HELP Moms Have a Major Issue.

T.,

Most likely he saw something on TV and now he's trying to imitate it. don't make a big deal to him about it. however, start talking about having privacy, etc. and as soon as you can, have them sleep in separate rooms. start doing baths separate. find "an excuse" or activity to keep them separate at bath time. have dad play a special game with him while you give her a bath. then if he asks just say that she already had her bath when he was busy playing with daddy. if he brings up the subject of girlfriend/boyfriend, ask him how does he know that. tell him that you're curious about who told him. make it a casual conversation.
Good luck and hang in there! remember, re-direct, re-direct, re-direct. do keep the info straight forward and simple. if they ask what are breasts for... for mamies to give milk to their babies, etc. That's what I would try. good luck!
~C.~

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Some children do have more curiosity about bodies. Some children are affected more intensly than others by what they have observed among other children, TV and movies. He is not being bad but he is old enough to learn about setting and respecting boundaries on his body as well as others. It is definitly time for them to be separated at bath time and in sleeping arrangements. Your little girl does not need to be his anatomy lesson. Also you may need to be stricter about what he is exposed to on TV and movies and in person.

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Welcome to the world of "boy"- Ha! gotta love them- Just explain to him that it's in appropriate- a big word but they get it and ask him right out if he has any questions. My son was my first born and he knows more about girls that you can imagine- His girlfriend needed him to bring a tampon to her where she was working and he atually asked her- lite, med or heavy? LOL I just kept him informed and it made him respect the aspect of the female even more. He is 17 now but at 4- the curiosity was there- I would have them sleeping in their own beds tho to be honest- jsut to discourage the boyfriend/girlfriend aspect for now plus its just better that way anyway. But hes not too young to understand what is proper and what "married" people do and what is expected of siblings. But its just mimicking at this point and curiosity= theres tv and so many other stimulus that give us mom extra work- so its normal as long as he understands the boundaries- Catch it now before the kindergarten teacher sends you a note- ha! Good think to ask -you know its ok and you are not alone!
He will soon be asking you why his pee pee gets hard too so be prepared for that- lol -It happens several times to boys throughout the night at very early ages.
I just told my son b/c you have to go pee until he was like 10- but it does become a new found toy for a while!
Keep a journal for them to read when they are older- they will get a kick out of it!

D.

I did not experience this with my kids, but they are 6 years apart. I would definitely start establishing boundaries of privacy while in the bathroom and while dressing. For him it would probably be appropriate to get an age appropriate book about good touch/bad touch. Not only his sister, but when you allow him to spend time at a friends house you want to start this etiquette now before you have problems. Not only appropriate action to other children, but you want him safe. If your new rules and lessons don't help in a couple of months I think I would consider counseling just to make sure I was dealing with the situation age appropriately.

My five year old keeps asking me when we can 'get married' and tried to slip everyone the tongue for a good month or so. It's normal - ish for them to be curious. It's also normal for parents to sit and have talks with their kids about privacy and boundaries and such.

S.

I have a four year old boy and a six year old boy and them staring is totally normal you just have to stop dressing in front of them which you said you already stopped as far as the other problem I'm not sure about that. That sounds a little strange to me. Does he watch something on TV sometimes that maybe he shouldn't? You should stop bathing them together for sure. If it continues maybe talk to his Dr about the problem because this could be damaging your poor little girl. Good luck.

I really don't think that is normal. I would stop letting them have baths together and change the sleeping arrangemenst. I would Definitely talk to your son to see why he is acting this way. Tell him that is not a a way that he should act towards mommy or sister or any femal for that matter. Tell him in a way that he doesn't feel what he's doing is bad but not appropiate..
Tell him that God doesn't like that and we need to do things to make God happy.

I hope this helps.
Blessings
M.

no that is not normal you might need to look into this type of behavior maybe who he is around or what he is watching on tv. watch his behavior these are warning signs trust me