Hello to all. I know that this has been a topic on Mamasource off and on, but my husband of 2.5 years (this time) and I are fixing to go thru a divorce. We were married the 1st time right out of high school when I was 4 mon along with our oldest (he'll be 11 in Oct.) Then it was crazy. We were both young and due to some very strong willed people in my family we ended up getting a divorce when our son was 8 mon old. Now that he and I have been back together (during our time apart I got remarried and had 2 more kids that love him dearly and he loves them as well) we got remarried and it was great until alot of changes happened. Things are now to a point to where the home life is not good at all for our kids or us. He's yet to change during all of the talks he and I have had and has cont to do the same things that he said that he would stop. I'm to the point that I want out. I'm sorry for rambling on, but this is the only way that know to get this out. Thanks for being patient with me.
If he and you are in agreement with everything you can print it offline I believe on http://edivorceform.com/texas-divorce-forms-and-papers.html
How to Get a Divorce in Texas by Ed Sherman. Walks you through everything step by step and you can download the forms you need. I did it and a friend of mine did it. Only costs were the book, the forms, and the filing fee. Good luck!
Our office gives a free consult to Mamasource referrals. If it is an uncontested divorce, we have ways to handle that fairly inexpensively.
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K. Smith
Smith Cunningham, LP
Hi Desiree:
First I want to tell you that I have been to the point of divorce myself. I wanted nothing more than to be left alone with my children. I loved my husband dearly, but I mostly hated him.
With that being said; It sounds like you do still love your husband. You obviously have a strong connection to one another. He's a great daddy to children who aren't really his (that is a great man). It sounds like the only reason you got divorced the first time is because your families forced the situation.
Does he understand that he might lose everything that is dear to him? Will he go to counseling? If it's counseling or the door, I bet he chooses counseling...
I don't know you Desiree. I only have a picture from what I've read. 1) It sounds like you still really do love him and 2) It sounds like you give up way too easily. You've already been divorced twice. Maybe it's time for you to start fighting for your marriage. Maybe you have been. Maybe your husband needs to know from you in no uncertain terms what is expected of him (sometimes men need that!:-)
My husband and I went through counseling and I tell you, Our lives are so much better! We are happy together again. Our home is happy again.
It's easy to quit. It's hard to stay and fight. But it's worth it.
Good luck to you and your family! I really do hope you guys can make things work. In many years I hope you can look back and think that you made it through the hardest of times and came out on the other end a more cohesive couple.
Not to be judgemental, but it sounds as if you've had a difficult time sustaining a relationship (multiple partners/husbands). Have you considered getting counseling for yourself or even for both of you? Maybe there are some things you can work on to build a fulfilling relationship that can weather tough times. You obviously cared enough about this man to marry him 2X.
I am going through this right now so I know it can be tough and expensive. I actually have a friend who is an attorney who is working on a payment plan with me but even then it's really expensive. My husband was using Fathers for Equal Rights before we made some agreements on custody and visitation. If you are willing to file the paperwork yourself than you should check out Fathers for Equal Rights. They will not necessarily represent you but will provide all the resources to do it yourself and it is a much cheaper way of doing it. The best solution is if you and your husband can sit down and work everything out together, otherwise it costs more to battle it out. Here is the website and yes it is open to everyone http://www.fathers4kids.com/html/Home.htm. Good luck
My current husband and I have both been divorced and are now happily married. Divorce is extremely expensive - mine was uncontested and even with the attorney fees just for filing everything, etc it was still $2-$3K. My husband's divorce was a battle that literally set records and cost $200K. So it can be as simple or as hard as you make it. And from experience I know - the end result is the same. On another note, I have also learned that you are always going to have problems in relationships. The problems I had in my first relationship I just made sure this relationship didn't have those. But then this relationship came with a whole set of new problems. None of us are perfect and to try to mesh two people (especially with kids with other people) together is just really hard and will always take a lot of work and perserverance. I remind myself of that everyday!
The absolute cheapest way is to file yourself. You don't necessarily need a lawyer. You've been divorced twice, just take those papers and change the pertinent information. I would caution you that if you expect any problems at all from your husband to use an attorney though. Once you've typed the papers and both of you signed with a notary, just go to the courthouse and file yourself.
Loving someone and having them not treat you with respect is very discouraging. But there is a saying..."hurting people hurt people." Is there someone, male, who your husband respects, will listen to that will mentor him? A Pastor? your father? Brother? Remember that your income will dramatically decrease because of the children, not to say of the emotional scars on them. Why don't you try counseling for yourself to see if he will join you later on before you take a dramatic step like divorce.
well, i went through divorce myself. i always recommend anyone who wanted a divorce to second and third thought of their decision. If this is the only way out, and u and ur hubby have made some agreement, go to the county's library to get the forms or download some forms on line and file yourself is the cheapest way. this is based on the fact that you trust him enough to get the child support, otherwise i would recommend u find a lawyer. good luck!
You can file yourself and it is the cheapest way. I am assuming you already have a custody agreement written in the first divorce. With that said have you tried counseling? You obviously loved him enough to marry him twice. I am remarried to my first husband who I had my first child with. I also was married in between and had two children. I know we have our moments and it is hard to build a relationship but something drew you back to him. So before you file papers just think about it. You can also do a divorce online that is very inexpensive.
I know you may not want to hear this...but I'm gonna say it anyway. It is SO hard raising children as a single mom! The LAST option and I mean LAST option should be divorce. I am speaking from experience and just want to make sure you have EXHAUSTED EVERY other option (counceling, marriage seminars, the church...). I wish someone would of given me better advise and had not just aggreed with me about the divorce. I don't know if it would of changed anything...but I don't know that it wouldn't of either.
If you have not tried anything outside of the home to fix your relationship I suggest a program that changed my and my husband's life. We are happier now than the day we married 11 years ago. I feel like I got a mulligan in life. You have to realize that even though you are in a relationship together that people are individual human beings with history that started as a child that has shaped who they are and why they do the things they do and that is what this program is geared towards. I had 5 affairs and was a disrespectful wife and wanted no children so trust me when I say if anyone had a reason to get out it was my husband. This program showed me why I did the things I did. Sign up at www.theroadadventure.com It is in Richardson. I live by this phrase, It's not the action that caused the divorce but the lack of action to fix it. I wish you the best for your whole family.
Hi Desiree,
Sounds like you are an exceptional person, mother of 3 great kids...just haven't found the right man to love and cherish the 4 of you! Getting ready to do somer reading and prayer (I really need it :)...), and I will keep you and your situation in my prayers!
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Collaborative Divorce is the way to go.
If you and your husband can come up with terms and agree on things you can go into a Collaborative atty and they can file the paper work for you for $1500 for an uncontested divorce.
If yall contest then you each have to get an atty and it can cost $3000+
My friend and i are both using Kate Smith in Collyville. She is a great atty and if you tell her you found her from Mamasource she will offer you a FREE consult.
Sorry to hear that. Divorce is tough on everyone... You have received some good advice already. This is a huge decision. My husband is a counselor and an attorney and has been divorced too so he understands this from both sides of the spectrum. You may decide to do it yourself but you should definitely consult a good attorney and counselor before you chart on these waters. The consult is a flat fee $250. It'll be the best money you spend. Based on your individual case he'll guide you , give you an idea about cost, etc. He is a great man and husband. If divorce is not right for you he'll help you realize it and give you some advice on your marriage. The office ph# is ###-###-####. You can call and make an appointment. His website is www.haugenlawfirm.com. God bless you and your babies and Best Wishes!
M. Haugen
Not sure where you live but my daughter filed for divorce in Collin County and she just filled out this document. I think all counties in Texas have the same paperwork. Of course this is only if it is uncontested and there is nothing to argue about. If there is anything that you can't agree on then you need to hire a lawyer. Good luck!
http://www.co.collin.tx.us/law_library/forms/DivorceJoint...
Here is the page with all information from Collin County, one with custody of the kids and one without... http://www.google.com/cse?cx=016011431774378866510%3A2etp...
I am not an attorney, but I can give you some advice. I am helping my boyfriend through his divorce right now. I have all the paperwork for an uncontested divorce. If you want to talk more please email me at ____@____.com.
