R.F. asks from Chicago, IL on May 08, 2008
Motivation!! - Chicago,IL
I am really struggling with getting motivated to loose weight. I made a point of joining a gym within walking distance of my apartment and it even has free child care. My mother-in-law helped with the membership fee as my b-day present so I wouldn't feel guilty about spending the money. I'm not even working any more!! So, why can't I get my butt there??
My sister is a tri-athlete and she says I just need to keep at it as much as I can. My (very supportive) husband says that I just need to "decide" that I want to do it, although he thinks I'm fine the way I am. But I still feel like I'm floundering.
A little background...about 7 years ago I lost both of my parents in a car accident. At the time I was finishing college, bartending, and had a very active lifestyle. I weighed about 125. After they died I went through about 2 years of depression. During the first 8 months of this I gained about 30 lbs. and that's what I've weighed ever since.
I only gained 30 lbs during pregnancy and I've lost all of it. I'm still breastfeeding, though we're weaning right now and hope to be done by the end of June. The baby did change the shape of my mid-section and I feel more tubby than ever.
Even worse I have a wedding in Aruba and a 15 year high school reunion coming up! You'd think that would be motivation enough!
I just feel like I don't know what to do. I don't know what and how much to eat, I don't know how to work the gym into my schedule, and I don't know what to do about it.
I feel like I just want someone to tell me what to do. I need a plan to follow for meals and activity. If anyone knows of a good website (free) or book please tell me!!
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So What Happened?™
Hello all- Thanks for the great responses, they each had a tidbit that helped. Sometimes it's just good to hear that other people have the same/silimar problems. I have since made an agreement w/ my husband for a joint work-out plan and I've found a work-out buddy at my gym. I bought a calander for the fridge and everytime I work out I get to put a RED "X" through that day. Kind of like crossing of a "to-do" list! Thanks again, I feel better already.
H.C. answers from Chicago on May 09, 2008
I had great success with Weight Watchers a few years back -- my husband too, inadvertantly, just by changing the ingredients we used and portion sizes. I was very anti-diet and very against calorie counting and unhealthy practices. WW's plans are very flexible, allow you to eat the types of foods you want to eat without a lot of analysis for that structure you need (you'll be surprised what mistakes you're making now that you aren't even aware of!) and also works in physical activities. It involves self-awareness, not offering up pre-packaged non-thought.
It's VERY hard the first week, and slightly less hard the second week, and by the third week seems very easy. I was surprised. A few friends and I did it at the same time and we all were very successful. It's a lifestyle change, but a gradual one, and it gives you the control the whole time!
P.S. - One thing to remember: It took a while to get the 30 pounds, and it will take some time to take it back off. Forget "getting motivated" for the upcoming events because you're setting yourself up for failure and you're not going to be able to lose everything in that time. Think about it in the long term; you're going to feel so great after the first 5 or 10 pounds go away that it will be easy to get yourself motivated. :)
W.P. answers from Chicago on May 09, 2008
I think some group support and guidance would be very helpful for you-I would look into weight watchers. They have a proven record and alot of people love them. I also agree with the suggestion for hypno-therapy or some kind of therapy to help you work through your grief. You used food for comfort but haven't cleared the sadness, etc. Good luck to you!
T.W. answers from Chicago on May 09, 2008
A great way to start is maybe to take your baby for a stroll when you have the time to roam your neighbor hood if possible. Or you could always have a bag packed with your gym clothes available. Making the first step is always the hardest. I really loved Weight Watchers, it was so informational and life-oriented versus others programs. If you live int eh Western Suburbs, try a fitness group called Fit Force. The guy who runs the program is awesome. There are different level of groups, walkers, intermediate, and runners. I wish you the best with this and I know you will get when the push to move when you feel it is right. BEst Of LUck.... T.
M.B. answers from Chicago on May 09, 2008
I found that Weight Watchers really works. You can eat anything; you just have to be aware of how much you eat. It's a plan that you can stay on without feeling like you're on a diet. I've found, personally, it's what I eat that matters more than how much I work out. Try dieting first to get a kick start and then add in the gym workouts. You may feel motivated by losing a few pounds that first week ...and drink water!! It will keep your hands / mouth busy and you will feel full. I hope this helps! Good luck!
R.T. answers from Chicago on May 08, 2008
have you looked into sparkpeople.com? They have a website that's free and gives you meal plans, etc to follow. I personally would recommend weight watchers, but that obviously isn't free. Maybe the money would be motivation though to really get the weight off.
E.K. answers from Chicago on May 10, 2008
This is a repeat recommendation, but I found weight watchers online to be easy to use and effective in helping me lose the "last 10 pounds". I never attended meetings and logged everything I ate and all my exercise online. It probably took about 20 minutes a day to use the website, but the points system worked for me. It was also easier than I thought it would be to figure out the website and make the entries. Good luck!
C.B. answers from Chicago on May 09, 2008
Weight watchers is great to get you started, but it can be expensive if you aren't motivated (about $40 per month on their cheapest plan). My girlfriend turned me on to a website www.sparkpeople.com. it's free and has meal plans if you want to use them.
I know for myself that if I am stressed, I can't loose the weight. Don't pressure yourself. You are not the same person you were all those years ago. You'll get there and you'll be suprised that almost no one looks the way they want to at those reunions. Good luck!
R. answers from Chicago on May 09, 2008
R.-- it's not free, but I just joined Weight Watchers, and I love it. I bought a month's membership online-- I get to use the online tools, which I love. I'm learning how to eat healthily and to have some structure. I think you'd love it, too, if you gave it a try! The meetings are helpful, too-- lots of good tips and advice. Good luck!