K.M. asks from Plano, TX on February 01, 2006
Need Advise on Hiring Childcare
Hi Mamasource Moms!
I need some expert Mom advise. I am starting back to work soon, and have hired an individual to take care of my baby. I am a nervous first time Mom and was wondering what is the best method to choosing the right person. This lady seems absolutely wonderful (very grandmotherly) and has kept children in the past and now keeps only a few others part time. I don't want to insult her at all, but just want to protect my child. Do you all recommend a background check, references or what?
Please advise soon! I am hoping to go back to work within 2 weeks.
Thanks you all so much!
L. answers from Dallas on February 03, 2006
Hi K., Is this lady named Deborah? Independence and 15th? If it is she is my daycare lady and she is WONDERFUL...I have a five month old there part time...I am a first time mom too. write back if you have any questions. Good Luck L.
D. answers from Dallas on February 03, 2006
hello there, you are doing the right thing by feeling that away. there is nothing wrong with getting a consent from the care provider. i am sure that they will understand this request,and if they are truly to be trusted, then they will understand.
A.N. answers from Dallas on February 02, 2006
I was given this info when looking for a MDO program. I thought you might find it helpful.
For information about daycare centers, MDO's, family day homes, summer care, etc., you can contact the Resource & Referral dept. of the Child Care Group: 214.631.CARE (2273), or check out their website: childcaregroup.org
They will help you find care in your area. They also provide info about what to look for in child care & what questions to ask, etc. It's a free service.
C. answers from Dallas on February 05, 2006
PLEASE ask for references, at least the phone numbers of her current and/or previous clients. Do not put your precious child in the hands of someone with whom you are not completely comfortable. Why put your child at risk because you don't want to insult someone you hardly know? Give yourself some peace of mind--- ask for references!!
Take care and good luck!!!
S.T. answers from Dallas on February 02, 2006
I know how you feel! But we are on our 3rd nanny now (first one was my brother-in-law who decided it was more than he could handle with his two kids; second one got pregnant and majorly sick; third one has been fantastic!) and what we have discovered through this process of looking for nannies is that there really are good people out there wanting to be nannies. You hear all the horror stories, but I think far more common are positives. I was so ready to do background checks, but I never did one. WInstead, we relied on gut instinct from being around the person (which I swear you can really get a good feel from someone quickly), in depth interviewing with us (you can find WONDERFUL questions on the internet), and then VERY important were the references!! Our recent nanny gave us the names of parents she had worked for in the past and they had GLOWING things to say about her. They WANTED to recommend her. That was huge. Since this woman you are looking at is a nanny to other ladies part-time, give them a call and then also I would call any others she is not currently working for. And let me emphasize - this is your baby - NO GUILT over asking the tough questions or certainly not asking for references. It's your duty really:) And for the first couple of weeks, maybe you could drop in unannounced at lunch or something or you could have her first couple of days while you are there - either at home working yourself or doing errands. I worked at home the first two days our nanny worked with us and it allowed me to observe her and allowed her to get to know our baby and house with me there to help with questions. It would be worth a vacation day if possible. My advice then is to take a deep breath, trust your gut, call those references, and then just observe things and your baby's reaction to her. If you are particular with your child's care, which I am, I found it was good to write out detailed instructions so that you both know your expectations. We also wrote out "house rules" such as don't answer the door or phone while we are away. There are good examples on the internet. Good luck to you! If this woman does not work out, we found our nanny through www.gonannies.com where many ladies advertise. And we were about to use an agency recommended called Mom's Best Friend. Good luck! There's nothing more gut wrenching than making sure your child is with someone safe, loving, and responsible - I know!! It will be okay though. My son is SUPER happy with our nanny. And I'm enjoying getting to know her too.
D.B. answers from Dallas on February 02, 2006
i am a registered home provider and i would want to make sure that she is either registered with the state or at least listed. by law even if she only has 3 children she must be listed with the state.
if you have more questions you are welcome to call me at ###-###-####
Y.F. answers from Austin on February 03, 2006
By all means check all of her references and do a background check and if she is licensed by the state, check her record on the Dept. of Family and Protective Services website. I use a lady in Irving and did all of the above. She did not have a problem with it and in fact encouraged it, because, as a professional, she knows that's how she retains her clients and keeps us happy. If your lady is a professional, she should know that it is your right and duty to do all that you can to make sure that your baby is safe while in her care. Be vigilant! I hope this helps.
S.B. answers from Dallas on February 02, 2006
You should ALWAYS do a thorough background check and get references no matter how nice the person may look. Looks can be deceiving.
Also there are nanny cams that you can install in your home without the nanny knowing and you can see how she treats your child when you are not there. Better be safe than sorry.
M. answers from Dallas on February 01, 2006
Definately get references and background check would be a plus.
She should understand if she feels insulted then she is not for you.