Help!!! Curious Little Boy??

I am a mother of four a 21 y/o, 9y/o, and a boy and girl who are 5 yr old twins. they are also very curious, my son was caught in the girls bathroom with a girl in the stall while she was attempting to pee. also it seems to be funny to talk about private parts. I just tell them that it is not right to see other peoples private parts, i am also a nurse so I know that around this age, they start getting feeling in their private parts. just watch it, he should grow out of it

If you've already had the talk about how there are parts of his body that only should be touched by a doctor or a medical person if necessary or when being bathed, etc., you can help him understand that the other child has the same rules, so they can't touch one another. Probably, the less of a big deal that is made, the better, as it is probably normal curiosity and there's always that comparison thing that goes on. He is right at the age where this is common, as I recall. We had some similar things happen when our kids were 4 or 4-1/2. They have all grown up to be well-adjusted adults.

Hey E. S, honey welcome to the world of change. Children have always been curious,if you think back you were once curious about things too. Solution: It is a known fact that the children of today are more conscious to things and about things than the past generation. I would simply sit down with him and talk to him on his level and trust me he will tell you why he does this, maybe, probably someone did him out of curiousity, we as parents will be surprise at the things that our children have done to them and they don't think it is wrong. So talk with him and tell him why is it wrong, why it is a NO! NO! COMMUNICATION is everything and it can start now. I am sharing what i know from experience. Bless you and may God protect your son and your family.

I wouldn't freak out, probably just curiousity. But that wouldn't stop me from having a talk with him about it. Let him know that his hands are to be kept to himself and other people's hands are to be kept to themselves. I think most kids need a lesson in "touching".....for safety reasons too.

My advice is to watch the t.v. shows he might be exposed to and block them because television is a big influence on kids.Try to have a pep talk,ask him why and do you want to act this way because his actions can really effect on the future of his life.You must really put this head first this situatuion can result of a very bad behavior especially during teenage years as of making your son queerish and no you are not the only one catch it now and you should be good.I really hope this helps.

I wouldn't panic, but I would be concerned...

Do you have the special conversations with him about strangers, body parts, privacy, secrets, etc? If not, this would be a good time. If you're not confortable, ask someone to give you the words to say or to have the conversation with you.

You definitely want to make sure that he's not been taken advantage of instead of it being just a simple curiosity issue gone bad!

It is normal at this age. Just normal childhood curiosity. Just calmly talk to him that private areas are private and we don't show others or touch others what our bathing suit covers. It's important to talk about it with him, but don't make too big a deal of it because you don't want him to think you are mad at him. I have seen people get really mad at their kids, yelling at them (we had a situation like this with another family members child exposing himself to my boys and even found him trying to force my boys to take their pants down!) I really freaked out and it caused some unnecessary hurt to all involved. My pediatrician was a real help in dealing with this issue also. Hope that helps.

I had the same situation with my five year old son. He was taking little kids to the corner to see their private parts. We (my husband and I) had to assure him that although he is curious, it is not appropriate and should not do that. It took some time but he finally is over his curiosity and found something new....my computer :-)

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I would look into this a little deeper, he is too young to be curious. I believe this is learned behaviour and maybe someone a little older could have exposed him. You work full time, who stays with him and when you are not home? I am not saying this to scare you but try to observe and do not leave your child alone with other children where he will have an opportunity to do the things he has been doing. Let the pre-k teacher know and she can observe him at school.

I wouldn't worry too much. He is just curious. All chidren go through this stage. Just don't make a big deal out of it,and he will probably get over it.
Deb

E.,
Definitely curious! At 5 my son participated in a "game" with other boys in the neighborhood that involved various forms of inappropriate touching. He's 12 now and would be mortified if he knew and us moms were very freaked out at the time. 4-6 years is a huge time of curiousity about the body. Each one of my 3 children went through some form of exploration at that age. While you have to address that it's inappropriate to touch or have privates exposed with others, make sure not to make them feel like his body is anything but wonderful! Good Luck-
Sally

Just my opinion, but seems like the curiosity is more than normal. If you want to see professional help about it, i recommend seeing a homeopathic Dr. Strange symptoms/behavior like this, can be treated homeopathically. The remedies are natural and have no side effects and it's a holistic medicine, meaning looking at your son as a whole (all mental, emotional, and physical symptoms he has). You can read about homeopathy at www.dupagehomeopathic.com. that is our homeopathic dr.'s website. as an example, we started seeing her for our son's eczema. we also found he has a peanut allergy. he can take the remedy if he has a breakout or a reaction, but the remedy was also chosen based on his "personality." It's a wonderful medicine and so safe in comparison to others. this would help if you want to seek out some professional advice. My friend took her DD who bites other kids on the face and breaks the skin -- the remedy has helped decrease the number of incidents and it looks like she's on the way toward stoping that kind of behavior. best wishes.

I would think seriously about taking him to a GOOD counselor. I would be affraid that something has happened to him. I know that kids get curious but this seems a bit much