My daughter is having her first period and i gave her some pads but she doesn't want to wear them and she says she doesn't want to talk about it! What should i do!?
Sit her down and talk with her anyway. She really has no choice since this will happen again every month for some years now. It would help to know how old she is. My daughter was 11 and we had talked prior to this happening because I knew she would be starting early. I guess I failed to tell her that it would happen every month so the next month she was mad as hell at me. LOL
Excuse me, I'm confused........
Are you the parent or are you a child?
I saw on your answers in your profile that in March of 2009 you answered someone else's question about bra's and this is what you said
" I am 11 now and i wear black and red sexy bras and my mom doesnt say anything so i think u r overreacthing!!!!<3 ".
So please help me out because I'm confused.
I didn't want to talk to my mother either. I felt overwhelmed by the whole experince and didn't feel comfortable talking about it.
My mom did the coolest thing then. She let me stay home from school the next day (never happen before or since unless I was actively throwing-up or had spots) and didn't presure me at all to talk. She brought home a banana split for us to share (also another first) and we talked about other things. Eventually I was able to ask the questions I needed to but I wouldn't have if she had pushed the issue.
I'm not a fan personally of "she'll figure it out." Go on line to the websites for tampax and kimberly-clark products. There will be a place (I'm sure -- they had this in the non-tech version when I was a kid) to order a free "starter set." There will be a book or two, some sample pads, etc. The book will have FAQs, and everything she should know. Then, if she doesn't want to talk, you can just give it all to her and let her read it. Its more personal than reading the instructions on the tampax box. Also, Judy Blume's classic "Are you there God, its me, Margaret" talks a lot about this -- I'd get it from the library if she hasn't read it yet. Good luck.
give her a box of tampons and pads in the bathroom and she'll figure it out with the little instruction sheet, or she'll suffer embarrassment at school. she'll talk when she's ready
Give her the slender tampons for the beginning and maybe regular as she gets used to them. Tell her to read the instructions and have her tell you if she needs anything else to make a list.
She's probably embarrassed. You might want to let her know that everyone goes through this and that is OK to feel uncomfortable talking about it.
Leave them in the bathroom and walk away. She is in denial and I don't blame her. If she knew what would happen for the next 30 or so years as it relates to her body, she would be more angry...LOL!
Cut her some slack and wait until she talks to you about it. If she knows about the changes that she will go through by talking to you or hearing it at school, she already knows...she is just angry and scared that it is happening. Nobody ever thinks ANYTHING will happen to them. Let her have her space and time, leave the pads. When she realizes that it will ruin her clothes to have blood on them. She will start wearing them.
I would just tell her that blood doesn't come out of clothes. You are not a fan of the monthly visitor either. And tell her when she wants to talk about it, you will be there to listen.
Many Blessings Mom!!!
Just leave the pads in the bathroom and I'd get her a box of jr tampons as well. The directions are on the box. If she isnt comfortable discussing it with you maybe she has an aunt or an older girl cousin that she will talk to? Obviously she's gonna be a tad bi*chy when she cycles.. haha.
Maybe you should just give her the advice even tho she doesnt want to hear it, I'm sure she'll listen to what you say anyway... maybe through a closed bedroom or bathroom door? Hmm... I wonder if she will go to school tomorrow Mom?
I didn't even tell my mom, when I started my period. I was and am very private about my body. (not ashamed, just private.) I have older sisters, so we had them in the bathroom. Just leave them in the bathroom and she'll know what to do with them. I felt more comfortable talking with my friends about it, to be honest. I hated it, when my mom wanted to talk about it. I think that's normal, for a girl going through changes. Sometimes, the last person girls want to talk to, is mom. It's no fault of your own, that's just how a lot of girls are!
Leave her the pads and maybe tampons in the bathroom. If you can find a good pamphlet or book on puberty leave it where she can find it. I never minded talking to my mom but my sister was very secretive (still is at 35). My mom asked me what my little sister knew and I filled my sister in on everything from tampons (in high school) to birth control (in college). Maybe there is an older friend, cousin or someone she is more comfortable talking to.
I would leave them available in the bathroom and let her deal with it. It is an embarrassing and uncomfortable thing to go through and she might feel better taking care of it on her own or asking a friend.
I remember being very uncomfortable about it at first and preferred to just pretend it wasn't happening. If she has questions or you think she might and isn't opening up, ask if there is someone she would like to talk to. Some girls are closer with an aunt or older cousin about that kind of thing.
In my opinion I would still sit her down & talk to her. As a parent I don't want my daughter to figure it out on her own. Children need guidance from parents. They don't get to pick & choose what they want to hear from us. When I got my period my mother asked me questions after I told her I knew what to do. That was her way of making sure I understood what could happen once your started your period. This is a very important subject. It does not have to be a long drawn out talk. I am not a big fan of tampons at a young age. You may want to do some research. I hope you find a solution that you are comfortable with.
