Accidentally Pregnant

It, could be worse my Mom thought she was done, (no kids for 11 years) then she got pregnant with me! She said she was very embarrassed, my sister was 26 with 2 kids and there are 6 others between us and my Mom was also 47 at the time she had me. Things happen for a reason and like the other Mom's said things always seem to work out we never get more than we can handle! My Mom said even though I was the one to turn her hair gray,lol I was also what kept them young, they are 79 and 81 and living a healthy life in Florida. I also got pregnant with my third just as we were losing our house and moving in with my Mother in law :( My pregnancy was what gave me the motivation to find our own place before the baby was born and everything is going pretty smooth, he is three and starting school next year maybe I can go back to work then! In the mean time we do without many things, but my kids have lots of love and attention from us so thats what is important right?

I was in your shoes just over 3 years ago. My husband and I had 2 sons and were very content with our family of 4. My youngest was going to be starting full day Kindergarten and I was going to return to work teaching. Despite having and IUD, I found my self "accidentally pregnant." I was angry, scared, sad...all of the emotions rolled up into one except happy. I had some scary things going on with the pregnancy and it really shook up my emotions. In the end, I had a daughter and I wouldn't change anything for the world. We still struggle to make ends meet and sometimes we feel outnumbered by kids, but she is a miracle and has changed my life for the better. You will get used to the idea of having another baby and in the end it will probably be your greatest joy! Things happen for a reason and that baby is meant to be. I'm here if you need to talk. My best,
H.

I think that you should be happy. Financially, it's a burden, but well worth it. You can always use hand-me-downs from your last child and to save money you can breastfeed (if possible). You have every right to be scare, but don't worry it'll work out perfectly fine. Another note; if you really can't afford a third child, there are plenty of other folks out there that can't have children that would give your baby the perfect home.
Congratulations and good luck :)

I completely understand. I'm 34, married, working full-time,and I have a 5 and a 3 year old and pregnant with number 3....completely unexpected. I am in the same situation and I felt the same way you did but what my husband keeps saying, "This is truly a blessing" and maybe we are not ready for it but we can't change it and we will take it one step at a time. Don't start thinking more than a week out and trust that God does provide. I will say a pray for you and me and I know everything will be ok. Just remember we are the blessed ones...we get to carry a wonderful little baby (a miracle) and there are thousands of women that can't. Plus, you are going to love this baby regardless and everything will come together in time. I'm not saying it will be easy...but have faith and a positive attitude (trust me, it took some time for that on my part) but it works and I try alittle more each day to think positive about the entire situation and it is truly becoming a little easier everyday. Trust me it will be ok.

Just when you think that you have things under control, life throws a twister, eh? L., I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. But one thing I know for sure, is when it feels like there is no way I can handle any more on my plate, a twister spins its way into my life and I get maxxed out. Amazingly, when I put my trust into my faith and when I lean on the people who love me, everything always seems to work out, without me even trying!

I completely understand your financial concerns at this time. I have confidence that you and your husband will work it out! We are only given enough burdens, not more than we can handle.

An amazing thing is happening in your body right now. There is no explanation but a miracle. How do two so completely different objects join together to make arms, legs, eyes, ears, noses and mouths? It will be difficult to be excited while you carry the concerns of a third baby financially. I am married to an accountant, so if there is one thing that I understand it is budgeting.

Take the burden off, by starting to track where you spend your money and know exactly where every dollar is going. This will help you to understand your finances better and will help you see where you could be wasting. Then together decide where to spend/save every penny that comes into your household. (We use an excel spread sheet that we modified from the internet) This has been a nightmare and a blessing at our house.

We are able to see where every penny is going and monitor our spending so that our retirement hasn't had to be hindered and our house payment can always be met. Sometimes, the burden of tracking is annoying to me. Luckily, my husband is willing to do it. I am not the financial genius in our household, sometimes I think I am the financial nightmare, but I can see the value of it.

Very best of luck to you and your family! I know that all will work out for the best!

Just remember that every baby is a blessing! My third baby has been by far the easiest of my babies and I have had alot of people say the same thing! Good luck and Blessings. K.