A.J. asks from Fort Worth, TX on September 30, 2009
I Am Lost!!!!!
Hey mommas I need you again...
I am getting married November 7th we jst set the date and it is only 5 weeks away!! I have never even thought about getting married until now..... but because of some time constraints we have to do it quick... I need advice, input, directions anything and everything... This is going to be small affair in afriends backyard but i need budget friendly ideas for decorations, dresses, flowers... We are on an really tight budget...i am not from this area and I don't even know where to begin to look or what to do. I AM 100 PERCENT LOST!!!!.... PLEASE HELP
R.K. answers from Abilene on September 30, 2009
Don't forget Hobby Lobby. A lot of times they have their wedding decorations 50% off. If not they are always having cupons for 40% off one item. My sister got married this summer and bought her brides and grooms cake at Walmart. They turned out very nice. I have a size 2T flower girl dress and blue bridesmaids dress you can have if you are interested. E'mail me and I can send you pictures. Good luck.
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M.G. answers from Dallas on October 01, 2009
Here are my two cents: You are EXTREMELY stressed. When I am extremely stressed, I just want the stress to GO AWAY. You have the power to make your wedding planning stress go away, which is, forget about a wedding! I say this b/c since money is so tight for you, it's not worth it!! Save your money for important things, like your kids. Don't waste the little money you have on flowers or food for your guests or anything else. I say just go to city hall and get married and be done with it. To celebrate your marriage, either go out to dinner w/ your family and perhaps close friends, or order in (that will even be cheaper)! Have some champaigne and celebrate! Your stress is NOT worth it! It will make you sick. Congrats on your upcoming wedding, hopefully stress free and at city hall.
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L.C. answers from Saginaw on September 30, 2009
Once upon a time, before society magazines and bridal shows made people think otherwise, a 'normal' wedding would take place in the morning, at the local parish, usually on a weekday (when the clergy had free time) and was followed by a 'wedding breakfast' often provided by the church ladies or the bride's extended family. Everyone wore their regular 'Sunday best' and wedding presents were rare, given only by very wealthy or very close relatives. The guest list was either 'the parish' or the couple's parents, best friends and siblings --like 40 people, max.
No decorations, no 'entertainment' and no expectation of 150 people being fed, wined and danced in some fairy tale castle until the wee hours. Of course, much of what happens at weddings today wasn't done by royalty at gala 'balls' 200 years ago. Or, rather, the kinds of things that happened at balls have all been collected together and now couples are expected to re-enact everything possible, all in one day, all at tremendous expense. Why?!?
Fresh, local flowers that are not 'arranged' by professionals make nice decorations and bouquets --they are a lot cheaper than exotics and anything a pro wrote 'wedding' on. There is something about the word 'bride' that brings out the dollar signs, in many industries. Even party planners tend to add 50-200% to their prices just because it's a wedding, not a retirement or birthday. Which is ridiculous, but apparently a great many people are going along with it.
If you time the wedding and afterparty for between obvious meal times (like wedding at 1:30, party from 2 - 4:30) people will not expect to be fed, or fed much, and you can just do the cake thing and leave.
Remember, this isn't your Princess Day. That was your 5th birthday. This is your 'I'm an adult who can be fiscally-responsible' celebration of the beginning of your marriage. There is no reason to go into debt for this, not the least because debt is a bad place to start a marriage!
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L.E. answers from Dallas on October 01, 2009
You are going to do what you want to do, but I strongly remember one of your previous requests. I went and looked and it was just August 6, 2009. That is WAY to soon to be getting married. You say that he changed but yet you describe how he was going right back to his old ways. My advice is still the same, learn to stand on your own two feet. Just because you don't want to be alone, really? Grow up and get help before it's too late!!!!!!!
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A.C. answers from Dallas on October 01, 2009
I didn't read other responses, but my brother in law just got married last week and we helped with a luncheon after the wedding. We started at the dollar store for decorations. One of the best things we found was for centerpieces for the tables, some heart-shaped candy dishes, then got bags of candy, like after-dinner mints, and Hershey's kisses, to fill the dishes - simple, looks nice, and everyone loved the candy! But the dollar store has some surprisingly nice decorations, streamers, balloons, stuff for centerpieces, tablecloths, and of course, paper plates, napkins, cups, etc. in a variety of colors - so if you're not looking for anything too fancy, I'd start there.
M.M. answers from Dallas on October 01, 2009
Our wedding was in my in-law's backyard. One thing I did to cut cost was to get a basic 3 tier cake from the local grocery store - no decorations. I decorated it with fresh flowers from that season. We didn't have centerpieces. Each bridesmaid had a small handful of wildflowers and I carried 3 cala lilies, all tied with a simple ribbon. Dinner was a backyard BBQ. Our wedding was simple, inexpensive and turned out beautiful. Remember to have fun and enjoy your day. Good luck on your new journey!
P.G. answers from Dallas on September 30, 2009
Definitely have your friends be a part of it, and if they have a special talent, etc., that can be their gift to you for your wedding. For my wedding, one friend bought the flowers, another sewed the bridesmaids dresses, etc. Take advantage of Fall - pumpkins are EVERYWHERE in all kinds of sizes (for centerpieces). The other moms gave some great advice, so try to relax. It's YOUR day, do what YOU want to do and enjoy. Target even makes wedding cakes, and their cake samples are YUMMY. You're friends are just going to be happy for you, so have fun :)
S.R. answers from Amarillo on October 01, 2009
Congratulations! I just wanted to tell you about my wedding. My husband and I were VERY short of money, basically no budget at all. This was back in 1991, and we were afraid he would have to ship out for the Gulf War, so we also had no time to plan things. My dress cost $40, and was just an ordinary department store one. I did splash out on new shoes. My husband wore his one and only suit. We got married at city hall, with my mother, sister and nephew as guests. After the ceremony we went to Burger King for something to eat, then home, and my mom took some pictures of us, and that was it!
We have been married almost 19 years now, and look back on that day with very fond memories. Remember, it's not the stuff, it's the love and the people that matter. We always meant to renew our vows and do the whole big thing, but so far we haven't, and I don't feel at all like I missed out.
Try and enjoy this time as much as you can, and don't stress too much. You don't need all the trimmings to have a successful marriage.