I learned earlier this week that my 15 wk pregnancy had ended in miscarriage. I had a D&C on Wednesday. The baby boy will be buried at a local cemetery and there will be no burial expenses. A distant relative of my husband sent a sympathy card and a check for $100. My question...what should we do with the money? We'd love to plant a tree but we live in a townhome. Our other thought is to make a contribution to the March of Dimes. I expect we'll be receiving monetary gifts from my co-workers and at least one other relative. My husband wants to return the money. Thoughts??
The other's are so right. Sending the money back would be like a slap in the face to those who are showing you sympathy during this time. That doesn't mean you need to keep it as you already had decided. Find a charity that has special meaning to you and when you send your thank you cards let the giver know how the money was donated. What a great way to pay forward.
They are sending it in sympathy and it would be rude to send it back. I would hand on to what you get until you are fairly certain you've received it all and then make a donation to something like March of Dimes or Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep (google it, awesome!) in the name of your angle and send Thank You's to those that love you so much. They just want to show their sympathy and how much you are loved. It might be that your husband doesn't know how to show his appreciation in this grieving time? I pray your family heals and that you will be blessed with another - when He says it's time. Good luck!
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. When our daughter died we gave the money that was given to us to a charitable organization. Since we didn't need the money or particularly want it we hoped the donation would help others. We chose to give to Spare Key which is a local MN organization that helps to pay the mortgages for families whose children are seriously ill and hospitalized. This way the families have more time to spend together without worrying about finances and losing their home.
For me, using the money to help others, lessened the pain just a little bit. Through her death we were able to help others out financially. We were able to find and do something good during this horrible time.
M.
I'm sorry for your loss! I don't have a specific recommendation for a charity. But, I agree with the other poster who advised not to return money; folks want to show their support and hope that the money might be something you all can use to express your grief or put it into something meaningful to celebrate your Little One's brief time with you all. I wish you all well, and that you find an outlet for your donated funds that brings you peace.
