Daughter's Unruly Hair

I would agree with the flat iron. My hair is wavy in some places and straight in others. I use a flat iron to make it all the same, or make it all curly. I would think that straight would be better for a kid. I use a macadamia nut straightening balm from The Body Shop. It works great and is heat activated, and humidity doesn't even mess with it. It is also as natural of a product as it can be. I use this on my daughters hair and then we blow dry it. You can check out the product at my website at www.thebodyshopathome.com/web/aoaks look under the hair care products. My daughters hair is straight and thin and gets horribly tangled in the back in a matter of minutes after brushing. This seams to help also because you can brush through it again easier.
Good luck

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L.,
I am going to agree with the flat iron. They generally come with a large variety of heat settings so if she has "delicate" hair you wouldn't have to set it high, but I'd recommend a flat iron that releases steam.
Becareful it will burn when that steam comes out.

You could flat iron it at night and see if it's still flat in the morning, maybe running the flat iron across her hair a couple swipes in the morning just to freshen it up.

For myself I have very curly hair and a flat iron does wonders. The only way my flat hair returns back to curly again is after I wash it!!

I hope you find something that works!!

OH and also, don't use a brush out of the shower. Use a wide tooth comb! They get through the tangles better and a bruch even if the hair is wet will result in the frizzies

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Hi L.!
I have a daughter that has CRAZY hair as well... The same thing your daughter has. When she was little it was cute because we would put it up in piggies on the front part and then just let it stay curly in the back. Now that she is 9 we cut it in an inverted bob. (I think that is the same thing you were discribing) I still have to use a flat iron on it every day on the back, but it's very quick. I have found that not just any flat iron will do. It's all about how the heat transfers on the type of ceramic used. When you use a flat iron it's able to heat the hair with out damaging it. It's great for flipping hair up or under, straightening... and even putting curls in super straight hair. (the curls last longer - My other daughters were blessed with stick straight hair) A few years ago, I had to go out and spend the big bucks to get one of the best. I got a Chi. We really really love it! We now live in Ohio and I have found an AWESOME hair stylist. She carries a line called Fei. It's very much the same as the Chi, but I think the price is better. If you would like her contact info, please email me at ____@____.com LUCK & HAPPY HAIR DAYS!!! :)

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I had my girls hair grow out so that they could have braids and ponytails a lot. That might be the problem is cutting it so short. If it were longer, you could just pull it back in a ponytail each morning. Eventually, depending on age, she'll probably be able to do it herself. That way you can get it completely out of her face.

Good luck!

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I have the same problem myself with my 8yr daughter the top layer is staight as a board and all of it underneath is wavy as well. i found that i use a flat iron on here hair almost everyday or i also take a curling iron to it. try the stright hair products any of them will work but i have been using sunsilk on hers and it seems to help a little but still use the flat iron. they also have ionic blow dryers at sally beauty supply they have what are called straight and that also helps that was one of the best investments i made for her hair and when she doesn't want me to do anything i put it up in a ponytail. i understand and i hope that i gave you some good advise. A.

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I only wash my daughters hair twice a week. She has curly hair that gets out of control alot, too. try a conditioner on her hair in the tub twice a week and try a spray on detangler when you comb her hair out. Maybe next time you get her hair cut, try a layered look, it might take some of the poofyness away. My DD carries on like I'm killing her!!!!

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I don't know if this will help or not, but my 4 yo daughter has crazy hair also. We have found that if we use the suave 2 in 1 for kids in the GREEN bottle her hair looks great, but any other kind of shampoo and/or conditioner and her hair looks horrible. After her bath I put a few sprays of 'for kids only' detangler & conditioner before combing, and we use 'valeries vanilla freeze' hairspray when necessary for styling. I buy both of those products at Cookie Cutters haircuts for kids. They are a little expensive, but I bought a bottle of each in August, and neither one is empty yet.

I'm not saying these products will work for you, just that they do for us. We did a lot of trial and error to find out what worked well for us. Luckily we have other kids with easily managed hair, and we were able to use up other products we bought on them, so it wasn't a waste of money trying out all of those different brands.

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after you wash her hair with her regular shampoo, get olive oil and massage about 1/2 a palm full throughout her hair, let it set for 15min and rinse with warm water(no shampoo), you'll be amazed at the difference. my oldest daughter was like that and her ahirdresser said to do that & grow her hair out, that the weight of it would put it straight. he was right it took about a year to get it from just above her shoulders to the middle of her shoulder blades. i would brade it at night so it was more tamable in the morning. good luck.

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My daughter has the same hair type, its very weird huh? I let her hair grow long and now the two differant hair types kinda mix together, untill it grew out I tried to braid it evryday, that made the differances not so noticable!

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My daughter has the exact same hair- it is much better longer and less un ruley.....try infusion 23 leave in conditioner you can get it at Giant eagle Look on the bottom shelf black and white bottle. IThey also have a 3 step process shampoo, conditioner adn then the leave in if you need that. But anyway- I put the infusium in her air and blow it dry or comb it straight while air drying and it actually looks beautiful- very thick full gorgeous lots of comments on it while the front is pretty and straight adn more tame good luck

PS PLEASE DONT GET UPSET by the reponse that claims you are going to make your daughter hate you and pull a britney spears. OBVIOULSY that woman has issues with her MOm and her HAIR. Trying to help a child look nice while working with in thier hairs natural limits is not a terrible thing. I disagree with the straight ironing of a 4 year olds hair as that is WAY too much and places the focus on not being natural in your beuaty but getting hair under control is helping you daughter wiht her presentation of self and lets face it no one wants to be the girl wiht the ugly hair everyone makes fun of. Saving your daughter form that torment while wokring with her natural curls and starights is a good thing. again good luck

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Have you tried applying any oil or moisturizers?

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sounds familiar!!! my daughter's back and underneath hair is curly, but all the hair on top of her head is stick straight... so she has these cute curls that poke through the straight. mostly it just looks awful, and gets in her face (and food!) all the time!

the only way her hair looks super cute is in pigtails and ponytails. the easiest way to do her hair is while she's eating breakfast-- she's focused on her food and doesn't care what i do to her hair.

i've also noticed that NOT combing/brushing it after the bath makes the curls nicer. i have a bath comb that i use to comb the shampoo through, then after we rinse i just towel dry and leave it alone. it looks much better than when we comb it!

i'm excited to see more responses... we need help too!

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L.,

It sounds like you need to use a leave-in conditioner or oil/moisturizer. You will have to play with it to see how much to use. If it leaves her hair too oily, then use a little less or vice versa. This is common and if you hair stylist has never seen it before...maybe you need to see someone else. It has worked for my daughter!!!!

Good Luck!

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I have two ideas that you may have already considered. My son has difficult hair as well and I am so thankful that I finally decided to take him to a place that specializes in kids' cuts. I have to drive an hour to get there, but it made a world of difference. They know what they are doing.

My other idea is a perm. You wouldn't have to get a curly curly perm, any perm at all would make it all the same.

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