Help with Fertility Questions.

Likely stress and trying too hard is the problem - I really don't think food choices would have that great of an impact on fertility. Also, do you have family in the area? While it may seem economical to have a baby while your husband is gone, I personally couldn't fathom making a conscious decision to have a child when the father couldn't be there for the birth and during the early days. And, without family support, the early days would be extremely difficult.

I would think you are WAY too young and haven't tried nearly long enough to consider in vitro - also keep in mind the potential for multiple births when you take that route. Also, considering you didn't want children in the past, how do you think you would handle being a single mother for 9 months? Kids are a wonderful blessing and IMHO there is no greater joy in this world than holding your newborn child in your arms, but reality will hit very soon thereafter and your life will never be the same again - for better in some regards and for worse in others - my quality of sleep has not been the same since my first child was born over 16 years ago. And, the amount of quiet time I get is minimal - having a newborn with no father around will likely mean that you get no quiet time.

And, yes, I know i didn't answer your direct question, but my advice is to keep yourself busy while your husband's gone taking classes or something and then relax and take your time starting your family when he gets back, so he can be a part of it.

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Hello!

The best advice I was given is try not to think about it too much - easier said than done! When I was working and traveling a bunch we were trying to get pregnant with our second child. I started taking ovulation predictor tests (available in most drug stores) and it worked for us. The test tells you when you are ovulating and helps you determine the best time for intercourse. Yes, takes out the spontaneity of it, but when you are crunched for time and with him leaving soon this is your best option. It also took me about 4-6 months before I become pregnant with both of mine so you are well within the norm. Best of luck!

Rest assured that you are not wrong in wanting to become pregnant before your husband leaves and that decision is between only you and him. No one else matters :)
Now, I don't know that this method is proven, but ........everytime that I started working out to lose unwanted pregnancy weight I always ended up getting pregnant again. Seems like when I start trying to eat right and get into shape my body decides it might be a good time to support a pregnancy. Maybe that will work for you. Eat healthy, get on a eating schedule, and work out. I would probably do cardio workouts like videos and treadmill. Other than that, just get him to fulfill his part of the process and pray pray pray. If it is meant to happen it will. Don't get anxious about it, just relax and let things happen.

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My husband and I tried for 2 years until I finally went and bought a ovulation kit from the store. After using it, I got pregnant! It turned out that it was just timing.

I personally would not want to be pregnant while my husband was gone though. I would want to share the whole experience with him. I couldn't imagine going through the pregnancy & birth without my significant other to share that joy.

This may sound crazy, but it worked for a friend at work, and I didn't see anyone post it here yet. A nurse suggested Robitussin to my coworker. She took it at night before bed - the idea being that it thins the mucus in your nose and chest, and it will thin the "mucus" other places as well. It may have been a fluke, but it's a pretty inexpensive thing to try for a week. Good luck!

Hi A., the only thing I can tell you is to relax and try not to think of it. I know it is very hard to understand that. With my son, my husband and I tried for two months with me checking the dates of ovulation and making sure we were doing it the right time. Well, he told me the following month that he wanted to take a break and I was good with that. Well, out of the blue the following month we were not careful and the first time without protection it happened. I know it was because I was not stressing myself out anymore. Have you tried to look around on BabyCenter. There are a lot of women on the website trying to get pregnant and share their secrets. Good luck to you and keep us posted! :)

Relax. Don't try so hard. It will happen.

I agree with the ladies who suggested Taking Charge of Your Fertility. My hairdresser told me about it after her daughter and three of her friends got pregnant within a couple of months after reading it. I read it and my daugher will be 2 in July. I'm grateful to you and your family for your service to our country. Best of luck!

I don't have any advice on the fertility problem except maybe with the stress of knowing he's going away that's whats hindering it. I am an active duty Navy wife (husband has been in for 13 years) and my advice to you is wait until he returns from Iraq. He will miss a lot. The baby would be almost a year old when he returns and it will be hard on you having a baby with no support from your hubby. My husband was on 6 month deployment when our daughter was born almost 10 years ago and he missed the first 3 months of her life which he regrets not being able to be there when she was born or to help out with feedings or changings or to hold her. I know that is probably not the advice you want to hear, but it's something you should consider. Whatever you decide I wish you luck & a safe return of your hubby.

Personally I see nothing wrong with trying for a baby before he goes. And that therein is potentially the problem. You guys are "trying" so hard that you are tying too hard. I know it is hard to relax about it and let it come naturally because in the back of your mind is the fact that "we have to hurry, you are leaving". You do have time. Slow down, enjoy each other's company, maybe try a romantic weekend somewhere so you can just relax and enjoy each other's company without worrying so much about "gotta get pregnant". Besides a nice weekend alone would be a special time for you before he goes. I am former military and know that you will have a great support system even if he is away at the time. With video camera's etc he too can be involved in the birth. Good luck to you both.

Go get the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Dr. Toni Weschler. It will help you understand what is going on with your cycles and when you are most fertile. Most doctors will not send you to a fertility specialist until you have tried for 6 months or more or you have had successive miscarriages. Still, if you do want to go to a fertility dr, I LOVE mine.

Dr. James Douglas
http://www.ivfplano.com/

I have had one successful pregnancy with Dr. Douglas. We did not have to do IVF. He was able to pinpoint my issues and got me pregnant in 3 months when I had been trying for 10 years and had been with Dr. Doody before. I recommend staying away from the Doody office!

GL and God bless!

Hi,
I would recommend that you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Excellent book. It would help you identify when your best time to conceive would be.