V.F. asks from Scottsbluff, NE on November 03, 2009
Help! I Am Married to a Butterton!
Ok so I don't know if anyone has seen that commercial where the family has a stick of butter on every item they are eating...its a commercial for "I can't believe its not butter". I have married into that family. lol Anyway, my concern is this...My husband is a wonderful man - he loves to cook! :) However, cooking healthy is not in his vocabulary. I have talked to him about it before and how I would like us to start eating healthier because we are overweight and it would help us set a better example for our kids. When I mentioned this he said he will not stop eating/cooking the way he does because he enjoys the food but if I want to I need to start cooking/buying my own food. Now I wouldn't have a problem with doing that except for the fact that our budget doesn't allow us to buy extra food for extra meals...so my question is this - how do I get around this? We both do the shopping (depending on paydays) so its not like I can just buy healthy stuff and then he would have to cook it so I'm not sure how to get him to join the healthy eating band wagon. Anyone have any ideas??? and please no judgmental comments!! thanks in advance
D.H. answers from Denver on November 04, 2009
I didn't read every reply, so sorry if this is repetitious. First I would switch butter for Smart Balance. The taste is nearly the same and offers the same results as butter with sautéing. Baking is a little trickier, but the spread will still work. Next, I would also try to use Pam, olive oil, or canola oil when you do need to use fats - never Trans fats or shortening. My husband at 33 had two 95% blocked arteries. We had to make some life changes so that all he would need were stents instead of having heart attacks. We love to cook and we loved butter, but the cost wasn't worth the result. In the end, we found that even with limiting and changing the fats we used, it did not mean sacrificing flavor. Hope this helps!
J.D. answers from Colorado Springs on November 03, 2009
I understand you dilemma. I tried to get my husband to go on a diet and exercise more, but he felt like I was insulting him. The way I have gotten around this (like you we can't afford 2 meals every night) is I have spent a lot of time looking online for recipes that are healthy, but taste good. Some of the recipes take a while to make and some are too expensive, but some are really good.
M.H. answers from Denver on November 04, 2009
Well A suggestion could be that you start integrating healthy days into the repertoire. Perhaps you cook on 2 days, and those are healthy days? My suggestion is to do spicy, so he doesn't miss flavor initially.
Besides that, butter is not the enemy - butter is a whole food and natural, and healthy. The problem is the QUANITITY. So perhaps you can explain it in these terms: The calories I can get in macaroni and cheese equate to me getting 1/2 cup of food. On 1/2 cup of delicious mac and cheese, I am not full, so I eat too much of this decadence and thus gain weight. So... let's use these awesome dishes as the side dishes they are intended to be, and fill the majority of the plate with lean meats and veggies.
In this way everyone gets what they want - food that tastes delicious, a husband who still gets to cook great food (also a good lesson for your kids) and a family that is healthier. It's about balance, not totally abstaining from anything fattening.
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L.S. answers from Grand Junction on November 04, 2009
Hi V., Our family has tried the eating healthier idea too and we have had some success which I will share with you. I became a more serious label reader and it really opened my eyes to the junk we were shoving in our mouths. Some of the items we avoid or at least try to is High Fructose Corn Syrup or Corn Syrup. The word Enriched and Red #40 (it's like a poison).So keep that type of stuff in mind when you're shopping. I either make our breads or when we buy store bought we always look for "whole wheat flour". There are only a few brands (Sara Lee and Roman Meal are two) that actually use whole wheat. Avoid the enriched stuff. We don't do the "boxed cereals" for breakfast because they are high in sugar and low in nutrition. I make our own granola cereal which can be served with (plain) yogurt or milk and other fruits. Oatmeal is another good breakfast item but don't buy the expensive prepackaged stuff as it is loaded with sugars. Try to use olive oil or coconut oil for your cooking needs. Coconut oil would be the better of the two. Cutting out sugars and fats in your diet would be a huge step. Using butter is tons better then the oleo's. That's like eating plastic! Last but not least fresh fruits and veggies are one of the best things you can do for your health. My kids love just about any kind of fruit so that's what they eat for snacks. It's always quick and easy to prepare and they'll eat tons of it. As you can see there are a number of ways you can start changing your diet without upsetting the apple cart. I'll quit there because that's probably a lot to take in for now. I wish you the best for healthier eating and living. L.
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A.B. answers from Colorado Springs on November 04, 2009
As a former Butterton, let me tell you what turned me around - a visit with a nutritionist. Before we even thought about having kids, my husband and I went to see a nutritionist since I was interested in losing weight in a healthy way. My husband was already in great shape but our diet needed some help.
Through the nutritionist, we learned what portions of which foods we should be eating each day as well as how many calories and fat, etc. She was also able to show us a lot of info on the harmful effects unhealthy eating can have over time. A lot of the changes weren't really major - like switching from butter to olive oil for frying, substituting apple sauce for butter in baking recipes, switching to whole grain products (one product at a time so it wasn't so overwhelming), and making sure that at least one veggie was available at dinner time.
I grew up in a meat and potatoes kinda home so that the meat was always the main part of our meal and there was always a starch side. Now we have more of a Mediterranean diet where vegetables and whole grains are the main part and the protein is more like a side. I don't feel like we've given up taste and occasionally we still have meat and potato type meals. I know we are healthier for it and hopefully our children will continue to make healthy choices as they grow up.
I think it is great that you want to change your eating habits not just for you but for your children as well. Best of luck!
S.L. answers from Fort Collins on November 04, 2009
You have received some great ideas, so I'm not going to add too much on top of that. The only thing I would add is to make sure you are eating real foods. While striving for a "fat free, cholesterol free, sugar free" diet, Americans have started eating vast quantities of chemical-ladden fake-foods. Unfortunately, in addition to the horrible effect these chemicals have on your body, our bodies also *need* to have fat and sugar in moderate quantities. Pseudo-foods don't satisfy our hunger, so we often wind up eating huge portions of them and still feeling unsatisfied. Don't be scared of butter and whole milk, just moderate your intake of these rich foods and fill in the gaps with real foods - whole grains, fruits, veggies, etc.
S.L. answers from Boise on November 04, 2009
Baby steps, I say. If you do the majority of the cooking, you can easily change a few tiny things, like using a little less oil/butter when you're cooking. I have a few sneaky tricks that I do to save money and cut down on calories.
(1) I gradually started to water down my juice along with the kids' juice. Now we're down to about 1/3 juice to 2/3 water, and drinking regular juice tastes like guzzling juice concentrate! We don't miss full-strength juice at all. I often will add a tiny bit of extra water to my husband's cup as well, but I haven't required him to jump on the watery-juice bandwagon. I've been thinking I'd start adding a little extra water to the pitcher, though.
(2) DH loves whole milk and says that 1% is gross. We compromised by going to 2%. But to save money, I started buying powdered milk to cook with. I buy the individual packages to make it easier to use, and because sometimes I don't use it very often and a big box can go bad/taste funny before I can use it up. I make pudding and mac 'n cheese (both homemade and boxed) with it, and anything else that the flavor will be masked in. And then whoops! The extra reconstituted milk just fell right into the milk jug! I have to be careful to not get more than half of it powdered milk, or DH says it's starting to turn. I've been doing this for nearly 3 years, and he still doesn't suspect! And because the powdered milk is non-fat, it lowers the fat content of all the milk we drink.
Another idea is to not completely deprive your family of the foods you love. Try out new recipes that are healthier and see if your family likes them. Pick out the healthiest meals from your usual repertoire and serve those more often than the "bad" ones.
My husband is also rather opposed to changing our food, even though he claims he wants to eat healthier. He says, "but fat TASTES good!" I've slowly weaned him down, and he doesn't complain about that anymore.
Besides reducing the resistance to change, baby steps will also help you make this a life-long change. Making a drastic change is a great way to fall off the band-wagon!
J.S. answers from Boise on November 04, 2009
I understand about the being overweight and people content with that. I have 3 children and with everyone I gained 60 pounds! I started Body for Life back in July and have lost over 30 pounds and the food is great! I didn't know how to eat healthy but Body for Life really taught me to cook and eat better. You should try a recipe or two and have your husband try them. See if he likes it. Some of my favs are the sloppy joes and the chili. Just to name a couple. The cook book is called Eating for life. It is great. Hope this helps.
C.W. answers from Provo on November 04, 2009
There is no way you can make him want to change his eating habits. but, I would suggest taking turns in the kitchen and when it is your turn cook healthy and quietly show him how good it tastes. Don't even bring it up. Just do it. Don't make your cooking too stark- I mean, make things he likes, don't try to use all raw vegetables or anything extreme.Hopefully he will get the idea that the healthy food can taste good, too, and modify his diet a little. Prepare as often as you can yourself, especially for the children. They need to eat healthy and learn good habits.
C.N. answers from Salt Lake City on November 04, 2009
Too many of us equate the word "healthy" with less flavorable. There are many ways that you can be healthier with your food choices and still enjoy a delicious meal.
I would encourage you to visit a library near you and look for a recipe book that has low fat, heart healthy cooking that looks enjoyable to both you and your husband.
Changing your diet all at once probably isn't a wise choice any way. Once or twice a week find something that feels healthier for both of you.
With Love & Light, C.