Ex's jewlery...keep It or Not?

My husband painted a HUGE painting of a girl he was with for a long time (I'm talking six feet tall,) and people always ask me why I allow it to hang in my house. It's amazing work, and he is so talented. However, the feelings are gone. He doesn't care about her, and really couldn't care less what we do with the painting. Why would I get rid of such a beautiful piece of art, because at some point she meant something to him? He's married to me and only wants to be married to me. I view that the same way as jewelry. Why get rid of good jewelry, unless you need the money? So long as there isn't sentimental attachment, I don't see why it matters.

My ex gave me a 2 carrot diamond ring after he had been caught cheating on me. It was his way of trying to make me forget and avoid counseling. After we divorced I kept it and the other jewelry of value he gave me. I didn't wear it often but when I did I did not announce where it came from to anyone. I simply enjoyed wearing it no feelings attached.

When my son wanted to be engaged he asked if he could buy the 1 carrot stone. He said it was a beautiful stone and he wanted to make it something positive. We shopped together to find out what the stone was worth and settled on a fair price with the approval of my other 2 children.

Now I get to enjoy seeing the beautiful stone on my soon to be daughter in law's hand instead of in a bottom of my jewelry box. She loves the stone and it brings all of us pleasure. The stone didn't do anything wrong so why not!

Troy could care less what I wear. I got rid of my wedding ring, it was gold, easy to dispose of. :) I gave my anniversary ring to my oldest daughter. Other than that nothing he ever gave me had any real meaning, ya know, birthday or Christmas.

It shouldn't matter that your favorite jewelry is from your ex so long as it has no meaning from the relationship, ya know. I mean come on, so if my ex bought my favorite pair of shoes I shouldn't wear them before. He bought me my mixer, I love that mixer, should I stop using it? Ick, Troy has the same mixer, it was a wedding gift from his first marriage, clearly we should send it off to Goodwill.

My point is simple, jewelry is no different than any other object, it is why you like it that matters.

Not that Troy and I will ever divorce, knock on wood, but in that case I would hold on to my ring. It has my mother's engagement and wedding rind embedded in it. Long story but this ring means quite a bit to me beyond just a wedding ring.

My mom has given me the nice things she kept from my dad ( her first marriage) and I treasure all of it. I had some beautiful diamonds from a boyfriend I GAVE to my aunt at the time as I felt I would never want them. Dummy. Should have kept it all. My husband would never care if I wore something from an ex. Live and learn.

Bug.. makes a beautiful example. The person I was in love with before my husband, gave me a beautiful ring that I bet was super expensive, I never thought of selling it, not because of its sentimental value, because the feelings are completely gone, if there's anything left is pain, I guess. But Bug..'s point is this is something so beautiful to just let go of it because we are not together anymore. He is on the other side of the world, literally, and I love my husband more everyday and things will always be things no matter how we look at them or how we got them.

I was going to keep my old engagement ring, but recently sold it to put oil in our tank for heat :) I was kind of emotional, but I literally was crying and jumping up and down because the people who bought it got engaged on the spot! At my house!! It was lovely :)

My husband has a Rolex from an ex... hell NO I don't mind when he wears it :)

I have some necklaces and such from my exes, but I'd not keep an engagement ring. And I certainly wouldn't give my child an engagement ring from a relationship that didn't work out.

Sell it. Put the money in savings.

One of my favorite boyfriends was FURIOUS that I'd bought jewelry for myself (that they weren't from former boyfriends or family). In his opinion jewelry should either be handed down or be bought by beauxs/husbands. If you can't afford jewelry, you can't afford a wife. If you're not buying jewelry for your girlfriend, then you're intentions aren't honorable with her. And if you're not buying jewelry for your wife, then you're not committed to her safety and security, and the safety and security of your children, who would -naturally- be handed down that jewelry. In his upbringing, jewelry was/is an action that shows that you can provide, will provide, and that your wife and children will never be left high and dry in the event of your death or bastardship. An action behind words. He was a strong believer of putting his money where his mouth was.

I've always rather liked him :)

I'm not a fan of it, personally. I wouldn't want to hold onto something that represents love that died, or something negative. I'm all about vibes & I'd feel like the jewelry held the energy from an unsuccessful relationship in it.

Well, I got rid of a ring from a former boyfriend, b/c I didn't want that bad vibe when I wore it, and didn't want to bring it into a new relationship. It had also been engraved on the inside so it had sentimental value. Really though, it depends on what it is. My husband is definitely the kind that thinks that kind of stuff should go if there is any sentimental value or memories attached to it. But if it's just a beautiful piece of jewelry, I'd keep it!

If it's pretty I would. LOL

My diamond stud earrings that I wear nearly every day were a gift from an ex boyfriend many years ago. In 15 years of marriage, my husband has never asked where they came from and I've never thought to tell him. It never occured to me to mention it, and I have no idea if he's ever stopped to think about where they came from.

That would be Gweneth's hubby that may have gotten ticked, not her boyfriend, unless I'm missing something ;)

I still have jewelry from an old boyfriend, although I really don't wear it much if ever because my tastes have changed. I have never specifically told my husband that it was from an old flame, so he wouldn't know the difference anyway. If it were an old wedding ring from an ex, however, that would be sold in one hot minute.

After my ex refused to take it back, I sold it because I couldn't stand to look at it anymore.

Since gold and diamond prices keep increasing I would keep it. If you get into a bind and need to sell it a peice at a time okay but if not keep it. Cash it in if you need to, to pay for college for your kids.
It's like having a savings account. Though since it is in your Mom's home make sure it is documented as belonging to you and not your Mom. You wouldn't want it to become part of your Mom's estate, or have a relative claim it because they thought it belonged to your Mom.