I Lost My Mom!

Updated on August 30, 2010
J.W. asks from Los Angeles, CA
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I know I'm not a mom but I thought this would be a good place for guidance, I lost my mom and she was only 53 she was my back bone! She was a huge country music fan so I have been listening to some songs but can someone tell me a few songs I may be forgetting. Some days it just hits me even more I lose myself in a day then want to call her till I realize I cant.

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M.M.

answers from Los Angeles on

Faith Hill's there you'll be.... reminds me of my Dad that passed a year ago. The pain does change and you'll feel a bit stronger. Never completly heals. I try to keep happier times in mind, helps to laugh. " I hope you dance" & jo dee masina.... that was so my dad and it helped tons! My heart aches for you. Not easy. I'm here for you of you need someone that's been there.

A.G.

answers from Houston on

Im sorry J. thats terrible,i lost my mom quite young as well and keeping alive the memory of the things she loved will help very much.

try

Willie Nelson
''mom and dads waltz''

Clint Black
"back home in heaven"

Dolly Parton
"coat of many colors"

Collin raye
"Love Me"

Mark Wills
"wish you were here"

I must apologize i dont know any new country, the old stuff is so much better.

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M.K.

answers from Kansas City on

I am so sorry!

I have three songs that will be played when my parents pass.

1) SIssy's song by Alan Jackson (for my mom).
2) That's my job by Conway Twitty (for my dad).
3) Amazing Grace by Willie Nelson (for both).

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C.T.

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J., I know exactly how you feel. I was 21 when my mom passed. She was 49. I asked her for advice on everything, then one day she was gone, car accident. I was lost for a long, long time, I listened to all her CDs, Some days I thought I couldnt get out of bed, the pain of loosing her physically hurt me. Just know its been 9 years for me since Mom has been gone. and I still have hard days, look to your friends and family on these days, and just know, you are not alone. you can PM me if you ever want to talk (message) I am a good listener. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Christina.

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J.L.

answers from San Diego on

Hi J., I can't think of any songs off hand but just wanted to tell you it does get easier in time. I lost my mom in 2004 and although I do pretty well, when her birthday and mother's day rolls around I'm a little emotional but it get through it and so will you, Sunday August 29th would have been my moms 83 birthday. Stay close to your friends and other family members, and If you believe in God, spend a lot of time praying. J.

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J.B.

answers from Atlanta on

I'm sorry for your loss. On September 7th it will be a year since I lost my mother who was 64, and it has been startling and rough without her. I don't know any songs to point you to, but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

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A.H.

answers from Los Angeles on

I don't have any songs to recommend, but I lost my dad when he was only 51; it's been just over a year now and I almost picked up the phone to call him the other day to share some good news. I'm very sorry for your loss and hope you find the comfort you're looking for, either in these songs or from other family & friends.

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S.C.

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Dear J.,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have lost my mom too at a young age. I am now almost 50 and she has been gone for 15 years. I know as time passes the pain will subside and God will bring a wise woman into your life who will be someone you can call on like a mom. A male friend of mine had lost his mom pretty early in life and he was provided a mom like person.
The shock of loss will turn to grief and the only way through is to grieve, once grieving is over your healing and acceptance will replace the pain. Continue to reach out to others when you feel up to it and time will heal.

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L.C.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. How terribly sad you must feel. I lost my mother to cancer when she was 49 and I was 20. It was, to say the least, very painful. I'm 40 now with a husband and 6 kids. What I noticed about the grieving process is that it takes much longer than you'd hoped. I wished I had joined a grieving support group (call you local hospital or mental health center and inquire about one). Furthermore, nothing or no one replaces your mom, but in time that gaping hole that was her presence in your life begins to fill in a little as life goes on and you pursue adulthood, schooling, healthy relationships, etc. Also, please be cautioned that in the first 2-3 years of grieving you will face th temptation to ease your loss and grief with various things like unhealthy substances, unsatisfying relationships, and/or unhealthy pursuits. Find your family or close friends who can grieve with you. Were you raised in church? Go back there. Or, pray that God would lead you to a supportive community of believers who can encourage and comfort you in receiving the comfort and peace that only God can give. A loving, Bible-believing church and caring people was what got me to this place 20 years late, feeling that God had been with me the whole time.I'll be praying for you.

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S.F.

answers from Santa Barbara on

I just wanted to say that I thought it was very sweet and perfect for you to go to a forum of moms with your grief. I hope that you will find some peace in your heart by listening to the music she loved. My only other suggestion is to get yourself out in nature. The basics like the wind, the trees, the sun shining on your shoulders, a little stream to listen to- these are very healing. I find myself closest to God and those in my life who have passed when I am in nature...
all the best to you.

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J.L.

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J.,
I am so sorry for your loss. One song that I think will be inspiring to you is called , "I'm already there". It talks about your lost loved one always being with you. "I'm the whisper in the wind, I'm you're imaginary friend and I know I'm in your prayers...I'm already there". I know it makes me feel better praying and knowing that my lost loved ones are with God and I believe they are able to look down on us and be with us in spirit. So when you feel you need to talk to your Mom, talk to her. My prayers go out to you that you will feel comforted and have peace. God Bless you.
J.

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C.B.

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Hi

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom.....I lost my Mom when I was 9 weeks pregnant, so I didn't get to share my news with her. I, too, am a huge country music fan...but please remember...when you listen, listen to the inspiration in them-not the sadness. Country music can make me cry even on a good day! I can think of so many just off the top of my head...so here's my list for what I think you're looking for?
Brooks & Dunn - "I Believe"
Steve Wariner - "Holes In the Floor of Heaven"
Heartland - "Angels Watchin Over Me"
Kenny Chesney - "Who You'd Be Today"
Tim McGraw - "My Old Friend"
Brad Paisley - "When I Get Where I'm Goin'"
Alan Jackson - "Sissy's Song" ******you'll like this one
Alan Jackson - "Remember When"

If I totally missed the mark with what you were asking for.....listen to anything by George Strait................everything he sings is good :o)

Good Luck....and smile---she's still with you!

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S.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

I am very sorry for your loss. You may want to listen to Toby keith's song, Crying for me (wayman's song). He wrote it for Wayman Tisdale when he passed away. A great song. Take care of yourself.

E.A.

answers from Erie on

This is one of my favorite songs of all time (and I don't even like popular country music):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RV-Z1YwaOiw&feature=re...

I am so sorry for your loss, but very glad you are reaching out to us. Much love and gentleness to you.

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A.F.

answers from Columbus on

From the bottom of my heart, I am so sorry. I lost my Dad last year, he was 57, to cancer. He was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and 22 days later he died. It was such a shock. I know what you mean by it just hitting you some days. It's been a year & half and I still today pick up the phone to call my Dad to ask him something forgetting he's gone. The first year is really hard. Time does heal some of the pain. Tears will later turn into laughter thinking of great memories. I suggest finding a grief share class in your area. They help so much.
One great country song that relates to your situation is Sissy's Song by Alan Jackson. Be prepared to cry. Another great song is Home by Michael Buble.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

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T.V.

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Dear J.,

Listen to:
I Hope You Dance by Lee Ann Womack
Will The Circle Be Unbroken by Alabama

May God bless and comfort you during this difficult time.

Blessings......

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L.C.

answers from Dayton on

J.,

I am so, so sorry for the loss you are facing. I am of the personal opinion that we never stop need our mamas.

You don't say what kind of country she liked, but I am really partial to

George Jones (He Stopped Loving Her Today is my all-time favorite)
Merle Haggard
Toby Kieth
Rascall Flats
Hank Williams, Sr (some Jr, but not a lot)

Youtube some of them.

I will be praying for you.

L.

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J.H.

answers from Los Angeles on

Dear J., Hi, I lostmy mom 17 years ago and it doesn't get easier. I think of my mom all the time and just start crying, in the car, at home, watching tv. For songs try The dance by garthe Brooks, And love can build a bridge by the Judds. Good luck in your search for grief relief, I am 51 years old and love country music. J. H.

L.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

J., I am so very sorry for your loss of your mom. My husband just lost his father 3 weeks ago and he was also a country music fan. We played Alabama's "Angels Among Us" and "Hallelujah" by Jeff Buckley (both are on iTunes) at his memorial. "Hallelujah" is particularly beautiful & memorable. I wish you much peace right now.

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K.K.

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Hello, I am so very sorry that you have lost your mother. I lost my aunt in February (she was like a mother to me) and in March I lost my husband. I am okay when I am around other people, but when I am alone, I cry over anything and everything. I think that is probably normal. I understand about wanting to call your mom. I think of things all of the time that I need to tell my husband and my aunt and then the reality of it all hits me again. I know there are some very good songs in Country Music which you might find comfort in. There is one where the mother tells the daughter things change, something like "What Do You Do At A Moment Like This?" The artist sounds like Reba McIntire, but I don't know if it is her.
I have said a prayer for you to have peace. You will never forget your mother, but you can honor her by having a wonderful life. My mother is in her 80's now and I know that there will come a time where she and my father won't be with me.
Good luck with your life.
K. K.

J.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

I am so sorry. I recently lost my parents as well. Anything Johnny Cash, Willie Nelson (Angel flying to close to the ground), Merle Haggard, and George Jones those are just a few of my (and my dad's) favorites. Check out Holly Dunn's "Daddy's Hands." Even though it's about a father, I am sure you will relate easily to the lyrics, they are simply beautiful.
My thoughts and paryers are with you, hang in there.

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B.G.

answers from Los Angeles on

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I pray you find comfort in knowing people care, and from friends and family. The one song I think of is "The Dance" by Garth Brooks. It will probably make you cry, so be prepared. Take care of yourself.

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D.H.

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J.,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.......it's one of the hardest things to go through.....I lost my Mom when she was 52....I was 32....with 4 kids to raise......and I miss her still today..........but it does get better.......

One song that I like is........Live like you were dieing........right now the singer eludes me, but I'm sure you've heard it........it tells you to enjoy your time here and make the most of it..........which I'm sure you're Mom would want you to become a great man...........also, there is a song called Dance.....if you have the chance to sit it out or dance, dance........great song....

I would see if you can get any CD's that belonged to your Mom and just listen to them.......knowing that they were hers and she liked them will help.......

Everything happens for a reason.....even if we don't know what that reason is. So hang in there and keep yourself on track.........Remember that your Mom is watching over you......so be good.....

Take care and good luck........if you need someone to talk to, let me know.....

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H.W.

answers from Los Angeles on

I just lost my Nana last year and she too was a big country fan. She loved Alan Jackson, so we played one of his songs, Sissy's Song, at her funeral- the song is incredibly sad and I still cry every time I hear it, but I know that the lyrics fit my Nana and that she is an Angel now watching us.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
Take care,
H.

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M.Y.

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J.,

I am truly sorry for your loss. If listening the music that she loved is giving you some comfort, please continue to do so. What you are feeling today is not going to go away but you will start to deal with it in a better way. I have been in the same boat ever since I lost my mom 2 years ago. It has been difficult, I tell you. You are going through a tough time but please remember time heals. If you need someone to talk to, you can private message me. But remember, your mother is always going to be with you in your heart. That's what keeps me going.

Best wishes

N.O.

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If tomorrow never comes - Garth Brooks
Sorry about your loss.............God Bless

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S.S.

answers from Chicago on

I love the song "How can I help you" I think its suzie boggas but not sure.

D.F.

answers from San Antonio on

Sorry for your loss! I lost my sister last year and it really sux!! I still can't delete her number from my phone, and I often pick up my phone to call her and realize I can't! It does get better but give yourself time. Allow yourself to go thru the emotional steps. It takes time. Just accept that some days are harder than others.
About the music, have you tried PANDORA. It is an on-line radio. When you first log on you pick one genre that you like then pick an artist. You can type in Tim McGraw or Toby Keith then Pandora will pick songs similiar. You can rate the songs as like or unlike and they will adjust as needed.
Good Luck and God Bless!!!!
D.

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