Preschool - Dallas,TX

Texas law is Texas law. Are you over reacting yes. You had the report, you read it. You know what happened. If it was another preschool in Texas it would have been handled the same way. Every time she gets a bump you will pull her out??? You will be very busy. Kids get bumps and bruises while you are standing right in front of them. It's called being a kid. Let it go.

I think you are overreacting. I get those reports when incidents happen, also. I basically just ask my child (4) if she's ok. She says yes (most of the time she has forgotten about it by the time I get there), and that's that. Kids are going to get bumps and bruises. It will happen under your watch, too. Try to relax.

Yes. You are way over responding. Do you really want them in the toilet stall with your child? What if a child said the adult in their stall wasn't nice? Would you be overreacting to a teacher perhaps doing the same thing as you want this teacher to do?

The law is the law. For goodness sake, this teacher took excellent care of your child. They immediately noticed a bump, put ice on it, and wrote you an incident report.

Seriously, what else do you want her to do? Hold your child's hand while she pees?

Well I guess you can pull your daughter out.
I suppose she has never in her life fell down, got bumped or scratched or bruised?
Is she encased in bubble wrap?
Really, if you send your child to preschool READ the school's policies re injuries and incidents BEFORE you sign it. Then you will either agree or not up front and you won't ever have to deal with this again.

Sorry, but yes. I think you're overreacting. Really, I agree with every single thing Diane said.

And, another important thing to remember is that small bumps, scrapes, and bruises are a natural, inevitable, truly beneficial part of the preschool years. This is a wonderful, magical developmental period when children learn that they're resilient, that they can bounce back. That's how you get from a 2-year-old who has a meltdown because her food *might* be spicy, to a 9-year-old who takes a tumble while playing soccer, laughs, brushes herself off, and gets back into game. The way children make that journey is that get small bumps and boo-boos, someone gives some ice and or a band-aid, and lo and behold, they're fine. They live another day. After a year or two of that, you get a resilient, confident kid. But if YOU overreact to a small bump, then your daughter will overreact like you wouldn't believe. And she'll miss this vital, essential developmental stage.

I'm not sure I understand what "pop off her head" means. But it sounds like your child got a bump, the teacher applied ice immediately, and you got an incident report. This is so routine. If I understand you, the child fell but didn't cry, so obviously it wasn't a big deal. The teacher did see the bump later on and responded. The safety of all the kids IS her concern - she wrote a report and put ice on the child - and while she was doing that, she wasn't watching 7 other kids, right? So you have to have realistic expectations.

The ratio is 1:8. When my son was 3, the ratio here at home was 1:1. He fell, got bumps and bruises, cut himself, and routinely told me he didn't know what happened. Stuff happens. Our bodies are supremely well designed to heal up from bruises, cuts, and bumps. My son always had bruises from ankle to knee from clunking against the steps or running around - the pediatrician always called them "having fun" bruises. So if I couldn't prevent every bump when he was home with me, without chaining him to a chair, how in the world could he function in the world without an injury?

If you want to pull your child out, go ahead. But where are you going to find an environment that doesn't allow the possibility of any injury? How will your put the child in larger classes at age 5? How will your child go through life with zero experiences - will she never ride a bike, play a sport, go on a nature walk, learn to swim, go to the theater because there are flights of steps, play on a playground, carve a pumpkin, ride in a car? It is just not possible to be so hyper vigilant throughout our children's lives that no injury will ever occur.

Personally, I'd be thrilled that the teacher noticed a bump that the child didn't complain about, that you got a written report (so it's documented, which a conversation with you is not), that you have a 1:8 ratio, and that the teachers are interacting with all the children during dismissal instead of talking to each individual parent about every single bump that might have occurred.

When my son was in 3-year old class, there was 11 students and 1 teacher. The bathroom was a small room in the corner adjoined to another classroom. It is a basic expectation that a 3-year old be able to go potty by themselves, and our teachers were never expected to wipe but did help them get re-dressed. The bathroom door was always open, but there is no way that the teacher should be expected to watch the one kid in the bathroom 100% of the time. I do not like how your teacher does not verbally communicate incidents that warranted a write-up. My son occasionally had scrapes and scratches from the playground but was no big deal.

My sister watched my kids full-time until they went to part-time pre-k, and then the youngest went to a full-time in-home daycare just after he turned 3. I will never forget the first time he came home from daycare with a bruise and the sitter felt HORRIBLE. She said she struggled with how to tell me because she hated that my kid got hurt on her watch. I think I saw the weight of a house lift from her when I told her I'd be more worried if he came home without a bruise ever. He's a kid, he does things he shouldn't, he can be clumsy and fall, he will run too fast and trip, etc. Kids are kids. They get bumps, bruises, scrapes, etc. 99% of the time these are accidents.

I always had sitters tell me what happened, but when my kids went to school and there were more kids around, I would get just a small report on a peice of paper home, letting me know what happened.

So yes, you wanting to pull her out is over-reacting.

really?
your 3 year old fell, got a bump on the head that was handled promptly and efficiently, and you're having a cow because the teacher wasn't there to prevent it? prevent a toddler from getting a bump?
do YOU manage to prevent every bump and bruise?
i hope you do pull her out. the school doesn't need this aggravation.
khairete
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The teacher is not required to personally have a chat with you if your child falls and gets hurt. They are required to file an incident report and give you a copy. That's what she did. You are overreacting. She may not feel comfortable talking to you, she may feel intimidated by you, or she may be just too busy doing her job that she doesn't have time to pull aside each and every parent whose child fell and got a bruise that day. I'm guessing the latter.

I think you are overreacting. But If you don't trust them, whether your reason is valid or not, find a new place.

Really? You are kidding I hope.

Has your child never gotten a bump or bruise in your care?
What are your expectations? NO, a teacher cannot escort your child to the bathroom stall and watch her 100% and leave the other 7 kids in the classroom.

If you are unhappy with the school, then pull her out but keep in mind, you have a child, and that child will get bumps and bruises along the way with you and without you around.

I guess if you can't handle that, just put your kid in bubble wrap. YES, you are overreacting.

My son gets bumps and bruises and when we are together, that is a 1:1 ratio. However, I am a bit concerned about this law. Does this mean that 3 year olds are expected to wipe themselves? What about 3s that aren't potty trained? Are caregivers no longer allowed to change diapers? I wouldn't pull my kid out. But I would want some more details. Most potty trained three year olds (mine was trained at two so some idea here) are NOT very good at wiping until they are quite a bit older and many still need help getting fully dressed.

Ask yourself. When your child has been with you, has she ever fallen down? Has she ever bumped her head, had a scratch somewhere and did not remember how it happened?

Your daughter is at an age that she is exploring her world and her body is growing so fast that last week she could walk under a table and this week her head can bump it on the edge of the table for the first time. She may cry, she may not and the next thing you know there is a giant bump up there.

Our daughter was very active as a toddler and always had a bump, a bruise, a scratch somewhere on her body. I did not always know what had happened and many times, she did not say a word about it.

The preschool handled this just fine. As a mom we carry a lot of guilt and worries when we cannot be with our children at all times. You chose this preschool. They are doing their job. Your daughter is must be doing something right. A child that never has bumps, bruises, scrapes? They are not getting enough exploration time.

I know it is hard to leave her in the care of others, but we cannot expect to protect our children 100% even when they are in our care. Your child is gaining experiences in her school. New friends, new rules, new activities. This is a positive time in her life.

Preschools and daycares fall under different categories and different rules/laws. There really are laws about what preschool teachers can and cannot do when it comes to supervising restrooms and taking care of kids who've had an accident. This is why many preschools require kids to be potty trained. Preschools often have a different teacher to child ratio and just many other requirements.

I know it's really hard to see your baby get hurt. It would never occur to me that my child would get hurt using the restroom. I'm not sure the preschool teacher would be concerned about checking on her at all ... unless she was taking a longer time than usual.

I know it's hard to read these responses, but the truth is, kids get hurt. They are not as coordinated as adults, the play hard, they are still learning how to do so many things ... and they tend to get bumps and bruises.

It's just part of being a kid.