My children have only been going to daycare since the first of Jan. My daughter started off in the toddler room with her 17 mos twin brothers. In the last few weeks she has moved down to the 3 yr room. Since moving she cries and runs after me in the AM when I drop them off. I do not know what I can do to ease this for her. She has a good time at school I call and check on her. Her teacher says she is doing so well and she doesn't want to leave at the end of the day. I tears me up inside that she is so sad in the AM. What can I do? I work full time now and their dad and I split in OCT. I am a single mom trying to figure all of this out. If anyone has some advise I am open to it. Maybe this is not as big of a deal as I am making it. Thanks, A.
Hi-
I understand - the harest thing is when your chlid cries when you leave daycare. If it is any consolation, my daughter is also 3 - and has been in daycare since she was 9 weeks old. She still has a hard time separating from me when I drop her off - but she is fine once I am gone. As long as she is ok during the day, rest assured that the momentary trauma in the morning is harder on you than it is on her.
good luck!
What I found to work for me is talking about how much fun she will have at school that day on the car ride to daycare. When we get there, I try to get her settled into an activity with another child such as coloring or playing with babies. The teachers can be really helpful here, they have started having an activity table set-up for those early morning drop-offs. They have crayons and paper or playdough out, so the kids can jump right in and get busy. I then ask her if she can make me a pretty picture so she can give it to me when I pick her up. Give a big hug and kiss and scoot out the door.
Hope this helps!
C.
I tell my 3year-old(who had to change the same way your daughter did)that he has school like his brother and sister.Than on the trip there i ask him who he's going to play with or what he thinks he'll learn for the day.Than i ask him to color me something pretty.
we go in and he washes his hands,we hang up his coat and i give him a kiss and we leave.The workers there always grab him and snuggle or talk with him.He just started day care the first week in Feb and he's doing well.He had 1 ruff day but other than that i always make a ig deal about it...
Maybe that'll help and i'm sure it'll get easier for both of you
how about letting her be dropped off with her siblings and then they move her when you have left.
Make sure Dad gets involved as much as possible.
Look into support groups such as Parents without partners, ask Church groups, etc.
Sounds normal, she is still adjusting. I think it may take some time but she is fine if she is having a great rest of the day and doesn't want to leave. If something was wrong she wouldn't want to be there at all.
I would just gently and lovely remind ehr you love her and she will be picked up in the afternoon, have a great day and leave. She will be fine as you already know I am sure. Just don't stay and coo at her, then she is controlling you.
