2Nd Baby Shower-Is It Appropriate?

I think you should let them have a shower for you. Showers are fun! How about a shower for you. I usually buy a mommy gift for my girl friends instead of a baby gift (slippers,robe,body wash etc.) they love it and appreciate it, they get so much stuff for the baby anyway. Us moms need some pampering also.

I just threw a shower for a friend who is having a second baby. We threw it at Dream Dinners and the guests gave some of the meals they prepared as the shower gift. Everyone had a great time and the soon to be mom has plenty of dinners in the freezer for when the second baby arrives.

Have a diaper shower and just celebrate the new baby. My sister did it for me. My son is 10 months and I just bought diapers for the first time. It was great.

I am quite sure it is. I have been given surprise baby showers with my 4 kids. I could not do anything about them because they were all surprise ones. Your friends are willing to throw the baby shower for you because they may also want to celebrate with you.

I have hread of a 2nd baby and the people bring freozen meals so you don't have to cook. Or just have people bring diaper and wip. But every children should have a baby shower.

ABsolutely - this child is just as special as your first - your needs will be different as you will have some things from your first little girl that can be used again. Have the shower and enjoy it! S

I didn't want one either when I had my second boy. I thought the same thing, what I really need are diapers. LOL. I think that you could have a luncheon and make things for a shelter (like tie quilts) or have them bring something purchased/used/made and donate it to someone less fortunate. That sounds great. Or just say "no gifts" just your presence is enough and get together to play games or eat or just enjoy. Some people will get you something anyway if they really want to,but then that is okay too. :) Good luck!

you are so lucky to have such wonderful friends! Parents can always use diapers and other supplies so the second shower can focus on those and if there is anything you would have liked with the first and didn't try, this may be the time.
Have fun with it.
C. R

Teri,
Congratulations!!
I am a mom of four boys - they are all one year apart. We had wonderful friends that threw us a shower for each one. The first few showers were upgrades on nessecities (stroller, another car seat, ect.) But when it came to our fourth boy, we had a girls night. We went and had dinner and spent time together (no gifts.) You can also go out and have mani/pedi's which is always fun with your gal pals.
I hope you enjoy your time!
P.

I had 3 babies and three showers. The last one was a girl , so I did need girl stuff.
There are always things you can use, diapers/diaper service, gift cards etc. You could ask for gift cards to places like Toys R Us and Target or Dept. stores to use for larger clothes sizes and necessities. Congrats!

Absoloutely appropriate! The party is sometimes more for the person giving it rather than the person receiving it!

Have fun!
M

I've heard of a "Baby Sprinkle" instead of "shower", where the guests just bring a small gift. Or you could have everyone bring a book to contribute to your girls' library. Just a nice brunch with close friends and small gifts for the baby on the way. Good luck!

I have three girls and a boy and we had a shower for each of them. We made it a baby shower for an unknown gender and donated all the baby items to underprivledged women expecting babies. It was an awesome experience and everyone was truly blessed by being able to help other women out. Plus, we all got to spend time together and still play games and have fun! Just be sure that you make it clear on the invitation that it is going to be a baby shower, but the items will be donated so that you don't have anyone there that does not feel they want to be a part of that.

Good luck and congratulations!! GIRLS RULE!!!

Dear T.,

I was in your shoes recently. My son was 14 months old when my second son was born. So obviously we didn't need very much if anything at all. My suggestion is just to have a diaper raffle. Have everyone who wants to enter the raffle bring a package of diapers and some wipes. If they want to enter more than once they can bring more than one package too. You can have some kind of gift certificate or a really nice gift to give away. You can keep the gift a secret or you can let everyone know what it is too. If you don't want to do all the baby games you can just make your shower about you getting together with friends and family just to have some fun as well. Good luck with the little it has been an adventure for me so far. My oldest is now 16 months and the new little one is 6 1/2 weeks. Good luck!!

S. M

While some may think it rude, I personally do not. Every child is special and deserve to have something special just for them. Even if it is just a girls night out so you have a picture to put in their baby book :). I can see your possible hesitation as they are the same sex. But seasons, sizes, etc. could make a huge differnce. You could have just a diaper one or whatever. I had one surprise shower for my second one and then we had a "Meet Madison Shower". This was when she was two months old. These are my favorite shower pictures as she is in every one of them. The guests all stamped onsies for her. Some brought gifts, some came just to meet her. Most all brought a package of diapers. My favorite gift, was a coupon book for a meal a week for a month. So I loved the meal shower idea too! You have friends that love you and want to do this for you. Let them. Those that think it strange or rude can stay home :)

I was in a similar situation, my kids are 17 months apart. Although I was having a boy the second time, (I hd a girl first), I really only needed a couple things, other than boy clothes. We ended up having a "welcome baby" party instead. So about a month or so after he was born, we had a small party, mainly family and close friends, to come "meet" the baby. People did bring gifts but it wasn't the big to-do like the first baby shower

Every baby deserves a celebration in honor of their soon arrival! If you don't need anything maybe just assign your guest differant size diapers to bring according the 1st letter in their last name, that way you don't get too many of the same size. They could also bring wipes and batteries. Or maybe find a charity that your guest can donate to at your party. You could make it a family themed party, something your oldest daughter will enjoy. For my second we had a co-ed beach party and for my third we had a co-ed pool party with my best friends family that was due on the same day with her third as well. There might be a few things you need like a double stroller and you can registar for those and let your close friends and family know about it and let them give their gifts at another time from the party so the rest of your guests don't feel bad about not bringing a present. Plus you need pictures for her baby book!!

DEFINATLY! Each & every baby should be celebrated!!! I have 3 kids & I had a baby shower for each & loved spending time with all of my friends before my little one arrived. You could even do a "baby shower" after the baby is born for everyone to meet your little one so it doesn't feel like you are asking for presents. With my last baby I didn't register for anything so people wouldn't feel obligated. I think each child deserves there own celebration!

Mom of a 9 year, 23 month, & 7 month.

i have 4 boys and i have had a shower for all of them. You will need diapers so have a diaper party where everyone just brings different size diapers. I did that for one child and had enough diapers to last for a year.

Congrats on the new arrival.

I think a 2nd baby shower is totally appropriate! Why not! Every baby's pending arrival deserves to be celebrated. Gifts from friends can be kept to a minimum if there is a clear theme for the party...how about diapers and wipes (we all know how quickly we go through diapers in the early stages). Also, the hostess can start a scrapbook for the new arrival and ask guests to bring things for the scrapbook. Anyhow, congratulations on your pending arrival!

A baby shower is not YOUR choice but the choice of the loving firends who choose to throw it. Go for it!!! Why not have a DIAPER party? Everyone is assigned a size and brings you a case of diapers...sounds great to me!

If your friends want to celebrate your blessing, let them. If you don't need anything, then tell them "no gifts" or you could have them bring things to be donated to a women's shelter. Another thing that you could do is make up some newborn kits (in a 2 gal ziplock bag)to donate to a county hospital. These should contain very basic things for a baby, i.e. a night gown, socks, undershirt, receiving blanket, etc.. That way your blessing is a blessing to others.

No it is NOT appropriate, especially given the fact that your children are so close in age. If people feel so inclined to do something for you, have your girlfriends pamper you and take you to lunch and for a pedicure before the baby arrives. And if people want to give you a gift, they usually will give one after the baby is born. I have 3 children. A second shower is SO RUDE!

I would suggest that your friends invite family, friends, etc, to celebrate in your joy, maybe a brunch type thing and just ask them to note that you will not be accepting baby type gifts, just the pleasure of their company... Although, with two babies a nice pamper-the-Mom-who-is-about-to-go-crazy party might be a fun alternative!

how about a diaper drive, college fund or other help you need themed party?
have fun,
a.

CONGRATULATIONS.
and if you have some girlfriends that want to have a party and (even if they are just looking for the excuse to have the party) go ahead and celebrate with them.
the one thing that you can put down on the invitation is that you really don't need anything....or, for those of us like me who love to get cute little girlie clothes...what you really WOULD like....a photo book that this girl can have of her own...a book on the dates of milestones...

i have found that the second child (person) in a lot of large families got all the hand me downs and in adulthood will promote "difference" for children.

have fun, don't worry if it is "appropriate"...good grief! you have friends that care enough about you to WANT to throw you and your baby a party....have fun!

*hugs*

let them throw the party... they want a reason to get together and look at cute clothes etc. Unless the girls are born in the same season your new born clothes might be to heavy for a July baby... but if you really don't want more stuff (which I also get!) Make it a diaper party (everyone bring different size of the type of diaper you prefer) or tell them that the theme will be your favorite childrens charity and let them bring stuff to donate to them.

Dear T.,

easch baby deserves a shower, and if your friends want to do this for you...why not!! A baby shower is apprppiate, have fun and enjoy!!