I have only been married for 4.5 years. We have 2 daughters, and are VERY happy. Dont, get me wrong,im not complaining about my marriage or sex life, beacause both are good in my opinion. But we have to schedule our sex now, it seems like its hard to be spontaneous when we have such little kids. So my question is, how do you guys spice up the sex life? what do you do that drives your man wild? and anything else that u wanna share....thanks ;)
Fix him his favorite dinner, innitiate sex when he's not expecting it, ask him to come in the shower with me (after the kids are in bed), Do certain "deeds" that I don't so for him very often, give each other massages...
Both of your other questions DISAPPEARED!! WOW! SAD!! It's amazing to me how fast that happens!
It's all in the wording huh?? It's not like you said GIVE ME ALL THE DETAILS OF YOUR SEX LIFE!! You asked a question!
Seriously!
I'm not married anymore but I would say, racey texts back ad forth through the day..possibly pics too, massaging eachother,every once in a while J. being about that person expecting nothing in return, massages, and whatever their favorite is in bed, also schedule a babysitter once a week/month and have them watched outside of the house even if only for an hour or two to conenct.......and slave for a day! go on a date compete at bowling....and whoever wins has to do what the other wishes for the whole day...(babysitter required) ALSO dressing up in lingeree and heals! or whatever outfir makes u feel good! secretly have the kids babysat and when he comes home being coking in heals and a cute tiny outfit!
We send dirty texts and I sometimes suprise him with a pic.
We also make date nights mandatory and have done so since we got married almost 23 yrs ago.
A huge one is talking to each other about your turn ons, your hidden kinks (if you have any) your hidden pleasure places, the ones his finds sometimes but doesn't know about, the ones that drive you mad if only he would stay there. This can be a little intimidating (it was for me), but I recommended it.
Dirty texts are one of my favorite things too. I can get him going before he's even in the door!
I also ask my husband quite frequently what would spice it up for him. Sometimes it's talking dirty during foreplay (which is SO not me!), sometimes it's long, slow kisses, etc.
I also think doing it in a random part of the house (our bedroom closet, living room etc.) always changes it up and it adds some spice because Lord only knows our son could walk in any time. It makes it a little bit more "wrong" which we all know makes it more fun...
Hope this helps! :)
Sext him during the day.
Put on some kicking blues and one of you do a strip tease for the other.
Flavored lubricants.
Toys aren't just for solo sex - play with them together.
Hmmm...flirting throughout the day and sexting help to create the build up and is fun and a bit refreshing at times lol...it is hard with kids but making the time is definitely worth it. I was looking at a site called SkinnyScoop and 56% of women stated that they change the location to spice up bedroom "activities":
http://www.skinnyscoop.com/question/q/2805?utm_campaign=t...
As far as schdeuling time for sex, you are not alone on that one! Life gets hectic, but it is something that time needs to be made for to keep a healthy relationship (not to mention the personal health benefits from sex).
http://www.skinnyscoop.com/question/q/1433?utm_campaign=t...
Well, I'm still a newlywed so its still pretty spicey! :o) But we text each other throughout the day and say some things that we can get each other heated up about! We also randomly grope each other! :o) When the kids aren't looking!!! I'm also very open sexually and tell him if there is ever something he wants to do just let me know and I'm game! I think you should just ask him too...what he likes, if there's something he wants to try. And I also compliment him all the time and pump him up. I tell him how I truly feel, that he works harder than anyone I know, that he is the best father of anyone I know and that I respect him so much and appreciate everything he does for us. I think when men feel good about themselves, they are willing to do more for us. Oh, and for a joke I bought those sex dice that you roll and have to do what comes up on them...they are fun! Good luck and have fun!!!
hmm... this might be tmi, but quickies are so much fun plus we still flirt quite heavily with each other ;)
Been married for 13 years and there are always down times when you are both worn out and the scheduling gets boring. We LOVE using dirty text and even pics sometimes. Talk of what we want to do to the other when we get home. granted there are some nights we plan things and both end up passing out as soon as our head hits the pillow lol. We jsut joke about it the next day and be sure to make up for it :-)
We also like to tease a little with small touches here and there through out the day/evening. Like as I am cooking he will kiss the back of my neck, things like this that heighten the anticipation. And anytime get time with out kids, they are at grandparents, both napping etc, seize the moment and Enjoy! :-)
