My husband and I have had a really tough first year. I have been out of work since October of 2010 and It has given me cabin fever to say the least. I have also been depressed that I am out of work. We can live comfortably with what he makes. I just love to work. It is a full time job looking for a job, taking care of him, house, family, ect. Not to mention we have been seeing a fertility specialist because I have some complications.
This weekend, he was placed on paid suspension for something silly at work. We were stressed all weekend about whether or not we'd both be out of work. Luckily he was asked to come back to work today with no more then a tiny slap on the wrist. Since I lost my job I have gone into crazy saving mode because I am so afraid of not having my own money (except what I get from unemployment) and more times then not when my husband asks to go out I am afraid to say yes.
So today when he asked me if I wanted to go to a place for lunch, I told him no. So he says he is going to run to the store and grab us something cheap and easy. He asks me if I can run out the Fedex to take care of house business.
We both love to read and we have both had our eyes on kindles for some time. When I get home an hour later, the apartment is quite so I think that I have made it home before my husband. I unlocked the door and I was speechless. My apartment opens into my kitchen and my husband had hung up a ton of paper lanterns The kind that hold candles. (bonus points because he use flameless tea candles). The table was made up with the first meal I ever made for him. French dip, salad, and cider. And on each of our plates were kindles. He put "The Notebook" on mine. I still can't breath. This is the most romantic surprise any one has ever done for me and I still haven't caught my breath. He looked me in the eyes and said," thank you for being my best friend and for standing by me this weekend. I don't ever want to let you down and I know in my heart we can make it through anything." I wanted to cry but I was so excited. Best lunch ever!
Do you have any memories of your spouse doing something special for you when you least expect it? I think that in the rush of life we often forget about romance and how important it is to a marriage.
Great story. Thank you for sharing it with us. It makes me want to do something nice for my husband today!
That sounds so lovely! It reminds me of something my husband did for Valentine's Day.
About ten years ago, I was working at a floral shop. As you can imagine a floral shop during valentine's day equals some crazy hours. The prior two days, I dragged myself in after about 16 hours of work. This valentine's day was even more challenging because it had begun to snow. Huge snow. About 20 inches that day. Deliveries for our drivers were horrible. We all just had to shake our heads in disbelief.
I ended up pulling the car into the garage at about 10pm, dog tired. It's not an attatched garage, so I had to make my way to the house through the back yard. When I opened the door to the yard, there were 30 to 35 hearts - cut out from wood and painted pink and red - placed all around the yard. The snow fell in big soft billows around what my husband had made. It glittered. It was like a magic place. It was beautiful. If I had made any wish right there, I swear it would have come true. It was so wonderful.
It was, hands down, the most romantic thing ever done for me.
Wow! What a special moment! My husband has done so many wonderful things that I can be so thankful for. We have had some pretty tough moments in our life together. By far the hardest time in our relationship was the deaths of two of our children in one year. Our daughter was still born on Mother's day and caught us totally off guard. Neither one of us has ever planned a funeral. We totally forgot to plan for someone to carry her little casket. It didn't even occur to us until it was time to carry her. After much discussion, my husband carried her little casket. It was one of the most sad days yet on that day my love for my husband grew beyond explanation. Five months later our son died and my husband once again became my rock as he once again carried that little fella do his grave. I could never thank him for all he has done throughout our relationship. He is God given and specially made for me.
That is am amazing story! You have a wonderful husband :)
Thank you for sharing that "day brightener." What is even better is that you APPRECIATE what he did. You are thankful. So many people do not take the TIME to be thankful. No wonder he is so good to you!
Girl - what are you doing on here??!?!?!?!?
You should be making swweeett music with your hubby!!!
HOW WONDERFUL that he did this!!!
OMG that actually brought tears to my eyes. HOW SWEET! You are one lucky lady. Congratulations. :)
When our first daughter was born, I was overwhelmed with being a new mother, working and trying to figure things out. She was fussing in the night and I was so tired, I didn't hear her. When I did wake to check on her, she was not in her crib. I walked into the kitchen and there was my husband, sitting at the table, holding our baby, with a paci in his mouth, doing his homework. He was writing a computer program and was really concentrating, but still holding our baby girl.
I will never forget that moment. It is tenderly burned in my heart.
Your husband sounds wonderful. I was with my kids' father for 10 years, and he just wasn't romantic that way. Eventually he got better at getting gifts for particular occasions, but he was always asking if I wanted X or would prefer Y. He was a really good guy and a great cook and a fabulous dad, but just not romantically inclined.
He is thoughtful, however. What really took my breath away was the last Mother's Day I lived with him. We already knew we were getting divorced and that I'd be moving out later in the summer, and things were tense between us. He'd finally learned that the kids should be coached to observe Mother's Day, so on the appointed morning, they came in with home-made cards and hugs and coffee. And then he came in behind them and handed me a card. In it he'd put in a note that he'd like to buy me a new bed when I moved. I was blown away by how he'd anticipated I would need one and that he'd be willing to buy it.
We've been divorced now and are still very good friends. I don't regret divorcing him, and I no longer regret marrying him. But eventually I'd love to be with somebody who is sincerely romantic.
AWWWWWW!! Send your hubby to give my hubby notes!! ;)
It's too early to think, but that was super sweet and I'm happy for you :)
This is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kudos to your DH! Enjoy! Thanks for sharing.
Awesome!
Kudos to you both!
That's so special. Happy for y'all!!
Those memories are pretty rare. I remember one time I came home from a business trip.....I was tired, it was a 8 hour drive that turned into a 10 hour drive because of a terrible thunderstorm the whole darn trip (or so it seemed)....it was pretty bad! I was tense and worn out! Jeremy was on the phone with me because he was worried about me, he said (I had hands-free phone)....but because we were on the phone he knew when I was approaching home. When I walked in, he had candles lit EVERYWHERE! (we didn't have kids, so we could do that) I gasped. There were flowers on the table, flowers on the desk, flowers by my bed. A hot bubble bath was waiting, with little tea candles and my favorite "relax" CD on in the bathroom, and he even put the towel in the dryer to warm and fluff it while I was in the tub. I forgot being tired after that!
The only other time I can remember offhand was our special wedding situation. We'd had everything arranged already so we kinda had to just go with the flow: we had the wedding day brunch with everyone all together, then everyone went to play or shop (Vegas) while I got ready. We were supposed to have a early evening wedding in the Grand Canyon but there was snow to the north, rain to the east, a sandstorm to either the south or west......our helicopters were bouncing, jerking, and spinning a little. It was kind of scary. They didn't want to cancel the wedding because you know how some brides can be, lol.....but I was like "seriously, is this safe???" and he said "I'm sorry, but we can land......I don't know if we'll be able to get out though" and I'm like "Obviously, do what you need to do" so we turned around (and we'd already made it past the Hoover Dam--so close!). I just nudged Jer and was like "What the heck. It's freaking Vegas. We'll get married somewhere!" So we went back to town, but now it's time to have our reception dinner, and then the wedding photo tour of the whole city (with party included, lol). My mom is old fashioned and I knew if I was gonna spend the night with Jeremy in front of my mom, we'd better get some paper. After the party, we ran off to the clerk's office and got our license and said some quicky I do's (which was funny), then I went to give mom the papers (not because I needed to but because she was keeping all my junk for me, I didn't want to worry about keeping track of legal stuff when I was wanting to play in Vegas). Jer said he was gonna run to the room to "pick up" while I got my overnight bag, and when I went in, he had 3 dozen tulips (my favorite flower, but I didn't know he knew), PLUS a dozen rose petals on the bed, our wedding CD that we made together playing, and we danced to our song. I didn't know he could be romantic! (It's rare, but so cool).
That is AWESOME !!!!! like something you Only read about :-) LOL
You have a Keeper !!!
