I have boy/girl twins that just turned 3yrs old. My daughter has been fully potty trained since she was a little over 2yrs old. She started herself. I know kids develope differently and boys at slower rates. My son has a lot of medical issues and I am ok that he was slower. He is epileptic and has been a guinea pig with finding the right medicine. Still working on this. He also has eosiniophilic esophagitis. He is allergic to a lot of foods and is very limited to what he can eat. This disease also effects his sleeping at night. He gets up several times at night because he is still allergic to something. We are trying to figure out the last food item. He has been peeing on the potty for a few months but pooping was an issue. We just got him to finally start pooping this week. He wears underpants all day and pullups at night time only. Here is my issue. I have them both signed up for preschool which starts next week. He will start the preschool but if he has a few accidents he will not be able to attend which means he will have to go back to a daycare setting with two year olds. My concern for him is I don't want him to be left behind without his sister and he does need the structure. I had him in early intervention working with him and he was dropped by age two because he is where he should be developementally and partly because I have him in a structured enviromentment and forced his brain to compensate for the damage done to the left side of his brain. In the past week and a half he keeps having accident after accident. He just keeps peeing his pants and says its ok or he doesn't have to go potty. He never tells me he has to potty. , I have to take him every 45 minutes or so. They won't be doing that at the preschool. They have scheduled times to go. They also can go whenever in the meantime but have to tell the teacher that they have to go. How do I get him to tell me he has to go? How do I get him to saty dry at night? Has the anyone tried the 3 day potty training web book and has it worked? Any advice would help.
Have you considered a different school? 3 is young for a boy to be fully potty trained. Most day cares have "pre-school" classes for 3 year olds, "pre-K" for 4 year olds, etc. I'd suggest you find a place like that to send the kids to so they can be together in a less stressful environment! (Day care pre-schools are used to all stages of potty training and do NOT expect 3 year olds to have completed the process!)
HI I thought i had written you a private message but maybe it dissapeared. I'll try again.
But briefly, i really think the preschool will work with you on this to find a solution that isn't too burdensome to the teacher or stressful for your son. If they are totally serious about moving him back to the next level then tell them you will find somewhere else for both of your children.
Is the medicine he is on causing some sort of side effect?? Could the Dr talk to the preschool about allowing him to wear pull ups?? Could you get the School aged version of Early Intervention in to evalute him again in this new setting??
I think it's to early for night time training, if the rest of this is all going on right now.
I hope this all works out for you,
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How many hours per day is the preschool? My son was in a half day program, and although he was potty trained I could bet that he NEVER used the potty there as it wasn't that long (2-3 hours). Look elsewhere. My pre-school had us bring in "emergency outfits" just in case O. of the kids needed a change of clothes so they almost expected some accidents even though they said they had to be "3 and potty trained."
I have heard that keeping the child naked from the waist down for a few days and taking the potty EVERYWHERE you go helps speed things up. Good luck!
Many young boys go through this between the ages of 6-8. My little brother went through it...he would have dreams that he was in the bathroom, not realizing he was still in bed. Talk to your child's pediatrician to be sure, so you can rule out any other health problems. My mom bought a rubber sheet (30 years ago) for my brother and we dealt with it. Good luck.
Hi. I have twin sons who are now 5 and I had major potting training issues with one, but it was not compounded with all the other issues you have. When it came time to start preschool at 3, he was pee trained at home, but not poop. I sent him anyway. He really caught on quickly with the other kids around him and never had an accident. He always just held his bowel movements until he was home. He's very private and won't go with anyone around, even at home, he must close the door and be by himself. I'd just give the preschool a try and see what happens, being in the structure with all the other kids might get him in a better groove. The watch sounds like a good idea, too.
As far as night time goes, keep him in a diaper, the body is just not ready for this, you can ask your doctor, sometimes it can take years and it is NO fault of the child. Good luck.
I have a 4 1/2 year old daughter with PDD and she has been potty trained for only 2 months. I took a potty training class and they did say that boys train slower. I know it is frustrating. It took me 2 1/2 years on and off to get my daughter trained. With her disorder, she has a sensory issue and simply did not understand the "I got to go" feeling and did not care if she was wet or soiled. Try the potty watch. You can only find them on the internet, One Step Ahead carries them. They are $10-12 depending on the website. You may want to buy a few because they are not waterproof. But, he can wear it at school and when the watch goes off, he knows he has to go. My daugther wore the watch for about 2 months and then suddenly, out of the blue, the words "I have to go pottty," came out of her mouth, and it was the happiest day of my life. I know you feel the pressure for him to be accident free to go to school. But I am sure I don't have to tell you, you cannot make him go, it just takes time. Also remember that it's not your accomplishment, it's his. Tell him "you must be so proud" when he goes. I have no advise for nighttime, I am still working on that too :) ! Have a good day and good luck!
my boys are close in age and i went through something similar with camp and i just didn't send them as soon as i wanted and found a place that accepted 3 year olds who still had accidents. they actually made him wear diapers as they didn't want to "clean" up pee-pee (i didn't blame them) but with in 6 months he was perfect no accidents and no added stress for me or him and they went to camp the following year. there are day cares that have preschools for 3 year olds. Both my boys did 3 year old preschool in a day care, my oldest did 4 there too and he excelled in KG and 1st grade. my 2nd did go to a "school" for pre-K 4 and starts KG in the fall. Good luck to you i know these decisions on top of working are so hard! i feel your pain!! i fret over this all the time!
Hi!
I don't have any hands on potty training experience myself since my daughter is only 18 mos old and not ready yet, but my best friend used the 3-day potty training web book and she LOVED it. She raves and raves about it. When my daughter was only 6 mos old, she sent me a copy and told me that this is the only way to successfully potty train. So I'm patiently waiting for the day when I get to use it! (She has a 5 yr old and 3 yr old)
Good luck!!!!!
~A.
I had tried the 3 day potty training web book and was somewhat successful with it. I had my son completely trained as far peeing in the potty in a weekend, however the pooping didn't happen for another 6-8 months. The one thing that is important with that program is that you need to devote one whole weekend consantly at your son's side. Basically as soon as you see him going to pee or starting you need to put him on the potty. I say it is worth a try. As far as daycare, he would hold it (pooping) until he got home. So his teachers all thought he was potty trained. Good luck!
