K.M. asks from Heyworth, IL on September 27, 2007
Gifts for Birthmom??? HELP!
We are in the process of adopting a baby boy and are meeting his birthmom for the first time in November. We were wanting to get her something very special. Any ideas??? Thanks in advance. I'm having a hard time coming up with something...well nothing compares to the precious life she gave us, but we wanted to get her something to show her we care about her.
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R.I. answers from Columbia on September 28, 2007
Maybe a necklace with hers and the baby's birthstones? Or a baby ring on a necklace?
W.C. answers from Columbia on September 28, 2007
Hi K.,
I have no experience with this as my husband and I have 6 children of our own. However, a thought did come to me and I wanted to share it with you. The frist thing that I thought of was a very nice necklace with the baby's birth stone in it.
Just a thought. Good luck and God bless!
Dione
C.S. answers from Corvallis on September 27, 2007
Hi there K.,
First of all, congratulations! How exciting for you!
The only thing that I can think of is a locket. Maybe you could put the baby's picture in it? Even if she doesn't want to wear it all the time, she could keep it among her special things and look at it from time to time. That might be a nice reminder for her of the beautiful life she brought into the world. You could also have it engraved, if you wanted.
Good luck!
C. Smith
www.EnhanceYourWayOfLife.com
C.M. answers from St. Louis on September 28, 2007
Since it's obvious you can;t put a price on the gift she is giving you, be generous. Go to bath and body works, have a very nice gift basket made up for things she can use to pamper herself with at home. She will also be ging through the normal postpardum stage, with hair falling out and all the other sking changes and such. Get her a gift certificate to a good salon for a day of pampering, facial, hair color and cut, massage and such. I would also include maybe a some gift cards to stores, such as Kohls, Target, Macy's, Old Navy to find some new fitting clothes.....after all, her body has changed shape from pregnancy. Also maybe a resturant or two as well so she can have a nice night out with friends, looking great and be able to feel good about what she has done for you, and the baby she gave birth to. She will also feel very appreciated by you as well. Congradulations on your adoption and Good Luck!
S.M. answers from Springfield on September 27, 2007
Hi K., Congratulations on your addition to your family. I am an Indepenent Rep with Noah's Ark Animal Workshop. We offer Stuff-n-Fluff animals. We have several cute animals that make great gifts along with adorable outfits and the way that you can make this extra special is there are also rainbow wishing stars that you make a wish before closing the animal once you have stuffed it. You could also write several wishes down for her on paper and read them to her and then place them inside of the animal. Once the animal is stuffed and closed it can never be reopened , however, she will always be able to carry your wishes with her. Please take a look at my website www.onthegobirthdays.com. Please feel free to contact me with any questions. Once, again Congrats and enjoy your new precious bundle of joy!
R. answers from Columbia on September 27, 2007
How about getting her something personal like a necklace? When I think "birthmom" I think of maybe something to remind her of the baby like a picture frame for a picture of the baby or ultrasound. But, that might be painful for her. So something personal for her specifically might make her feel appreciated as an individual and not just "birthmom."
J.G. answers from St. Louis on September 28, 2007
Hi Kelly. We also adopted and went against the recommendation fo jewelry. Yes, it's personal and it's pretty and that's about it. We gave our birth mother and small framed picture of her and our son. Though she may not be raising him, he did come from her and this shows that she will always be connected to him. Plus, it's small enough that she can carry it around in her purse if she wants to. (Since you are just meeting her, I assume that you don't have apicture of them together, so a picture of your son as an infant is nice.) Also, this way, she can show her friends and family a picture and share the wonderful blessing of adoption with them.
B.B. answers from Peoria on September 28, 2007
we have also adopted. at the time of our son's birth we gave the birthmom a birthstone/month bear and also one to our son. that way they both have something. also we gave her a plant that she could plant to remember him by. good luck
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