R.B. asks from Cedar Park, TX on August 25, 2009
Need Advice About How to Proceed with Infertility
My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for a year and a half with no luck. It's frustrating but I know others have tried much longer so we're staying hopeful and grateful. We're determined to enjoy our time alone and continue to pray that God would bless us with a baby in His time. We have both been tested and it appeared that everything was fine with us, but my cycle is so unpredictable that it makes charting my ovulation very difficult. That was the only concern the doctor had. My mother wants me to take some herbs that are supposed to help, and the only thing I heard from my doctor was getting a shot each month when I ovulate...but I don't quite understand how that would work considering it's so random and our insurance doesn't cover that so it would be way too pricey. My cycle used to be 35 days, now the past 2 cycles have been double...which really throws you for a loop when you're hoping to be pregnant! Any advice? Anything you could suggest I ask my doctor about? My mother had to go on some sort of fertility pills to get pregnant, but that was a while ago.... Any help would be so appreciated.
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N.R. answers from Houston on August 26, 2009
Someone else suggested the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It is a great book and might be a useful starting place before you spend a lot of money on other things. I don't want to discount anything that your doctor is doing for you, but this book is really good at helping women chart their cycles. Even if you have irregular cycles, this book can help you find you most fertile days.
I used it for both of my children.
Good luck and best wishes to you.
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C.P. answers from Houston on August 27, 2009
(American Academy of Fertility Care Professionals)
The Pope Paul VI Institute, founded in 1985 by Thomas W. Hilgers, MD, is internationally recognized for its outstanding achievements in the field of natural fertility regulation and reproductive medicine.
I would recommend a visit to these sites. My husband and I struggled with infertility for 5 years before I got pregnant with my son. I heard about NaProTechnology and this site after that but wish I had heard about this as I think it would have worked faster, been easier on my body etc. I worry about future side effects like ovarian cancer with the clomid I used as one method to try to get pregnant. (In the end it was natural methods to regulate cycle that worked for me. I now have two wonderful sons ages 3 and almost 5)
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J.L. answers from Austin on August 26, 2009
My main advice on this is to find a doctor that is truly interested in your infertility. Your doctor may be, and if so, that is great. But, when you have a doctor that is truly concerned and wants to help you find the best way to go about it. I would suggest Dr. Seeker in Austin. They just moved offices. I know he and his staff are truly caring and compassionate. The hard part is when you keep getting told that everything is ok. Then there is nothing to go by. We ended up doing insemination and it worked the first time (after 4 years). Took a pill to help ovulate. I think I had 3 or 4 eggs. Only one took, thankfully. A few years latere we tried it a few times and it did not work. That procedure is very affordable. Please email if you want to talk more.
C.K. answers from Houston on August 25, 2009
I too have very irregular cycles. My hormone levels were fine and my doctor didn't know why I didn't seem to be ovulating. I charted my temperature for ovulation, took clomid to make me ovulate and progesterone to make me have my period regularly. Nothing was working and I was really frustrated and stressed. At this time my cycle was going almost 90 days between periods, which my doctor said not to go more than 90 days without calling him. He did suggest a few fertility specialists, but I wasn't ready to see them. After about a year and a half of doing nothing and just living my life I found out I was pregnant. Stressing about it hurts your chances of conceiving. I don't know if any of this helps you, but I do know how you feel.
J.T. answers from Victoria on August 26, 2009
i would take your mothers advice. doctors are so into medications they really dont know the bennifits of herbal things. i was having a problem and after three doctors one radical thinking doctor fixed my problem with an over the counter herbal type medication!!!! one doc told me it would be for life with my problem. have you seen those devices that let you know when you are fertal? i belive they sell them at walgreens. terribly sorry i dont remember the name of them. there are also warning signs of your period bloating, breast tenderness, clear discharge. look up more about that to understand it. if you check out fine and your hubby does too..."give up" thats when it ususally happens when your not trying! keep praying that God will send you a baby. He has a plan for you.
J.T. answers from Houston on August 26, 2009
I was in your situation and it took us over 2 years to get pregnant. Like you we prayed about it and knew that in His time it would happen or not happen. We were fortunate and didn't need the aide of drugs, but my sister in law who tried for 2 years to conceive had to have a shot similar to what you are speaking of and it worked the first time!! She just delivered a healthy baby in July. Keep up the prayers, but know that medicine can help! Will add you to my prayer list. Good luck!!!
K.Z. answers from Austin on August 26, 2009
I have heard from many friends that after coming off birth control pills they became preggo. Two of them had trouble conceiving prior to bc pills they gave up trying to get pregnant and took the pills to regulate periods. It is worth asking your dr. if she’s ever heard of cases like that. Good luck!
R.N. answers from Houston on August 26, 2009
I agree with the other posters who have suggested possible PCOS. I have this syndrome as well. Clomid is just a pill and is not terribly expensive. You can try taking it alone with no other treatment...this has worked for many women. I think the shot your doctor is referring to is a hormone that simulates the hormone your body is supposed to produce to cause you to ovulate. You would take the clomid for around 5 days; your doctor would monitor your hormone levels via blood tests, and possibly your uterine lining with ultrasound. You would then have the shot when s/he determines that your body is ready for ovulation. All of this can get a little expensive, but it is nothing compared to ending up needing IVF. How old are you now? As we age, our fertility declines. If you are over 30 I would suggest seeing a fertility specialist. When I first began my journey through infertility several women I knew saw a doctor by the name of Kaylen Silverberg. By the time I was ready for a specialist, he had moved to Austin, where I believe he still practices. He is an awesome doctor and all my friends absolutely LOVED him. I had one friend who swore that no one else could 'get her pregnant,' so she ended up driving from SA to Austin for treatment (after a failed IVF with a doctor in SA). She had success with Dr. Silverberg on the first try (she already had a son whom she conceived under Dr. Silverberg's care). Try not to stress; the natural herbs and so forth may help, but really, if you are over 30 and really want to be pregnant it is time to see someone. If you are still in your 20s you can give it a bit more time, but try to adopt some de-stressing activities (yoga, meditation, etc), because stressing about getting pregnant will most assuredly make it harder for you to conceive. BTW, I am a success story...I have three beautiful daughters. Best of luck...let us know how it goes!