Advice About Newborn's Bedtime, Please!

If you have a wrap or sling of some sort, wear him. Believe me, these are the best tools for Mommy out there. I love wearing my baby girl in my Moby Wrap, especially on nights like tonight while she is teething and is extra fussy. He will be able to sleep and you will be able to get some things done with both hands, almost. I found I had to watch my little girls head, because she would go so limp, so I was holding her little head up so she could breathe properly.
Oh, and I so love co-sleeping. My little girl sleeps so well next to me. Trying to move her into her crib has been difficult, especially on me. I love sleeping with her next to me, so I made myself a little bed on the floor in her room for those early morning wakenings when I just don't have the energy to go back across the house.
It does get better as they get a little bigger and these little ones grow so fast.
And Congratulations!

That sounds tough!! It sounds like you are doing the right thing, just hanging with him until 10 pm, as that seems to be his ideal bed time. One question I had was if you had considered putting him down for a nap before 8 pm, like at 7:30 pm. It almost sounds like he's overtired and after he eats at 8 he's "hyper-awake." One thing to potentially consider is to feed him at 7 and try to get him down a little earlier. He may not sleep deeply but he'll at least get some zzz's and you'll catch a little break.

If that doesn't work (and it may not!!), just hang in there. My son's schedule changed every three weeks when he was an infant. It sounds like your son goes into a deep sleep at 10 pm, which is great. Ours hung out from 9 pm - midnight and fell asleep after a midnight feeding. THis went on for a month and boy were we exhausted. Then, it changed again to something different - he was out at 9 pm; in a few weeks it was 1 am, etc. It's hard to get into a pattern right now and it can be a little frustrating but the time will go very quickly... Good luck!

unfortantly what you are describing is so normal in my opinion for a baby this little. they don't seem to really get a normal routine for a while if they do at all. there is many books out there to help guide you to a sleep routine, but I am thinking 3 months may be a good time to start a routine. right now that need lots of eating and snacking and mommy time to feel secure.
that is just how I remember it. I am not sure what more to say other then to have some mommies refer you to some good books to read on sleep routine. I think one is called the no sleep solution for baby or something like that. Congrads on your baby.

Congratulations--I have a 7 week old and we're trying to figure out the sleep thing too! This is my second and the sleep thing seems to be going better which suggests A. learning happened :) B. we have an easier baby this time. But, I might try putting him down at 7 or 7:30, usually by the time we notice they are sleepy they are overstimulated at this age. Our last son was impossible to get to sleep, but I think we waited for him to look sleep now we do the opposite and it seems to work much better. But, even getting a 4 week old to sleep at 10 is success in my book. Our oldest liked to try to pull all nighters!

Congratulation your little DS! You are wonderful MOM! Don't worry- you could start a bedtime routine as soon as you like. Give him a bath, massage gentle his little body (a few minutes), give him a bottle and put him in your Moby Wrap or just put him on your chest so he can hear your heart and gentle rub his back. It takes (+, - ) 30 min. He will feels safe and falls asleep.
If you don't know how to massage, find infant massage classes in your area.

i"m on baby number two and with both, they didn't really go out for the night until 10 -11 in the early weeks. Soon their schedules naturally shifted to a bedtime closer to 9:00 at around 2-3 months, and at 6 months or so I think it was closer to 7:00 p.m. Don't worry about the late bed time. they sleep all the time and the shift should come naturally to an earlier bed time. Soon you'll put them down after the last feeding and get an hour of me time. Its just around the corner.

my son didnt really have a scheadule as a newborn, because he napped during the day. i put him down when he was asleep. at 3mnths i started putting him down at 7 and at 4 mnths i put him to bed at 7 when he was wide awake and let him fall to sleep on his own. in a couple weeks he was sleeping through the night

I think you're doing great!
My son was "Party - my crib - 2am" for months.
The best you can do to catch up on your sleep is to nap when the baby naps when ever he naps day or night. At 6 weeks it got a little better, and it got better again at 8 weeks. By 3 months I almost felt like I was finally getting enough sleep to feel normal again. Hang in there!