So one of my best friends does hair. She offered to do mine because I've been meaning to for a while. So I did. I talked to her about what I wanted and I got the idea that she understood. I wanted to do it so that my light brown hair kinda faded into a red. She did the whole foiling process and had me bake so it took about three and a half hours. It's late by now, almost 7:45 do I was kinda hard to see it without natural light l, but I really liked how it turned out. We went out and everyone thought my hair was really cute. Then this morning in the natural light it looked like it started to high, looks like I've been dying my hair this red color and that I have a month or so outgrowth. I was expecting more brown at the top, and I got about an inch to and two inches. How do I let her know that I don't like it and wanted more brown without hurting her feelings? Would I get this fixed or just wait for natural outgrowth?
I probably wouldn't tell her especially if she didn't charge you or gave you a discount.
I would just wait a few weeks and go to someone else. I'm a huge fan of cute hats so if it is that bad I would wear it. I wore a hat for 6 weeks when I broke my wrist and was unable to style my hair.
You said everyone thought your hair looked cute - you initially liked it (but changed your mind later) - so it's not hideous - just not exactly what you envisioned.
Lesson learned - don't let her do your hair again.
Just wait for it to grow out.
Why not change it now? - well you changed your mind once - you might change it back again - in the mean time give your hair a rest.
As far as what you tell your friend - thank her for taking all that time on your hair and let it go.
You don't. You let it go. Either you go to another colorist and take the chance that it won't turn out right either, or you let it grow out for about 4 to 5 weeks.
It's not a good idea to have a friend do your hair. Now you know why. It's not work losing a friendship over.
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Well you definitely do not have to live with haircolor you don't like - color can be changed.
But in terms of fixing it, you know your friend better than we do - is she the type of person whose feelings should be protected by you staying silent and getting your hair fixed elsewhere, or, is she the type of person who would want you to give her a chance to fix it herself?
(Also - if you get your hair fixed elsewhere and she sees it, you might end up having to tell her the truth either way.)
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It doesn't sound like your friend messed up your hair. It sounds like your hair is settling. You need to give it a few weeks to tone down.
If she didn't charge you for it? I wouldn't say anything. IF you do change it? And she notices? I would say - I thought I liked it but ended up wanting something different.
You were happy when you left her place and thought it was really cute. Now you don't like it?
Did you show her a picture of what you wanted done? If not? It sounds like she did what you wanted. You don't like what you wanted. That's not messing up your hair.
It's color. You can color over it. You can cut it. It will grow back. This is NOT drama. You can tell her the truth. It's not the way I imagined it would be. I'm going to just color my hair all one color.
Give your new hair color a chance to settle in. Hair coloring is a tricky business. It usually starts out vibrant and then tones down after time.
If you are able to speak your truth in love, you probably won't have any problems or hurt feelings.
I dyed my hair red once. It was as bright as a fire truck day 1. I was nearly devastated but in about a week or so it was the color I was going for. It just needed time to tone down.
Manage your expectations about your hair color and let your friend know how you feel about it.
I'm curious as to how you would handle the situation if she were not a friend. If your friend isn't a licensed hair technician, she may not know everything needed to fix your problem or may have done something unknowingly. The good news is that hair grows and it will grow out soon enough. Good luck to you.
A co-worker of mine was a stylist. She did my hair. I ended up having to get it fixed. I just explained it wasn't what I was looking for. I'm just a say-it-like-it-is type person. If you're honest, but kind, it's ok.
My feeling about your hair is that give it a few weeks and it will look like what you want. Hair color fades quite a lot the first few times you wash it. I bet once you have some more growth, it will be similar to what you were looking for.
If I drastically want to change my hair, I bring a photo. I learned my lesson.
I would ask her if next time she could do a little more of this and that. Maybe draw her a picture of what you want?
I hate going to the hair salon because I never get what I paid for.
