My Girls Are 4 Years, 5 Hours and 15 Mins apart.(They Were Born an the Same Day)

Have one party. depending on the amount of attendees, 2 half sheet cakes for each with their own personality decor, to make each one feel special. hopefully it helps.

I went to a wonderful party this fall that was a dress up party. It was very close to halloween, so all the kids wore their costumes. Most girls have dress up clothes at this age. If you have a dress up party, the older girls could have fun playing dress up and wear very girly things. Then you could get a box of fun clothes for the little ones, not as girly.

Just a thought!

What about a "Garden Party"? You can get the small clay pots pretty cheap. They could decorate the pots with paint pens, or not. While the pots are drying do the typical birthday stuff. Your girly girl could have a flower cake, while your tom-boy might like a cake with bugs and dirt. Once all that is said and done have the children plant flowers in their pots to take home. Let the girls design your invitations for you with their artwork surrounding the theme. If you have a few months to go, it can easily be done outside or even in the garage. Hope this idea helps.

I would try to maybe have one party a little early and one a little late, but have a "family" (just your household) party with cake and singing and one special gift on their actual b-day. My 2 oldest kids are 11 1/2 months apart (boy 3 and girl 4) and so far I have had their party together but celebrated their "real birthday" too, to make it more special and indvidualized. This next year I will have another one to add to it, because all 3 of my kids ( i have a 4mth old) birthday's are within a month of each other.
If you do have their party together, let each one pick a few guests of their own, pick their own cake or special game to play or craft to do at the party. GOOD LUCK and I hope this helps!

Two of my brothers have the same birthday (they are 6 years apart). I can remember parties growing up would always be for the both of them. They have a summer birthday (May) so it was easy to have it outside at a park or something and separate the two by having one at one table & another at another table. It was less & less of a big deal as they got older, tho (so there's the good news!) They actually enjoyed having this similarity & since it's kinda rare to have that in one family, they liked the attention it brought. I guess if you have it at home, just make sure they each get to make a "guest list" and get two separate cakes so that they each feel that they are getting something of their own. I know that if you are reserving someplace for a party, that could be expensive to try to do 2 parties on 2 different days, so the trick would be to find places to have the parties that won't cost an arm & a leg! Maybe family members could host one and you could host one...I always have difficulty with my son's birthday because it's so close to Christmas...but we always make sure to separate the two events so he feels special about his birthday.

Maybe as they get older, you can have one a couple of weeks ahead of time and the other a couple of weeks later so that they both get separate parties...? Just some ideas; hope they help!

J.,
I am 44 yrs old and my sister and I are the same age for 5 days. I do know that it make a difference for the girls to have their own day. My sister use to rub it in my face that we were the same age and we had to have our parties together, it was pure misery for me while growing up.

Why not ask the older one if she would like to have her birthday party eariler or later, depending on how it falls within the week. But, for now I don't believe that the younger one would have a problem with having her day eariler or later, for as long as she received a grand day. As your 5 yrs old grows up, the older one will have mature and this will allow her to have "input" for ideas in helping you make the younger childs day more grander.

I hope that this helps. Be there, done that.
T.

We actually have the excact same problem with my neices. We throw them two separate parties. The oldest has her party the weekend before their birthday, and the younger the weekend after so they both have their own special day. If that doesn't work for you then maybe you can have them at different times on the same day. Some ideas for your girly girl...we threw my daughter a princess party last year and all the girls wore their dress up clothes and we made foam crowns and wands at the party and it was a huge hit. We've also done the tea party thing and let the girls paint their own teacups, strawberry shortcake one year and we bought those strawberry hard candies and had a "strawberry hunt." I hope this helps you out some. Good luck!

http://www.amazingmoms.com/htm/KidsBirthdayParties.htm

This is a great website with tons of ideas!!

My kids are 2 years and 26 days apart (6 yr. old boy, 4 yr. old girl). The last couple of years they have had joint parties. This year we had it at Pump It Up and last year at Playworld Down Under. Each child got to pick his/her own cake in whatever theme they wanted. The guests got one goodie bag -- the boys got one from my son's theme and the girls got one from my daughter's theme. We sang happy birthday to eachof them separately.

Other ideas for party locations: a paint your own pottery place, Chuck E. Cheese, the Creative Discovery Museum (they do it ALL), Partyville (but I like Puymp It Up better). Hope this helps.

Well one way you could do it is to have one of the girls' party in the morning and one later in the day, or one early afternoon, then the other an hour or so after that way if it will be mostly family they could all stay to visit and maybe help you get ready for the next girls party. This would work even if their Big Day is on a week day, you could have one at 4:00 and maybe the other at 6:00, that way if you chose to do it this way if the younger girl gets tired you could put her down for a nap! Talk to some friends about it and see what they think, maybe you could get them to help you. Hope that this helped you out in some way.

If the girls did not have the same birthday, would you have two separate parties? What about a special family dinner for everyone on the actual day (or on the weekend), then let each girl have one or two friends to do something special of their choice at another time? Like your older daughter could have a "tea party" or something one day and a different day your younger daughter can take a friend to a park or McWane Center or somewhere she would like to go? Then you could have two celebrations without having two big parties back to back. Just a thought! Good luck!

Hey there!
My children are 3 days apart and what I started doing this past year was .....having 1 party. Belive it or not, my son turned 11 and my daughter turned 1. Yep, 10 years.....it was a great Christmas party in 2006. lol !!!
I let my son invite 5 of his friends over to our house and I invited family. (My mom was here to help with the 6 11 year old) I set up 2 tables, each decorated specifically for that child. I got 2 cakes, and decorated the house with each of their themes at different places inside and outside the house.
While my 1 year old daughter was visiting with family, my husband and I did outside games with the boys....3 leg race, egg/water balloon toss, etc. We let each child sit at their table and we took turns singing and opening and eating.
Hope that helps........

How about having their parties 5 hr and 15 min apart??? Fort the girly one a tea with limited friends, like three to fill a table for four. Make it very dressy, with tea, cakes, music, ceremony?? Then 5 hours later have a party for the other that include what she likes, outdoor, rumble tumble, etc.

Thats a tuff one. I would suggest maybe having one on the weekend before and one on the weekend after. Although that gets kinda pricey. But if they were born months apart you would have to do this anyway. Or instead of a 2 hour party hold a 4 hour party with the 1st 2 hrs for one child and the next 2 hours for the other. This will cut down travel time for your guest (family who will have to attend both). Then you don't have to clean up twice. I think as they get older it will before easier. We spend so much money on the party and trying to entertain our guest that we forget the most important thing our child. I've started making my parties cheaper. What heppens to the small home parties we all had as kids with just cake and ice cream and pin the tail on the donkey small gifts and everybody went home. Now we feed everybody a meal get goody bags for the kids which end up between $5 -$10 with everything inside and we still plan and activity for the kids which cost up more money the fancy decor for the party theme. We've done it to ourselves.

I had to respond to this, not because I am much help, but because we are in the same boat almost. I am 26 and pregnant with #4. I am excited about having #4,but very nervous about the birthdays. My sons bday is april 14th, my youngest daughters bday is May 5th. My due date is May 4th. I will probably have her early so we will have 3 birthdays in two weeks!
My kids are 9,6, and 4.

One of the most enjoyable parties that we had for our daughter was an outdoor "pirate's treasure hunt" we went to Long John Silver's and got some of the Pirate cardboard crowns.

We decorated a wooden cigar box with the pirate look and we purchased the gold foil covered chocolate coins and filled the box and the best I remember a cheap necklace for each guest. We buried the box and had a treasure hunt; with clues for them to follow. One of our neighbor boys dressed up (the best I remember in black either pirate or bat man attire) and hid in the bushes and jumped out and ran just giving the smaller children a glimpse of him. It was not real expensive at all and really seemed to be enjoyed.

Another time the children bobbed for apples in a tub of water.

E.

Try a double themed party. If your older child will agree, you can have the cake decorated half for her and half for the younger. Or you may have to have 2 cakes. Choose a theme for each child. (Like princess for the 5 year old and Elmo for the 19 month old) Choose a number of friends each can invite. Send the princess invitations for your older daughter to her friends and the Elmo invitations to the younger child's friends. At least you won't have to double up on family members! Decorate half in one theme and half in the other theme. It may look strange, but each child will have her own sense of a party.
If that won't work, try splitting the party into 2 separate events. One weekend for one child and the next weekend for the next.
My sis n law has the same situation with her children and the parties vary from year to year. She has done both of those suggestions. She also has had the parties at a kids place so she didn't have to worry about decorating. She just invited the family & friends and let them play hard & let the restraunt serve the kids.

My sister and I have the same birthday also. 7 years apart. It use to make both of us so mad. Now that we are grown it is kind of cool. My son was due on my birthday and I begged the dr to take him early so he wouldn't have my birthday cause I figured that he would feel the same way.... he wishes that I had him on my birthday and he would love to share. Go figure!
Anyway, this is what my mom did. She talked to us and told us that every other year, we could have a party. This year I could have a party and the next my sister could have one. She started with me because I was younger and wouldn't have understood that my sister could have one and I couldn't.
Whose every turn it was to have a party that year, they got to pick out what kind of party they wanted.
It worked well with us. Thought I would share.

I have shared my birthday with my sister since she arrived on my fifth birthday instead of a cake. It has had it's moments, but I never forget her special day and she always remembers mine. It is great. Don't worry just take pictures.