We got an invitation to a wedding yesterday and the invitation stated Black Tie Invited, what does that mean? Should my husband rent a tux or should a black suit with a tie work just as well? Also we just bought a house and have a young son, what kind of monetary gift would be appropriate? This is going to be a very upscale wedding, which we have never been to one as formal as this... I am somewhat afraid to go because I don't want anyone looking down on us....
Thank you all, I decided to ask the bride what would be appropriate and it just means that you can wear a tux, but it is not required. Now I just need to find a nice dress, a more formal dress. Can't wait for our night out esp. since we are TTC #2!!
I wouldn't got if I was uncomfortable, you wont have fun.
If you do decide to go, just relax and have a great evening out. I would just have my husband wear a black suit and a bow tie. I think they are about $6 and I think you can buy them at a tux rental shop.
Good Luck!
As long as your hubby is in a nice matching suit, and you are in a nice dress, you should be fine. As to gift, I'd say $150 should be fine.
Hi! As others have stated, "Black Tie Invited" means that your hubby should wear a formal suit with a tie (matched coat and slacks with a white or off-white long-sleeved button-down dress shirt and conservative tie). There is no need for him to rent/buy a tux, but he will not be out-of-place if he wants to do so. It also means that you must wear a dressy outfit. Most womens' pantsuits (or even business suits with a skirt) will not be appropriate for this occasion. You do not need a buy a gown, but you will need to pull out a dressy dress from your closet. If you have a floor-length dress in the closet, this is the time to wear it!
"black tie invited" means a tuxedo and gown would be acceptable, but a suit will certainly suffice for your hubby. Quite frankly, I think people put that on the invites now because so many people have gotten very lax in their dress for formal events. I have seen men in sweaters and slacks at weddings and it's not really appopriate, in my opinion. I am sure your hubby has a suit and you have a dress you could wear. Don't be afraid to go--it will be nice, very grown up night out--enjoy it! $150-$200 is a good amount depening on how close you are with the couple. Go and have fun!!
First, if this is really making you uncomfortable- don't go. It's not worth the stress.
Black tie normally means- tux. However, I was at a Black tie event in Hinsdale and their were many men who just wore a black suit and tie. As far as gift, I usually call ahead to the hall and pay for our plates. If the prices are lowere then the couple get more. We ususally cap our gifts at $200.00. If we can't aford it we decline and send $100. Some places are crazy -one wedding we went to last year was $150.00 a plate. The food wasn't even that good.
