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Need Ideas of Sleeping Arrangements...

Hi moms-
I need your thoughts and experiences! We have a 3 bedroom home, currently our rooming situation is my husband and I in one, our 2 daughters in another, and our son in his own. The problem... our 8 month old is waking up everyone at night. The last 3 weeks now she does not sleep more then 2 hour stretches, and screams and cries until I nurse her. She did have an ear infection and is being treated for that.
We can not let her "cry it out" as it wakes up her sister who has to get up for school in the morning. We tried putting our oldest in with her brother, but he is having night terrors as well as is a bed hog (not possible to put another bed in his room- so they had to share). We even brought our 4 year old in our room several times but do not want to start that habit with her (took us until she was 3 for her to make it through the night without needing mom or dad by her to fall asleep).
We eventually end up co-sleeping with our 8 month old, which gives up little sleep anyhow because she still wakes up as frequent as well as we are know she is there so do not sleep soundly.
I did post about this before and we tried the water trick and having daddy try and put her back to sleep, but nothing worked. The main issue is that it is affecting our other 2 children as well as my husband and I health. Our 4 year olds behavior is starting to show that she is tired and that is what is most upsetting. I am trying to recover from a sinus infection that just will not go away and my husband has thyroid issues that act up when he is stressed and not sleeping enough.
I am sorry this is so long, but my sanity depends on some ideas. Thanks again!!

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Well we are working on 4 teeth, yep, 4 all at once!! The top row!! So that does not help. I figured that once the summer hits and my husband is home (he is a teacher) we can do some adjusting in the house to help her fall back to sleep better. But as of now, she is our sleeping companion!! Thanks moms!!

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Maybe you need to get creative with where the yougest sleeps. Try locating her in another room or a space of her own and most everyone else could get more sleep. I would definitely talk to the doctors, it sounds like everyone needs their rest and to start feeling better.

Good luck and I hope that you find an answer soon.

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Maybe you need to get creative with where the yougest sleeps. Try locating her in another room or a space of her own and most everyone else could get more sleep. I would definitely talk to the doctors, it sounds like everyone needs their rest and to start feeling better.

Good luck and I hope that you find an answer soon.

Send your other kids to grandmas for the weekend while you let your baby work things out! I love the book Healthy Sleep, Happy Baby, and it has helped me a ton with sleep problems with my own kids. I found that the Ocean Wonders worked well for my kids, because when they woke up in the night, they could turn the music back on themselves and it had a little night light on it. Hang in there, if you always go save them, they'll always cry for you!

I am serious get "good night sleep tight" by the sleep lady. It is the best book ever! our boys share a room, and we had the same problem with our 10 month old waking up our 4 year old. you need to teach her how to put herself back to sleep when she wakes up. just like when you roll over in the night and put yourself back to sleep. It is a learned behaviour.she is old enough not to be nursed through the whole night. this book has changed our family's sleep for the better. My baby sleeps 11 hours a night and takes two wonderful naps during the day now! I used it for our older boy too and he is sleeping so much better. I think your girls can learn to sleep in the same room just fine! you don't need to kick your husband out or move the baby in your room! I know that this book can help you like it helped me! give it a try so you can have a restful happy family!!

I am not sure if this is advice or not, but I have a 7 and 1/2 month old girl also. She was doing great with sleeping. She would take her bath about 7:00pm, sit with us for a few mintues and then 7:30-8pm bed time with a bottle and rocking. Then up at 10:30-11:30pm to eat and change her diaper and then sleep until 5am (ish). Now OH BOY... up every 1-3 hours. I get up with her at night the husband does not, so I know the sleep issue. I have tried to make sure that she stays in her routine ALL the time. I think a routine is key with babies. Even if we are not at home for the night. I do feed her ceral also before the bath. I think this helps to keep her fuller at night. This is what I do now... and for you it may be harder. I feed her cereal before the bath, then bath , then bottle. I try to not let her take LONG naps in the evening times. 1 hour max before 5pm. After that if she's sleepy 15 mintues to refresh. Then play play play. If she wakes at night more than once I make sure she has a clean dry diaper and full belly and then if she wakes again (for a third time) cry alittle, 1/2 hour max. And I know with older kids it is harder but I am not sure if there is any other way. I think once baby knows bed time is bed time and no one will come get them they go back to sleep. At least mine has been. I just know sooner or later we will get to sleep peacefully again. Not sure if this babbling helps but I wish you luck and hang in there it always gets better.

so dose your 4 1/2 yr old have the bigger room of the two if so move your daughter in to his room and move him in the room with your baby i would also try feading cereal right befor the last nurse befor you go to bed do you have a co sleeper they are also like a pack and play but they butt right up tio your bed and lock there they musy of been made by a mommy well hope something i said will help you hope you get six hour of straight sleep

R., Sorry for your troubles. Does your 8 month old eat a regular feeding at night? or just nibble? does she use a pacifier (some people warned us about nipple confusion, but my daughter took battle, breast and pacifier and was never confused about it). has she ever slept through the night? I would also try letting her "cry it out" on the weekends when perhaps the rest of the family can camp out in the basement or living room so as not to be disturbed. Hope that helps have a great day and good luck!

Have you thought about putting someone in the living room or the dining room? My husband and I have thought about this, as we are contemplating #2 and we only have a two bedroom house (and don't really want to move). It might be easiest for you and your husband to sleep in the living room, since you're up the latest. I have mixed feelings about crying it out and co-sleeping, but at 8 mos. it's nice if she can start sleeping through the night (or close to it).
Let us know what works... like I said, we'll be facing the same dilemma if we decide to have kid #2.

We have co-slept with all 4 of our children. With our second child we took one side off the crib, took off the wheels and put it next to our bed. We adjusted the crib bed so it is at the same height as our bed. When he woke up I just nursed him and then laid him back in the crib, so we all had our space. Our baby was secure because he was next to me and my husband and I got our sleep.
Our 3 oldest children sleep in their own beds and are very secure about it. The baby (our now 10 months old) sleeps with us in our now King size bed and it works very well. You might need to change your "state of mind" about co-sleeping. For us it is about getting our sleep and this is the only way we start out sleeping with our children.

Good Luck!

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