I was being told by the soon to be ex that because I got a lawyer It was required by law to have them notify his lawyer. or something like that. Does anyone know if this is true and if it is, what are the basics of it. Like how long do you have before you have to tell them? Not sure I tried to look it up online but not sure what to look for and just trying to see if thers any truth to any he says.
Mind you I am just asking, because I don't know the law, and I did not allow him to bully me this time. He threated me with and injuncion or whatever its called to get me removed from the house last night because I didn't trust him and that I supposedly wanted to take money instead of items or whatever. Then threated to call the cops on me for whatever reason, Once I finnaly told him I had a lawyer he said I lied about it and I probably did because I didn't trust to tell him yet. Said he got it on tape and all that crap. Whatever. I got him telling me he wouldn't need to use a knife on me he could break my neck in two with his bare hand, (perhaps a joke but that doesn't go well when your getting a divorce) By my best friend who was on the phone at the time. I told him that and that I was going to the neighbors taking my son and I was going to call the cops and go to the rape and domestic abuse place. He cried and pleaded with me not to because he would go to prison. I should have called, but I didn't. But I wasn't going to be bullied by him anymore. It finnaly calmed down enough that he was talking but hes in a major up roar of oh pity me cus things aren't going his way. Rolls eyes. Anyways. Just lett you know I Am not letting him bully me anymore.
only your lawyer can answer that-thats what he gets paid for-never hesitate to questions...good luck....and quit listening to your ex..hes just trying to mess with your head...heres a peice of advice i wish i wouldve listened to....
get spousal support along with child support-anything you can...good luck..
Your attorney will notify your husband's attorney indicating that you now have legal representation. Any contact regarding legal matters should now go through your attorneys. If your divorce has been commenced in court (ie. the petition has been filed) then your attorney will enter an appearance on your behalf so that he/she receives all paperwork/offers, etc. No notification is necessary until a divorce petition is filed at which point it will have to be served on the non-filing spouse. If you just met with an attorney there is no need for your husband to have that info. If you have retained an attorney to represent you then, by all means, allow the attorney to do so and tell your husband that communication needs to be via your attorneys.
Okay you really need to accept your ex is not a lawyer and to be frank, stupid. There is no legal notification required. I filed for divorce, I found about his lawyer when he answered my complaint. He had until the hearing that was scheduled by my filing to answer. It is not the hearing that compelled him it was that he hired his lawyer to answer my complaint, get it?
You can request you attorney send a letter of notification. I usually do this when I have to deal with him post divorce so he stops bothering me with his inane interpretations of our divorce decree. I don't think his attorney understand law, he certainly doesn't understand tax law.
You need to stop with the lies and truth, your ex is an idiot, he just doesn't know better.
your attorney will notify his attorney in writing or he can just show up to the 1st hearing & he will file his papers with the courts that he is representing you....don't listen to your ex, in fact don't talk to him at all, don't respond to him in any way shape or form.
Okay.
You can hire an attorney at any time you want. Sounds like you need one.
Your ex will find out that you have an attorney when you file a response to his petitions and your attorney files them on your behalf.
Now....did you file papers previously in this same case representing yourself as your own attorney? Did you file "In Pro Per" ? If you did, you cannot have another attorney represent you in court without filing a substituion of attorney form that is filed with the court and becomes part of the court record.
My ex had about 4 different attorneys in our divorce because he fired them for not trying hard enough to screw me over. Substitution of attorney forms had to be filed each time.
You can't just switcheroo who is representing you.
But, you can get an attorney any time. They review your case, go over pleadings, etc, then file that they are representing you.
I think you need to have as little dealings with your ex as possible and keep your information close to your vest. Don't get into the details of what you're doing. Let your lawyer handle that.
If he is recording what you say, say nothing. Hang up. Shut the door. End it. Let him sound like the maniac for the weird stuff he says. I recorded stuff on the advice of the police department because my ex violated restraining orders. All there was to hear was his craziness and my hanging up.
DO NOT FEED INTO ANYTHING HE TRIES TO PULL.
Do you have an attorney or don't you?
These are questions to ask the person representing you.
I think you need to request an order so that there is no communication between you other than in writing and through your attorneys.
You've got a bumpy road ahead of you at the very least.
Best wishes.
If you say you are going to do something such as call the police or a women's shelter, then do it. Don't threaten. Don't even say......just do it.
If you don't intend to follow through, don't open your mouth about it.
This will never stop or get better if you don't end the back and forth.
Divorce is hard. Been there. You have a part in not allowing things to continue. Or escalating.
No offense. It's hard I know.
Engage your ex as little as possible no matter what he says. You don't owe it to him to tell him everything you are doing.
I would call the domestic shelter so they can help you keep your head on straight. Lord knows they helped me.
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D., I don't have much to add except I am so proud of you for taking a stand! I hope you stay strong through it all.
I will be your loudest cheerleader!
:)
I think your lawyer will know.
