K.O.
Awwwww! I feel so bad for you. It is hard to get some kind of validation from husbands a lot of the time. You know that you love him. It is your own insecurities that start to make you feel like maybe he doesn't love you as much as you love him.
My husband used to get so frustrated when I would tell him that I wanted HIM TO WANT to seek me out for a kiss or hug. I wanted HIM TO WANT 'ME' without me having to prompt him. I wanted HIM TO CARE (verb) FOR ME without promptings. Most men just don't get it. I know they love us...in their own way. Most men just like for us to be there to come home to.
However, just like someone said prior to this post, you are creating a relationship that you are not going to be happy with in the end. You are in control of your own life and you can not LET THINGS HAPPEN "TO" YOU. Take charge and communicate what you WANT! If you don't know what you want EXACTLY, you might want to think about that before you bring up the subject. Most men also like to just be told what to do to make you happy because they truly just don't know.
I'm so sorry you feel invisible. If after you talk to him, you don't get any response or active participation in your relationship, counseling and separation are proably advised. You do not want your children to grow up seeing the unimportance shown to you. What kind of parents would that make them?
I'll pray lots for you!! Good luck M.!