Possible Miscarriage? - North Richland Hills,TX

Someone close to me just went through this and the sac was there but behind where it should be in development, no baby or heartbeat and she did miscarry. It was hard and took time because there also was no bleeding at that point. Then her doctor didn't do a D&C and it took her a long time of bleeding. I think she needed to have one done. I hope you will be prepared just in case and I'm sorry if it is a miscarriage. It's always a loss no matter how far along you are when you experience that.

I just went through the same thing, and I'm sorry to say it didn't turn out well for me.

I got pregnant unexpectedly in Nov with what would have been our 4th. I also had a very faint line on the hpt (two days late). With my others, I would have an instant positive even 3 days early. When I went in for my 8 week check up, the baby was hard to find on u/s. She eventually saw a tiny flicker and told me it was measuring at 6 weeks. It also had low heart tones. I knew my dates weren't off by two weeks so began preparing myself for the worst. I had a repeat u/s a week later and it showed no growth. We could see the heart beating very slowly, but she couldn't pick up the rate so I knew it was over. I was told to go back in another week, but I started bleeding 3 days later. I went back and the u/s showed the heartbeat was gone. I had a D&C two days after that.

It's been difficult, especially since it happened during the holiday season. I have had no Christmas spirit at all. This is my first experience with pregnancy loss. The whole thing actually seems like a dream. I wasn't expecting to get pregnant and it was for such a short time that it almost doesn't seem real. It's even harder knowing that it was likely my last pregnancy and it didn't result in a baby.

My advice is to hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. When miscarriage happens it's likely because there was something wrong. Know that God has a plan and a reason for everything.

Only your doctor can help you answer this of course, but I can share my experiences. I've had three early miscarriages and with two of them, I had faint lines on the test like you saw. The first was a "blighted ovum" which showed up clearly positive on the test, but bleeding started at about 6 weeks and the US showed an empty sac. The second, showed a fainter line, and the US showed 6.5 weeks of development (with a heartbeat) when knew I was at 9 weeks. The bleeding started about 2 weeks later (the day after Christmas). The third, faint line test, I had what seemed like a normal period three days after taking the test. The fourth was a textbook pregnancy and is now a happy, healthy 10 year-old!

Anything is possible, of course, but at 9 weeks an US would normally show a clear embryo with an expected measurement and a heartbeat. If it were me, I'd start preparing my kids, gently, for what might not be the outcome they were hoping for.

I've never miscarried, however I did have one daughter born still. Both of my pregnancies after her were considered "high risk" they would often tell me things that would raise red flags in my mind and I would STRESS out.
I left work in tears because of a little blood spot-etc.
Spend as much time as possible enjoying your current blessings right now. Don't stress out.
You're a mom with a 8,6, and 2 year old-you can handle anything!

Well, it could always be that your dates are totally off and you you are just not as far as you thought you were.

However if you are actually 9 weeks and there is only a sac - it's not looking good.

I think you should gently prepare your kids for the possibility that this pregnancy may not be after all. You know your girls best - you could go as far as telling them that you thought you were pregnant but when the doctor checked there wasn't a baby after all (not too far from the truth).

I hope it turns out that you just had your dates wrong.
Good luck!

I could tell you about the experiences of friends and family, but they're not you and your situation. I don't want to raise or crush your hopes either way. I just want to tell you to take gentle care of yourself.

Praying for you and your pregnancy. Not bleeding is a good sign! Can you go have some bloodwork done to find out your numbers/levels to see if they've dropped or increased? The result from that will be your answer.

Hugs!

I am optimistic for u bc I have been there and it sucks, but only the bloodwork can tell us (esp. The second number). Hang in there.

What did your doctor say about the possibility of a miscarriage? Sounds like she is saying pregnancy is intact but to call if you start bleeding. That would be when a miscarriage would happen. So if you don't bleed you're still pregnant?

Perhaps I misunderstand. My only experience with a miscarriage is with one that was recognized by the bleeding.

Its ok don't give up hope yet! I know youre paranoid but your baby could just be growing at a slow rate. If it were me I would be concerned if I bled. If your baby is growing at a slow rate, then when its born it may be a preemie. You never know until they're born.

Hang in there!!!!!! :)
-Tori

I'm so sorry you are going through this right now, during the Holiday's. To me it does sound like you are probably having a miscarriage. I have had 4 miscarriages and have two wondeful kid's. My daughter was a twin and at the ultra sound at 8 weeks, they noticed two sacs and two dots in the sacs. One dot was so much bigger then the other dot that they didn't think the smaller dot was going to make it. Sadly, at the next appt, only one dot, my daughter remained.

My last miscarriage was during the Holiday's and it really sucked. Please hold your 3 precious daughters tight and hold on their loving energy.

Sending thoughts and prayers your way....

I'm sorry that you are having this uncertainty during the holidays.

You're situation sounds similar to what happened to me, and that did end in miscarriage at 11w. If you've only had one sonogram, the dr. will probably order another in 7 days. If you want to be sure schedule it for 10. For me, the view ever week wasn't helpful becuase the fetus was growing, just not a week's worth in a week. More like 6 days worth in a week. It wasn't until I waited 10 days for there to be a definite major discrepancy.

When my pregnancy was done, I told my son (then 4), simply that I had been mistaken. I thought I was going to have a baby, but I'm not. Sometimes we get it wrong. He was okay with that.

While the miscarriage was devistating to me, it did help me decide that I did want to add to my family. Four months later I was pregnant again, was a nervous wreck, but delivered to term. My miralce is now 6 and I couldn't imagine not having her. If I hadn't of had the miscarriage, I would have a 7y, but I wouldn't have my exact little girl, and she is awesome!

Sending hugs for peaceful answers.

May God bless you and your family.

Am sorry that you are having to go through this, it's heartbreaking.

In the kindest way...it's best to wait until you're further along before you tell your little ones you're expecting, for just this reason.

Sorry for your pain and concern. I do hope that things turn out ok for you. I hope that in addition you get some help for your mental health. Being emotionally unstable with 3 kids and possible 4 would be hard.