Need Help with Dealing with Anxiety

I did the same thing with both my boys. I would wake up on my on, instead of being woken up for a feeding, and jump out of bed thinking my baby was dead. Eventually, after the 1st birthday, I calmed down about it. Then they start walking and you have a whole new world of worries. I pray every day god will take care of my children, it easies my mind. In my case the anxiety came because death of one of my children is still in my mind absolutely the worse possible thing that could happen.

I ran across this little bit of advice a couple of days ago, and as a mother and grandmother, I think this might fit your situation. It appears you have done your best.

"Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly, and leave the rest to God." BT

I, too, had a miscarriage before I had my son, who's now six weeks old. When I feel overwhelmed with worry for him (or for anything else -- it seems like there's a lot to worry about once I get started), there are a few passages concerning peace from the Bible that I find especially helpful and comforting. That's not to say that physiological factors are irrelevant, or that medicinal or other treatments have no place; I just don't have any experience with that aspect of anxiety.

In John 14:27, Jesus says "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." I believe that peace is a gift from God that we both receive (as in this passage) and develop (the "fruit of the spirit" in Galatians 5:22, as well as the description of the kingdom of God being a matter of "righteousness, peace and joy" in Romans 14:17).

One of my favorite passages talks about the process of cultivating greater peace: Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Peace is a product not of having our requests answered (or even of having no requests), but rather of making our needs known to God and resting in the trust that he will meet them. This connection between trust and peace is also discussed in the Old Testament: Isaiah 26:3 says "You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you." Trusting in God is the primary source of peace for those who follow him -- especially peace regarding things we can do nothing about.

Finally, Psalm 4:8 says "I will lie down and sleep in peace,/ for you alone, O LORD,/ make me dwell in safety." Even though the psalmist in this passage is dealing with fear for his own life, I think the passage applies as well to our loved ones -- I think we can (and must) rely on God to keep us and our children safe, because he is the only one able to do so.

Hi A.,
I know - as probably most mothers do - the anguish of 'imagining' the death of your precious gift from God. You know, Satan has no new lies. He uses this one on mothers everywhere to try and instill fear. #1 You are not alone!

#2 You must recognize this as a lie straight from the father of lies. He is only trying to steal your joy and in the process, make you doubt God's ability to keep and protect your baby girl.

Did you know that scripture tells us 365 times "Do not be afraid" or "Fear not"? Isn't that cool? One time for each day of the year! Of course there's the scripture "God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of love, and a sound mind. This fear is in your mind where you have the ability to CHOOSE what you believe.

Since God didn't give you this fear, you KNOW where it came from and your battle is in the spirit realm. You MUST stand against the enemy. Resist Him and he will flee! When the thought comes to your mind, say aloud "It is written that if I resist you, you will flee, so I do resist this evil lie and will NOT believe it! God is able to do all things and you can not touch my daughter without His permission. Now FLEE in the name of Jesus. I GUARANTEE your mind will be instantly empty from that thought process! : )

Then follow up with Thanks to the Father for His love and for the blessing He gave you and your husband; for keeping your daughter safe and giving you a sound mind to resist the devil! Thank Him for the peace that passes human understanding. I think you'll soon be drifting off to a deep and peaceful sleep : )

And if I may pray - - -
Father, I bring A. to your throne and ask in the name of Yeshua (Jesus in Hebrew) that you will reveal the truth of Your constant love and protection so that her fear and doubt will be vanquished. May she know that He who is "in" her is so much greater than he that is in the world. By Your Holy Spirit, bring the scriptures to her to use when she must do battle with evil and strengthen her with Your joy. I thank You, Lord and give You all the glory that is due Your Name! Thank you for the Truth and for our mighty weapons - Your Living Words - that can bring down every stronghold in our lives. We praise You and rejoice that You chose us to be Yours, Father. Amen

If need be, A., look up scriptures on fear that you can use when the devil tried to lie to you. Fear is nothing more than unbelief, because if you believe God's word, you will not fear. I used to be absolutely crippled with fear - I would spend all night in the cubby hole of a desk (where your feet go) with a pillow, blanket, my baby son and a butcher knife when my husband would be gone to the fire station. But God delivered me from fear and revealed the Truth to me. Life is SO much better trusting fully in Him.

And another thing - I had 2 boys first, then a daughter. She was VERY special to me. When she was like about 6 mo old, He asked me one time what I would do if He took her to Heaven. The question immediately overwhelmed me and brought me to tears. I had to really think before I answered, "Lord, I would thank You and Praise You for giving this wonderful child to have in my life for these few months. She has brought me so much joy." She is 33 now and has given me 4 wonderful grandsugars. My loving Father didn't take her, but He wanted to know I could trust Him in every situation. Plus parents all come to a time where they have to trust Him with their children - each one individually. He is able. Praise Him!

Be blessed. God loves you and wants you to be at peace.
G.

I remember feeling this a little bit with my first son. I talked to my mom and she reminded me that he has a guardian angel. That gave me comfort. Pray to her guardian angel to watch over her.

I think she is going to be alright you are doing al the right things and as far as the anxiety I shop at a great store that has great vitamins for that and its alnatural and inexpensive. If you want to know more about it let me know it they have other cheap products that also may help make you home safier to help with that worry. You have to have a membrship and be signed up to shop with a discount so let me know if your interested in hearing more about it.
go to a dollar store for your princess party. they have all sorts of things. I hope she has a great time.
god bless K.
about me- I work at home and love being with my kids. Im blessed with 3 wonderful children. Im 30 yrs old and a single mom.

I also lost two of my children to miscarraige. I now have three surviving children. As a christian, and as a mother who has lost children, you already know that God gives and takes away. There is nothing you can do about that. What you can do is choose to praise him no matter what. It sounds like you have already made the decision to do just that. The question now is, do you want to waste the time that you do have by constantly being worried?? The Bible says that to worry is to sin, but it is a hard habit to break. Maybe you should talk to you pastor about it. There will always be something to worry about. Money, the teenage years, drunk drivers. Try not to watch the news...
As far as the party goes, it is getting to be swim season, you could hand out beach balls, or pool toys. If you wanted princess themed stuff I suggest looking on line.

The advice above is good. I might add that there is a product called GABA Be Calm that you can buy at the health food store. You can also take 200 to 300 mg. of Vitamin D and also 200 to 400 mg of magnesium and also Omega 3 Fatty Acid pills. They can all be purchased at the health food store. In about 3 to 4 weeks you should start noticing a difference as your brain biochemistry evens out. Anxiety is a REAL biochemical disorder and it can be helped. Also, remember that every time fear pops into your head, replace it with a good thought, a positive thought or prayer. I lost 2 babies to miscarriage and know how painful it is. And I lived in fear that they would die on me. Now, one of those grown up children is a top secret agent for the gov. I could live in fear. But, I tell myself "If something bad happens, God will help me deal with it." It is comforting to know that. God bless.

1. I have lived with Anxiety for over 20 years and I know what it feels like.

2. You know what it is to loose a child. You have lost two, they count even before they were born. Lots of people discount a miscarraige but it still counts in my book. It was a baby.

3. You are going to be more aware of the anguish that can happen and fear, deep down, that it will be 1000 times worse than your other babies if something happens to this child.

How do I know? My best friend several years ago had a new grandbaby just a few weeks after my first grandbaby was born. Her grand son had the same name, the same coloring, it was so fun to talk about the daily changes and other stuff. Her grandbaby dies of SIDS at 5 weeks old. It devistated me. I could barely sleep, even with others around. My new grandbaby is 3 months old and he has a developmental disability, he will be evaluated at Children's in OKC this Fall. So there is an extra worry for me.

I have a problem bonding with my grandkids until they are over 1yr. old now. I am afaid they'll die so if I don't know them very well it won't hurt so bad. Logically I know that isn't the truth but I think that's what I tell myself.

You have taken every precaution you can. Continue to pray.

just relax and put it in Gods hands you are putting your health in danger worrying all the time remember that she belongs to God he just loans her to you enjoy her good luck