You know, some people are just idiots and I don't think they mean it.
I had my first baby, a girl, in a store with a frilly blue dress and big blue bow on her head. I couldn't believe the woman behind me making such a fuss over my pretty little boy. I said, "Thank you, but she's a girl. Do you notice the dress and the bow on her head?"
She literally said, "Of course I noticed, but they're blue."
As if I would have my son in a blue dress and bow.
Anyway, you just have to take these things in stride. Not all parents dress for a specific gender and it's possible others really don't know which is which.
I personally don't think it's anything to get that upset over.
There are baby boys pretty enough to be assumed to be girls. There are girls who are assumed to be pretty boys.
Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference and it shouldn't be taken so personally.
That's just my opinion.
Many people assume little girls should be frilly. It's not a prerequisite though.
I would hope your friend is happy with her fashion choices for her daughter and be a little thicker skinned than that. Babies are individuals. They have their own style.
It's okay.
I don't know why people fawn over one baby and not another, they're all beautiful in my opinion. Some people lose their sense of discretion and your friend shouldn't be hurt by it.
Give her some time to chill out and think about things.
My son went to school with a boy who had hair down to his waist and everyone thought he was a girl. It wasn't just the hair. He was a "pretty" boy.
His mom used to get so pissed.
No one was deliberately being mean.
Your friend might just be sensitive to the fawning over one child and not the other. That would be hard to take, but it's not your fault or your baby's fault or even her own babies fault.
She should own her babies style.
I hate to say it, but people do fawn over bows and ribbons.
When my daughter was pregnant, I got her the cutest things for a girl.
Alas...they all had to be returned because she had a boy.
As my daughter got older, she literally said, "Mom, quit putting nick-nacks on me."
It's a process.
I hope your friend won't continue to be sensitive over her choices.
All babies are beautiful in their own ways.
She should know that.
Best wishes.