My 9 Yr Old Likes Boys Buttttttt......

At first glance I thought you were saying your kid liked boys butts. Whoa. Okay, so the kids are at an age where they are typically just mimicking what they see/hear and think is what they are supposed to do. At age ten my son had a girl send him an email signed "your sexy girlfriend". Needless to say I wasn't thrilled. I think you were right in telling her to leave that kind of thing for when she's grown up. I still think they can have pizza with grandma, this is an age where they are learning how to relate to the opposite sex and going to pizza with grandma is a perfect, harmless way to do just that. Just relax but definitely keep your eyes and ears open. Sounds like you are able to comfortably talk with your daughter and that's wonderful!

It sounds like these two shouldn't be left alone. Grandma taking them to pizza,okay. But the whatever needs to be monitored. Talk to his Grandma and tell her you don't want them left alone. They are too young to be kissing with the lights on or off. He wants the lights off to tell or show her that her loves her?

Talk to her about what is and isn't appropriate for her age. Talk to her about your standards and what your expectations are. See how she feels about them. Let her know it's ok to have crushes and like boys but somethings are better to wait til she is older. And most importantly let her know you love her and that she can come to you with questions and talk to you about anything. Good luck! Let us know how it turns out!

do you remember being 9? there was some of that 'talk' going on and some innocent kisses on the cheek and such in our school. didn't lead to anything else though.
maybe there's a good book about relationships? has she had sex ed?? maybe its time to have the talk and what issues are related to that?

Have you told her everything?How bodies work, that hormones come and make boys and girls bodies want sex.
See Yoka Reeder- she has the best explanation that I have seen- knowledge is power- make sure your daughter KNOWS everything- get an antomy book and show her all the parts, so there is no mystery. The more she knows the better her decisions.
Go straight at this- she needs to know everything about her body, and why she'll feel a certain way, so when it happens she can be incharge.
best, k

what??? they are 9!!! They should not be even talking on the phone together let alone going on a date for pizza.

My granddaughter is 10 and hugs everyone, boy or girl, but her attitude is not sexual. Kids are copying what they see. Hugs are frequent in our family and mean love but not sex. We're having to start helping her understand when a hug is appropriate and when it's not.

It's good that you and your daughter are able to talk about this. From now on, it's going to be a matter of watching and talking so that she does learn what is appropriate and what is not.