My Best Friend

Laura,

I can understand how you feel since I was in a similar place recently. I am going to share what my good friends told me. You have offered her support in many different ways. It is now up to her to get her life together. It may not happen for a while, especially if she is not ready to accept responsibility for her own life and happiness. I know it is hard to let go, but you have to let her make the next move. Giving the next move to her will let you have some peace (knowing that you tried to help) and let you focus on your family and friends. Send her cards at holidays to remind her that you are there for her, but I think you need to let go. It is very sad when a life-time friends slowly goes away, but for your happiness, you need to hope she will get her act together and surround yourself with positive friends. Good luck.

You need to put your family and marriage first and get rid of her ASAP.

Laura,
Well, first she needs to get into a treatment program. Going to work with her husband is not going to cut it.
Because once he thinks he has been successful with her, she will go right back to the old ways. She also needs the support of you. But, that will come in time. SHe has to realize that she can not keep doing all of this. I would guess that she is not getting the attention she needs at home and does not feel like a whole person there either.
Please research some drug rehab programs, and know that if she is employed, most companies cover it thru their medical and or mental health (it is a California requirement for all businesses) I wish you and her the best, and hope for a great out come.
W.

Just one last text to her: Love ya, here 4 you when UR ready, forgive you. Tag UR it-ball is in your court.

And then leave it up to her.

She has not hit rock bottom yet, and rehab is a waste of time and money until she is ready for it. And don't take it personal this is what addicts do. But you have your own family to take care of...you cannot make her problems be your problems.

Good luck.

you are a good person and a good friend. from what it sounds, she has a lot of issues. we all have deep rooted issues and it is how we deal with them that some survive and others don't. i think you want to help and i also think she is begging for it. intervention? can anyone suggest rehab? who could you call for this? could you call a rehab center for advice? i really don't know, because until she decides it is time to come clean, she will continue this path. i do think she is screaming from the mountain tops for help. her behavior is obvious and i think she wants to be called out (subconsciously). don't abandon her, but don't enable her. tough love. good luck to both of you!

Sounds like somebody I know also. Things are probably really overwhelming for her right now and she doesn't mean to reject your help. It's probably just easier for her to keep you at bay right now until she knows the direction her life will be going. I am sure she loves you a lot and will be a part of your life again once things settle down. Hang in there and let her know that you are there for her if she needs you. :-)

I am so sorry that you have to go through this... it must be very difficult. Well, it's obvious she has a problem and her husband taking credit card away and making her go to work with him is not going to solve the problem. He needs to see that she gets some serious help. He should be checking her into a rehab center so she can get the help she needs as well as have someone to talk to about her problems. You can still be supportive of her and she doesn't need to know that you know about the kiss attempt with your husband.