Advice - Houston,TX

Oh Lord, I hope it wasn't skin to skin contact...I have heard when people say to the kids when they are sucking their thumb, "Oooo caca" or "oooo poopoo" to relay that it's not a good habit to do. Haa it reminds me of when i was little i put jalapeno juice on my sister's thumb to make her stop and she did! People have some different ideas that's for sure. The positive thing is that your aunt told you about it so i think it was innocent on her part, but just really odd. I would definitely talk with her about the situation. Take care! Blew

Talk to your Aunt alone and without the kids around. Explain to her what was wrong. Talk it out. If she doesn't see anything wrong then I would be a little concerned.

As another mother said. Talk to your daughter.

I am totally shocked by what your aunt did. Any person who even considers something like that in their mind is a little off. If her judgement was so off with something like sticking your child's thumb on/in her "lucy" to get her to stop sucking her thumb, then what other odd (and in my opinion perverse) forms of punishment does she have lurking around the corner. If you find it in your heart somewhere to forgive her, then for future visits with the children, I would make sure you are present.

I'm sorry, in a situation like that, I'd keep her from seeing the kids. If she asks why....tell her! Let her know that you are not comfortable with what she did. In my mind, it's molestation also, even if she didn't intend it that way. Your children are too precious to take a chance on anything else happening. I've never heard of that being a way to keep a child from sucking their thumb, so sadly, your Aunt has some bizarre ideas apparently and I wouldn't risk it.

Wow. I cant believe your aunt would tell that to a 3 year old first of all. You seriously need to talk to your aunt. I mean its just gross. One question I have is do you work , where like you need her to watch your kids? If you do or dont find someone else. I know she is your aunt and she might have not meant anything by it, but now a days I dont trust anybody with my kids. Unless it the grandparents. People are pretty sick these days. Just all you can really do is just talk to her about it and be like" Until I feel comfortable with you watching my kids again I am going to have someone else do it. Just say you are not comfortable with what she told your daughter or actually had your daughter do. I pray for you. Just seek God and he will answer anything you need. Just pray!! God Bless you!!!

I would be shocked too! The truth is, our mother's and grandmother's generation handled stuff differently than we do. I think I would just explain that you are working on her thumb sucking differently, and you would appreciate it if she didn't use that particular tactic. I think, for my own sanity, I would have her clarify what she did. It's probably innocent enough, but I would let her know that we don't use our other body parts in that manner. Good Luck!

Girl, you are just going to have to talk it out and see what happens. It's your aunt so you love her, she loves you so as uncomfortable as it may be I think you cannot avoid the subject. If it turns out that she gets super offended or something, well at least you tried to work things out. But no, I would not be cool with anyone doing that to my child and I would bring it up and ask some questions. You could start with something like "Hey did I understand correctly that you put my daughters thumb on her private area as a correction for thumb sucking?" She may then offer details like that she just swiped it in that direction to show that thumb sucking was nasty, she may say she put it there under the clothing, who knows. But you need more info for sure. Then just tell her how you feel about it. Try to go into it with an open mind that you might be missing some info, but if what you find out is just totally disturbing at the end of the day your kids emotional health comes before even their desire to see their aunt, hopefully things will be cleared up and worked out though. Best of luck, that one would have thrown me too.