Just F---ing Irritable!

Updated on December 05, 2012
R.H. asks from Fayetteville, AR
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How do you come out of being 'on edge' for no apparant reason?

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So What Happened?

I think the 'lack of water' advice is the cause. Thanks sisters.

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R.A.

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I listen to music. Probably some of my most angsty kind. It helps me to let it out, vent, dance..Without unloading on someone..

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A.C.

answers from Sarasota on

Music. I usually start out with something hard, and angry like Rage Against the Machine and end up somewhere uplifting like Bob Marley. Music works every time.

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M.C.

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I usually put on some favorite music or eat something sweet. Also, I have been on an antidepressant now for the past 4 months and that has helped me tremendously when it comes to irritability.

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B.K.

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I sing Bob Marley to lift me out of it !! works for me ,give it a go lol
I loathe that edgy feeling ,a reminder of stressful life is.
Also I learnt in psychology,I have a degree in it ,that the basis for anger is fear.
When I feel like that I check to see what I am worrying about at the time.

xBernie k

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M.H.

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Watch a commedy or read a book that makes me laugh.

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L.A.

answers from Austin on

I make sure I took my medication!

I honestly start looking around at how fortunate I am.
Because I have a wonderful family (over all). And they love me.

I have a home. I have amazing friends and I have my health.

I do something special for myself.. Sometimes, it is just going out to breakfast and reading, while being served. Or I call someone I have not spoken with in a really long time..sometimes I take a nap and start all over.

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☆.A.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Brisk walk or other exercise.

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M.M.

answers from Chicago on

I usually get like that only at the certain time of the month... so I practice a very regular prevention: exercise, stick to my diet, and take oils and vitamin supplements. All that helps tremendously, some months if I am on track, I eliminate PMS all together.
Another thing I do is "this and now awareness" which means that I consciously recognize that I am out of balance, I check my body, usually I notice right away that my diaphragm is tight, I am holding my breath, my face is tight, and some other parts of the body are tight as well. So, first thing I do is I relax my face, relax my body, take a deep diaphragmatic/abdominal breathes (it takes a minute at most to do all that sometimes I am down to a few seconds if I need to regroup fast) and then I face the issue again. It changes the whole perspective.
Good luck to you, we all have bed days and moments sometimes, it happens to everyone.

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V.P.

answers from Columbus on

Consider what would happen if it all ended tomorrow and this was how everyone last saw you. Putting small problems in perspective in the big picture can help you reevaluate.

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N.N.

answers from Detroit on

I would think something is making me feel this way so I would spend sometime in my thought to get to the root of what it maybe and while I am doing that I would work on something I am passionate about because that is where I usually get my happy from.

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C.W.

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Sex & kickboxing!!

**Laura - Hahaha!! No, not at the same time :) Kickboxing first....feel all strong and stretched!! Class tonight at 7:30!!!!!

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A.M.

answers from Kansas City on

wait for my period to get over... :P

honestly, reading the other ladies' responses - i can remember being in that kind of mood and bob marley coming on the radio...and yes...i was almost irritated that i found my foul mood slipping away. "i just want to be MAD!" turned into, "ah...oh well...*this is my message to you-oo-oo*..." lol. it does work.

i need to get some bob marley cd's come to think of it...lol!

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J.B.

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Usually it means that I need some sleep or exercise. So I try those first if possible - even a short nap, or a 20 -minute pilates video or walk if I can't get to a yoga class at the gym, which normally does the trick. If those don't work, then either I'm coming down with a cold, getting my period or there is something else legitimately bothering me and I have to figure out what it is. I have two friends with chronically ill children who probably won't survive until adulthood but are two of the most positive families I know, so sometimes I read one of their blog posts or shoot a message to them on facebook because it gives me perspective and makes me get over myself.

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C.J.

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A killer run, kenpo video (p90x) or a great spin class with the drill sergeant instructor (he is a killer, shows no mercy and takes no prisoners - LOL)

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A.S.

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Essential fatty acids and a good B-complex.

I also seek advice and help from alternative health practitioners . . . haven't had much luck with mainstream medicine.

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B.D.

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Do something that YOU want to do.

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B.F.

answers from Dallas on

When the kids were little I had a wee sing tape in the car. That tape saved a lot of days! It's happy music, impossible to stay irritable.

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C.V.

answers from Columbia on

Exercise and reggae. It cracks me up that there are others who do the same combo...I thought reggae was my little secret!

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H.P.

answers from Houston on

Once I realize that I am "on edge", I take a few deep breaths and look for the source. In my mind, I put everything on pause and become aware of everything around me, and I breathe deeply through it all.

I am what some call a "sensitive", and I spend pretty much every waking (and sometimes sleeping) moment feeling/sensing, so I have to maintain an awareness of where I end and other things/people begin. When I feel like something's got ahold of me, I just STOP and get my bearings and figure out what and why, and I make my forward-moving decisions based on that.

If it's something ongoing, then I set aside some time for meditation. For me, that means cooking a meal (best is breakfast, when the world is still quiet) or writing. Also, just like they tell you to turn the wheel into the skid when you're driving, I turn into the wave of whatever is going on and figure out the purpose for my life.

Good luck.

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J.G.

answers from Chicago on

I take a deep breath and try to remind myself that there are only bad moments.

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L.M.

answers from Reno on

You have a lot of great responses! I think I will have to take some of the advice, myself! lol I put on Alanis Morresett (sp) Jagged Little Pill really loud and clean. It's very therapeutic for me and my hubby knows to steer clear if I have that CD on! ;-)

@Christine W: Hopefully not sex AND kickboxing at the same time! ;)

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G.B.

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Usually caused by:

having too much coffee the day before
dehydration (from not enough water or drinking too much coffee)
Blood sugar issues (pre diabetes)
not enough sleep
depression
vitamin b deficiency (liquid b complex drops under the tounge daily to help)
potassium defficiency

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M.W.

answers from San Francisco on

ZUMBA class,sex, talking with friends,clean house,listen to music...read a book.

Good luck stemming the tide of irritability!! Breathe...one..two...three

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D.P.

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Kaluha in my morning coffee and good loud music!

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G.B.

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Recognizing the signs is the first clue to watch for. Mine is when my shoulders are about to touch my ears...lol.

I know that it's time for some stress management. Music is my happy place. When cleaning house I can put in some Foreigner, Kenny G', Petra Praise or some other loud music and I clean like a pro. I feel stressed out I put some Josh Groban, Kenny G, some good strong uplifting music and I feel better.

I also do relaxation exercises by using autogenic relaxation. I go through my muscles groups and use either visualization or some other means and get that area warm and relaxed.

Then I can use imagery to go to the beach or some place relaxing and peaceful. Once my body knows my cues like rolling my shoulders and forcing the away from my ears, taking a few deep relaxing breaths, doing a few light stretches.....my body almost instantly lets go of the tension and I feel more in control.

You might check out some books at the library on stress management, my "guru" was Richard Anglin in OKC. He was one of my psychology professors and opened my eyes.

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