that won't smother you. Life is too short to deal with the drama. Good luck!
All my friends are pretty psycho in one way or another. They'd be there for me in a heart beat tho. I love them but wouldnt want to live with them unless I had to. All people seem normal until you get to know them ;)
You should definitely voice your opinion about the conspiracy theory NOT being true, and then maybe try to gracefully chime in about her swearing, etc. Maybe tell her its not a good idea to portray herself in that manner if she wants "results" and to be taken seriously in whatever she is so passionate about.
Then, I would start to do less and less with her, but still keep get togethers ( for the kids ) and maybe if you can figure out the right amount of time to spend with her and not be annoyed, you will be happy in the friendship again.
As far as the majority not agreeing with her and to let it go, I think thats a comfort zone that you have, and it doesnt concern her. If she doesnt care what the majority thinks, thats something you either respect, or you dont agree with and thats that. If you dont agree with how passionate she is about whatever "cause" that the majority isnt in agreement with, then maybe it is best for you to part ways with the exception of playdates. You cant ask someone to change their mind just because you dont agree with it.
Sounds like she is one of those moms who cons the Dr. into thinking "her child" has ADHD and then taking the medication so she can be in hyperactive/overdrive mode....side effects are mood swings, ranting about nothing worth ranting about, delusions, and basically being pscycho!! Step back and walk away very slowly.....lol.... I would explain to your daughter that you are known by the company you keep, and cut ties in a polite "Im soo busy" manner.
Extract yourself from the friendship slowly and painlessly. She will find someone else's ear to bend soon enough. :-) I have had toxic friends like this and they can still be in your lives, but at a distance - so much better! :-) Also best not to tell her to get lost when she is at your school and your daughters are friends. No need to make your life anymore difficult than it is!
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