My 5th wedding anniversary is in September. I'm trying to figure out what to do.
The last few years have been very h*** o* our family. My sister and her 3 daughters moved in with us after she had Meningitis and lost her hearing and several toes...her husband left her within 2 weeks of her getting out of the hospital! The year and a half following her illness were full of hospital visits and several week long stays. Her and her girls moved back to PA where my family is from a little over a year ago. We have spent the last year trying to dig ourselves out from the financial situation all of that had on us and get to know each other again without 4 extra people in our home.
Obviously, my husband is awesome. It never occurred to him to not stand by my family as if it were his sister.
After everything, I looked at him a few weeks ago and realized that I just love him more than I knew. I guess I haven't had time to even think about. I am not an emotional person, but I just want this anniversary to be special.
I was considering doing a vow renewal or some sort of small ceremony. I don't think I can afford to have a very big event, but maybe something romantic just for the 2 of us....maybe 3, My 3 1/2 year old daughter is 1/3 of our little family and 100% from our love.
Ideas please!
I realize that all husbands are different - but from experience, mine would prefer a babysitter and some lingerie mixed with a fancy hotel room over another wedding - as sweet as I think the idea is.
I agree... all husbands are different. But most guys I know are not the ceremony type. Try to get inside his head of what he would want, and not what you would want.
Mine too, would prefer a babysitter, a hotel night and time alone. You have two little kids. Time alone is HUGE!
We just did a mini-vacation at the Hilton Garden Southlake at Southlake Town Center... it was great! Very lovely hotel, we could walk to the shops, bookstore, movies, restuarant .... which meant we could both drink and walk back to our room. Really nice. If you can't get a sitter overnight (which I hope you can), you can do a long day... start at 3pm and don't come back till midnight.
I'd go for the written note on why you love him and get him out of the house.
Also, remember there will be years you'll be crazy in love and years you won't. After 24 years, I can say for certain that for us there have been years we were hanging on just because of the wedding vows. And then the next year turns out to be the best we've ever had.
This year will be my 20th anniversary.
My hubby travels and is on the road a LOT. 3-4 days/nights a week.
He Loves to come home to a clean house, home cooked meal and me in a sexy little outfit.
I do not go to hotels nearly as often as he does and the hotel gets old for him real fast BUT.....he will do the hotel thing so I get a break. It is fun to go to a nice place, dress up, have some wine and retire to a hotel room. The lingerie is nice to look at for a few minutes.....:)
Just be sincere and he will know you are coming from your heart. Congratulations.
I wholeheartedly agree with Tracie O.
Not sure where you are, but the Great Wolf Lodge in Grapevine would be a great place to go if you wanted to go somewhere and incorporate your daughter. They have a family waterpark that is included with your hotel stay and only hotel guest can use it. If you do go to a nice hotel, where ever you choose, you should mention that you are booking the room for your anniversary. If you get the right person they might upgrade you or throw in a complimentary bottle of wine.
I agree with many of the others in saying, that unless your husband is into doing a vow renewal ceremony, not to. I as a woman think this is a wonderful idea, but I know my husband would hate it. I like the idea of doing an anniversary party and toasting each other.
How about a love letter? You can write down all the wonderful things you feel for him, maybe even read it to him?
I don't know if he's the mushy type or not..I'm thinking most men aren't, but some good ole' s*x, is usually the best present! Maybe a cheap hotel room..or just have everyone cleared out of the house for a few hours? Send them to McDonald's and the movies, while you hubby and you can get naked in the privacy of your own home!
Congrats- and I know how you feel- my sister was in a horrible accident with a MACK truck and my husband was there to be supportive- let her move in with us- carry her up and down a flight of stairs several times a day and let her be my priority for quite some time- my son learned to walk by following her in phy therapy in the pool
We've been together 19 years and I dont take any of that for granted-
so Kudos to you for being there for each other-
Now- Anniversary- I would keep for the adults- just a small get away even Gaylord Texan with some spa time would be great!
Or create a video from pictures and snip-its from home videos- - but yes just the two of you-
Have fun and let me know if you need a media/dvd person
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One cool thing is to make a little photo album and have typed up what the picture means to you. It could be I love the way you take care of the yard...with a picture of him doing yard work...Your crazy faces you make, the way you smile at me, etc. It will be something he will always want to look at and say wow you think of me like that even when I am all ....
Happy Anniversary and I agree not another wedding---that should be his idea for you more than you for him! Take him fishing and be by his side! A fishing guide could be fun like at a nearby lake if he likes outdoors with a stay in a hotel...Enjoy and Congrats!
The 18th of this month my husband and I will be married 10 years...It is so special to me and him to. Maybe you could run him and you a hot bubble bath with rose petals everywhere with candles and champenge...then you could get really romantic with chocolate covered cherries and whipped cream. Give him a full body massage and then whatever else that leads to...you could also go out on the towna dn maybe take a horse and carrage ride. Maybe just the two of you could take a romantic walk through the botanical gardens in fort worth which is sooo beautfiul. It is the meaningful things you will remember and the time more then the money or anything else...Good luck and congrats...
I think that one of the best gifts I ever gave my husband was a book. It was a book of all of the reasons why I loved him. It was an inexpensive, meaningful way to tell him exactly why I loved him so much. He's had it now for 6 years and still treasures it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that sometimes it's the simple, homemade, heartfelt gifts that mean more to us than an event. Maybe you and your dd could write your own book with illustrations and cook a special meal? Congrats on making it to the 5 year mark!
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