We have been potty training our daughter for about three months now. At first she seemed to get that when she was on the potty, she needed to pee or poo. We went a week without any accidents (which surprised us.) And then after that, some days were good and others were not as good. Then my sister had her son and suddenly my daughter didn't want to use the potty any more. My daughter is around my nephew 3-4 days per week, so I know that this may the cause. Now she doesn't let us know if she needs changed or that she even has to go, but if I let her run around naked, she will sit on the potty and go. This is an OK method, but whenever her clothes are on, she just goes in her trainers without telling us she has to go. If we try to put her on the potty she will scream and force her body to go rigid. I don't want this to be a stressful process so I guess what I need to know is how did most of you go about training your children?
Thanks for all the advice. Right now we are just going back to the beginning, not forcing it. She has been successful a few times over the weekend, but has had accidents too. I've noticed that she says "I pee" sometimes just before or just after she goes, so that is a start and something we need to pay attention too. We figure she will get it eventually with our positive support. Again Thanks!
Stop using pull ups or trainers for a bit. Let her go pick out her "big girl" underwear. It worked for my daughter. She hated being wet. We did keep her in pull ups at night for a little while. She did have a couple accidents the first week, but she figured it out. Good luck to you. I know it's not easy.
We did the naked thing for one weekend and that was all it took for my daughter. She is in pull-ups at night and sometimes at naptime, but other than that, she is completely trained. She was a few months older than your daughter, though. She started going on the toilet occassionally long before we officially trained her, but she wasn't in a room at daycare that had the "proper" toilets that the kids could use until she was 2 1/2, so we didn't push until then and it was a piece of cake for us. We did notice that skirts/dresses helped the first week after the naked weekend, though. She had some problems with pants or shorts b/c I guess the felt too much like a pull up. After that first week, though, there have been no problems since. Good luck!
My daughter goes to daycare so I am very thankful they helped me with potty training. We started working with her when she was 2. Some days were better then others. However, we went out of town over the summer with my family and my 3 year old neice was there (who was potty trained). All the sudden, she got it! It just clicked with her. When the time is right for your daughter, she will know. It will click with her too. My princess will be turning 3 in a few days and we are completly diaper/ pull-up free. Even at night. It will happen when when the time is right for your princess.
Well, it sounds like you were making good progress but kids that young are easily yanked out of progress on this one. Honestly, I would maybe ease up a bit on trying to train -- just friendly reminders and positive affirmations when the behavior you like is there. But, no stress. I know it would be AWESOME to have a potty trained kid but I wouldn't worry until closer to three.
Maybe have a date set like third birthday and say, "You get this thing on this date but it's only for big girls so you only get it if you're potty trained." I did that with mine. She first went in the potty at 15 months but, of course, wasn't even close to actually trained until mid-twos. I told her, "you can't go to preschool unless you're completely potty trained by the time you're three" and she was.
Hi M.,
During my experience as a nanny and the one to start the pro-
cess of potty training even with my own. Let her choose her
favorite character panties(Dora, Princess, Cinderella etc.) explain to her the character is happy she chose her, but if she wet that particular one it will make her sad,so to keep
her happy keep the panties dry.(sometimes you have to impli-
ment a little role playing) This has worked for me for over
18 years and fully patty trained within two weeks.
Best of Luck !
When my second daughter was born, my oldest daughter was 19 months old. She had been potty trained already for at least two months by the time of her sister's birth. After bringing home the baby, however, she would pull her pants DOWN whenever I fed the baby, and poo right there on the spot in front of me! It was pretty obvious what it was all about. I think the same thing is what is happening with your daughter. It is sibling rivalry at its earliest stages. The way i handled it was by paying her more attention whenever baby was awake, and also having her have more playtime with children who were completely potty trained. I did not push it on her, did not scold her, etc., praised her highly whenever she went potty, and within a month, she was back to being completely trained. A friend of mine said her older daughter did things like dumping baby powder all over the new baby, pulling its hair, etc., so I figure expressing themselves by reverting back to being a "baby" beat those methods of expression at least! Right now, your daughter is expressing her desire to be the center of attention (a normal desire for a two year old), and her displeasure at having been displaced in your sister's life by this new baby. She will get over it once she understands that her place in this world has not been displaced by this baby and when she figures it all out, which she will, she will be fine.
