I Am Very Embarrassed to Ask This but Need to Know.

I have never had a problem with mine. If I get constipated there might be a tiny bit of bleeding. I think they were caused because they tell you to push like you are having a bm--not!!!
But my dad has a bad case. His doctor put bands around them and they haven't bothered him since.
Don't be embarrassed. You may have helped many others by asking.

Had them after one baby...can't remember which one, and they went away after healing post-delivery. You'll be fine!

I developed them suddenly, and quite bad, immediately after I delivered, both times by c-section. I had terrible pain from them. If you plan a c-section, take Prep H & Tucks to the hospital with you, as it took way too long for the request to get them cleared thru the doc while I stayed in the hospital for 3 days. The Prep H & Tucks gradually improved them, and then went away, except when I get a bad bout of constipation. Good luck!

I saw this on Dr. Oz...

Let me try to explain...

The lining of the colon is soft like the inside of your cheek; fragile skin/tissue.
Pressure and/or rock-type stools tears the lining of the colon near the anus.
The tears of skin on the INSIDE come to the OUTSIDE, otherwise known as a prolapse.
The veins/intestinal skin come through the anus and become strangled because of the closing of the anus.
The lack of blood flow is killing the tissue by not allowing blood to profuse to it.
You feel pain/itching because the tissue is being strangled.

SO, with that being said, the tissue can go BACK inside your colon. Your anus will appear normal, but the hemorrhoids are inside your colon. What YOU need to do after having the baby is: drink plenty of water ALWAYS (to prevent flair ups), eat your veggies or find a way to incorporate a good amount of fiber in your diet, and do not sit on the toilet longer than 10 minutes. Sitting on the toilet puts pressure on your colon, causing flair ups (which is when you start to see hemorrhoids on the outside of your anus).
Oh, and don't "hold it" if you have to go. That also puts pressure on the hemorrhoids.

Just to clarify, your butt can go back to looking normal. I've never had a haemorrhoid, but I've heard if they aren't flaring up, people live with them "inside" and have no issues.

One more thing...if they cause bleeding:
If the blood is bright red (like fresh blood), that is probably just the hemmeroid being aggravated.
If you start poo'ing and the blood is DARK, that means it's up high enough in the colon to be digested and DARK BLOOD is something that needs medical attention.

:) That's all the talk of anuses and poo I can stand. I'm out!

I didn't have them during my pregnancy but I did have them after my son was born. Tucks pads were a lifesaver!! ( I even considered using an ice pack at one point), Prep H cooliong gel worked better than the cream. For me the cold helped more than anything, I even put the Tucks in the refrigerator, lol! I also took stool softener after so that helped too. I still will have a problem if I get constipated but it's not as bad as it was right after delivery.

Yes. I had them bad! I was carring twins so I had to double the prenatals and iron. Which backed me up and made it worse. They will go away. Try colace. Its a stool softener, prenancy safe. It will help too. You might have a little "scarring" though. I feel for you!

I never had them, but sooo many pregnant woman do. I've never heard of them becoming reoccurring, because of pregnancy.

Another suggestion, get a probitic! That will help your regularity and will help your whole body and immune system I think the probiotics are the reason I never had a problem like this...seriously!! You can go to a natural foods store and purchase them from the refrigerated vitamin section.

Mine did, don't know if that is normal though. Got them all 3 times and went away after each birth...

I had them with both of my pregnancies. They progressively got worse with baby #2 and I had to have surgery the day after delivery. Let me tell you, the surgery was literally the best decision I ever made (I had thrombosed hemorrhoids and they were very painful!). Instant relief after surgery and have never had another hemorrhoid in my life again. Amen! Hemorrhoids very often do go away after delivery but sometimes they don't. Good luck to you...it will be over soon!

I got terrible hemorrhoids from 3 hours of pushing with my first son. They went away about 1 month after he was born. They still return occasionally, (my son is 3) and I have skin tags like some of the other posters mentioned, but the hemorrhoids are about 1% of what they were right after my son was born. With my second son, I pushed for only 30 minutes and did not get them at all.

For me, once I got them, if I get super stressed or exhausted, they can flare up. They key is everything you mentioned. Eat well, lots of water and the biggie is rest!! Take care! I first had them 12 yrs ago and have had some flare ups but never required surgery, thank goodness!! Hang in there :D

baby is 3 months and mine are finally to the point where i at least don't holler and scream anymore. The only thing i didn't try was the surgery. I cringe at your pain....My midwife didn't make me push much with this baby, trying to help my problem this time, but even that didn't help. You either get them or you don't. I H. the best for you!

the pain and inflammation should go away. however, they may leave a permanent skin tag, but not painful.

I had it with my 2nd child.
It went away after.
It has never recurred.

While I was in labour and pushing away the nurse asked me in the most casual tone, "so have you always had hemorrhoids or was this brought on by the pregnancy?" I was like, "great, not only am I in the most compromising position, I didnt even know I had them and now we are discussing it like the weather". Long story short, I still have them but they only make an appearance when I obviously havent had enough fibre or water.

Good Luck

I know they are the worst! I used to cry... They get better. Make sure in addition to fiber that you get enough good fat like from olive oil, avocado, flax or hemp seed, walnuts. This helps things go smoother :). And a probiotic every day always helps.

Yikes, I am so sorry you are in such pain.

I Never have had them but I have a friend that got them with both pregnancies,. She also sits a lot for her work so that did not help. They went away after each pregnancy.

I had them after my first (from pushing in delivery), during and after my second. Mine have gone away for the most part. They will reappear if I have a large B.M., but will only last a few hours after. I found that Prep. H cream and ice packs worked nicely with the tucks pads. The pads helped to hold the cream in place.

I got them AFTER I had my babies. And it took forever for them to go away. I still have the ones from baby 2 and he's 14 months old.

Over the counter creams and perscription creams haven't done me a bit of good, maybe because I have a desk job. Losing weight (I don't know why) and treating it as a YEAST infection has helped.

I did have the doc take a look after a LONG TIME the first go 'round and she said I had 'em, so I am not sure why treating it as something else is the only thing that has worked for me. Mainly, you need to control the itching...and stool softeners are also a good idea.

Good luck!

They go away completely for some but not all. I had issues on and off after having a baby but not nearly as often as when pregnant. I know it's embarrassing, and extremely uncomfortable. For those of us women who've had a baby, we all know your misery. Many women get them worse after a vaginal delivery (from what I've heard) but I've never had a vaginal delivery, only c-sections (I'm currently pregnant with baby # 4) and I was very surprised when I got them immediately after my surgery. Who would have thought!

Sit in a tub of the warmest water you can tolerate. This does help and keep using the products you are using and try your best to avoid straining. If you still can't go, wait until the urge to use the bathroom is undeniable. I never found that adding more fiber helped any but drinking more fluids does without a doubt help considerably. Good luck...

I just delivered my second son two weeks ago, and the severely painful and large hemorrhoids I started getting during my eighth month just finally went away on their own. I know this sounds gross, but as painful as it is to do this sometimes, tucking them back in whenever you use the bathroom really helps (sometimes they pop right back out again as soon as you move, but it seemed like "helping" them made them heal faster). Also - I found that suppositories work better than cream or tucks pads to ease pain...especially if you store them in the refrigerator. Also - you may get some new ones when you deliver. I got two new ones, but they weren't as large, painful or long-lasting as the ones I got pre-delivery.

No one ever talks about the hemorrhoid problem. My neighbor down the street actually had to have surgery to remove the one's she got from 3 pregnancies.

With me, I got mine during labor with my first, and then got them during my second pregnancy.

I hate to admit it, but one of the reasons I am hesitant about a 3rd baby is because I don't want to end up like my neighbor!

Oh yes, walk too! Exercise really helps.

Hi--
Take White Oak Bark (safe for pregnancy). It works wonders!!
J.

You can also try witch hazel. Its a natural astringent that can help them dry out a bit and help keep them clean for healing. They probably will go away after you deliver, but probably not for a week or two. You're going to put a lot more pressure on the area when you push your baby out and that can cause them as well.

They will go away though :)

Had them too during both pregnancies. Got much better after having babies but never went away 100% but I didn't have any discomfort from them after my normal recuperation time, 6-8 weeks (maybe a tiny bit 1-2% that didn't fully go away). I have a friend who recently had the surgery. It was her 2nd time and she said she feels instantly better afterwards. Don't be embarrassed as difficult as it is. It's part of motherhood and not the most difficult part I'm afraid.

I didnt get then during pregnancy, but I DID get them during my labors. I actualy had the same one re-occure after my second labor. My midwife said once you get one, its much easier to re-occur since the area is weaker. I had big babies, but just the pressure of pushing them out gave me hemmorhoids. I just made sure to have a high fiber diet, let my BM slip out and not push AT ALL. Good luck!

I had hemorrhoids and they took several months to go away...and still, they are not totally gone. I have, like, little "tags" that have lingered but do not cause me pain.

Be patient with your body. Pregnancy especially does a lot to you, and they take time to to go away. For me, many of my pregnancy "symptoms" took months to go away, hemorrhoids included; that also included my hyperpigmentation, my swollen hands and feet, even my foot size (that actually took over a year to go back to 1/2 size more than I was originally). I would not even worry about it for a second until there is reason to intervene and do something about it, which I would say (based on my experience) is a least 6-8 months after having the baby.

I was always quite regular before pregnancy and was very disturbed about getting constipated while pregnant. Fortunately, I was so paranoid about being constipated - I just couldn't stand it at all! - that I was very diligent about preventing it. I swear, at times, it was worse going to the bathroom than giving birth! My doctor suggested using stool softeners, but I just didn't like the idea of taking any meds, even OTC, if I could help it. Plus I was worried about dependency on them :(

I think that preventing constipation is a big reason why I did not get the hemerrhoids that so many pregnant women find to be common. And even after 30 hours of labor and prolonged pushing that involved a 2nd degree vaginal tear, I still did not end up with them. I will also add that I am quite overweight and gained 40 pounds while pregnant, so that added additional strain to the area.

I tried drinking tons of water and found that it just made me go pee, but did not help with constipation. The ONLY combination that worked for me was that I tried to find the highest fiber content cereals I could find that I enjoyed. These were primarily any of the Fiber One cereals and raisin bran, for me. I scanned the fiber content on the labels and found the ones that were highest or similar to Fiber One. I ate a large bowl every single morning (probably close to 2 servings). Or if I didn't feel like cereal for breakfast, I made sure I ate a good size bowl as a snack sometime that day.

I also ate one cup of Yo-Plus yogurt every single day. I tried using other brands like Activia and found they did not work as good for me as Yo-Plus.

I also stocked up on Fiber One granola bars and ate those as snacks or whenever I was on the run and didn't have time to eat. At the time I really enjoyed them as a nice treat. The chocolate and oats one tasted like a candy bar :)

If I skipped the cereal or yogurt more than one day, I noticed a BIG difference in my stool. It made such a difference. I will warn you, however, to be prepared for MAMMOTH bowel movements that might require manual removal from the toilet LOL

My reason for sharing this is that although it's not going to provide you immediate relief, like maybe a topical treatment, following a diet high in fiber and rich in probiotics, like what is found in the specialty yogurts, might help with healing and to alleviate them over time and may even prevent flare ups, especially as your body gets back to normal after pregnancy. Because, the constipation issues doesn't go away right after birth. If hemmorrhoids, are in fact due to a lot of straining, then you want to do whatever necessary to alleviate that. And a high fiber diet will help tremendously.

Good Luck!

Yes, you'll suffer after pregnancy, expecially if you deliver vaginally. This is one of the price to pay for motherhood!! As your doc recommended, use preparation H or tucks wipes.
Hang in there, your precious baby will make you forget the pain.

Luckily I didn't have them, but my hubby does. Try some witch hazel (in the drug store near the rubbing alcohol). Also, taking a stool softener should help. Keep drinking your water.

I had them after I delivered both babies. Oh they are awful so I really feel for you!!

The one thing that really helped mine feel so much better was the internal suppositories. I tried all the external wipes and creams, but until I got up the courage to put the suppository "up in there" I didn't find much relief.

I have only had one bout with them sense the birth of my daughter 4 years ago. It only lasted a few days and then they went away again.

Oh and buy a donut pillow to sit on...that really helped me as well. Hugs!!

Once you get them you have them, its a matter of aggrivating a flare up. My Mom suffers them, rarely now, but when they flare up she request Proctofoam, you used to be able to use it internally but now everything is topical.

i had mine after delivery(internal and external) i was in so much pain plus the lovely bleeding so i tried all the different junk the doctors suggest and none worked plus very unattractive to be using.
i finally searched the web and found out about www.amoils.com all natural essential oils. i figured what the hell i tried everything else none worked and cost lots of money. i was breast feeding at the time as well. i bought the bleeding hemeroids for pregnant women and the healing hemeroids for pregnant women. it took a little time and money but it worked miraculously. you have to follow the directions exactly! or you will prolong your healing. its not cheap but definately not a waste of money and ridding yourself of the pain is worth every penny. of course take care of your digestive system. i took colace stool softener and that helped with the discomfort of bowel movements. good luck you poor girl :(

I had horribly painful hemorrhoids with my 2nd pregnancy. I don't have then any more, thank goodness. I used Preparation H cream several times a day and that helped, but it can take a few days to work. I did have issues with them for a little while after I had my son, but after a few weeks they went away on their own.

I had them and i had to use stool softners for the first few months and it still acted up every once in a while after that. they probably went away totally after about 9 months-a year

Had them after baby one, they never went away. Wasn't so good after second baby and they never went away. Not sure if I should go to the doctor but they flare up if I have too many bowel movements in one day or if I sit on my butt too long (approx 10 hours or more). But for the most part, I still have them but I don't have any issues with them. You should def talk to your doctor after you have the baby to see what your options are. The tucks only worked for me immediately after having the baby. After that they had some hospital grade cream that I used that was a life saver.

I was fortunate to not have them, but try a stiz bath. I've heard it is very helpful.

I have struggled with hemorrhoids for as long as I can remember- even before I had kids. I do remember that with my first child they were especially bad for a few weeks afterward and I had to sit on a blow up donut to take the pressure off. I wish there was a cure for them, but I can assure you that they do eventually die down and that preparation H and the tucks wipes will definitely help out. I wish I could say that once they die down they do go away for forever, but they come back pretty much every time you have a bowel movement, but fade more and more quickly each time they flare up. I wish I had a great answer for you to comfort you, but, eventually, you get used to them and they aren't a big deal, it is only when they are new that they hurt the worst. Good luck!!!

mine didn't go away forever. They come back every once in a while. And its true preparation H & tucks wipes pretty much do nothing to help.

I had the before and they were worse right after delivery. The hospital gave me some topical ointment to put on them, and that took care of the problem. Also, you can take some stool softeners after birth, which will help them from getting worse. I also found it helpful to use an Epsom salt compress on them.
Hope this helps.

I had three kids and never had them. My girlfriend got them with her only pregnancy. They got a little better for a while afterwards but she did end up needing surgery. Sorry! I think it's just going to be luck of the draw.

My doctor gave me a prescription...it worked much better than Prep. H. (don't know the name of it) Also, once you get them, you are more susceptible to getting them again, per my doctor.

I didn't get them with my pregnancy but I was very afraid I would. I've always had issues with constipation and I noticed it got worst while I was pregnant. So I started snacking on prunes, 5 a day. Also a fiber one oats & chocolate bar every other day. Not sure if constipation is the cause of hemmrpids. But if they are, thats what I did to try to prevent them. Also, not sure if you have an asian market near you but they sell a brand of soymilk that is fortified with fiber and that usually does the trick for me - I think its called vitasoy. Hope you dont suffer for long.