10 Month Old Daughter Screams and Wiggles During Diaper Change.

Updated on March 23, 2009
M.P. asks from Lombard, IL
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Help! It is becoming impossible to change my daughter's diaper. Everytime I need to change her she screams and flips to her belly. She even does this on the changing table. I don't understand why all of a sudden this is upsetting to her. I've tried giving her toys, new things to look at, etc. She simply does not want to be changed. Any ideas/suggestions? Is this a phase that will end soon? Thanks ladies!

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Thank you ladies. I appreciate all the advice! When I change her on the changing table I use the straps and give her something to keep her distracted. When I change her downstairs, I try to pin her down with my legs and give her something to hold. She has been a bit better, but it is still a challenge. It is nice to know that I should not be concerned and it is normal. Her twin brother doesn't do this at all so I was a bit concerned. Thank you so much!

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K.R.

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My nearly 10 month old son does the same thing. I usually give him my phone which is also an mp3 player. The music is a good distraction and allows me to change him without the struggle.

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S.S.

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The only thing I can think of about that is that it is cold when you pull off the diaper and she might not like that. How about putting a blankie over her when you are changing her? Just a thought.

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K.R.

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My nearly 10 month old son does the same thing. I usually give him my phone which is also an mp3 player. The music is a good distraction and allows me to change him without the struggle.

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K.B.

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Try chewing bubble gum during the diaper change and blow big bubbles. I did that with my son during this phase, and he was interested in seeing the bubbles getting big and pop.

Or, change on the floor and gently stick your legs straight out so it's securing their arms and they can't flip over.

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J.V.

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I read somewhere that what you do is simply turn them over and say to them gently, "I need you to lay down so I can change your diaper." and keep doing it until they give in. This will teach them what is expected of them.

The first few times I did it, I literally had to flip her like 10 times. I was laughing at the end of it. The important thing is to not get frustrated or to fight with them. Just look her in the eye and firmly tell her what is expected.

My girl has gotten better about it since I started doing this.

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D.N.

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My d is still doing it but without the screaming. It is usually as though it is the worst thing we have to do. I make a game of it to help get through it. I don't have room for a changing table so we change on the couch or on my bed. I also try to give her somehting to play with like a small ball or shoe or something.

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L.C.

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My 11 month old tries to flip and roll over too, on the changing table. I usually get a toy he hasnt seen in a while before changing and that distracts him for a minute or two. Try a really new or interesting toy and only give it when changing diapers.

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V.C.

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I would give her the diaper to hold, ask for her help and to hand it to you when your ready. I also would rinse my Daughters wipes with hot water so they were warm when I wiped her, she did not like the cold wipes at all. Also try to stay calm and just say I need this from you right now. (use what ever words you prefer).And just continue to turn her over as calmly as possible.
Good luck as it can be very frustrating at times.
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J.K.

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Normal. We keep "special" toys that he only gets to play with when being changed so he doesn't get bored with them. Singing helps too.

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M.R.

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Totally normal. Use the strap on the changing pad, make sure you have everything out and ready (diaper, wipes, etc.) and do it as quickly as possible.

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H.R.

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Both my B/G twins went through this about the same time as yours. I would coordinate changes around nap time bottles so they would hold still while drinking (they love their bottles) and also be dry for their naps. If they weren't wiggling, I wouldn't give them the bottle, just a toy. They are now 14 months old and only wiggle 20% of the time and I don't do the bottles any more, just a stage I guess! Good luck!
p.s. Sometimes, especially if you're having a crazy twin day, it is difficult to not get frustrated while they're "freaking out" during changing. A couple times I flipped them back over a bit too roughly and felt bad (no damage done to them, I just felt guilty). Take a second to breathe and calmly turn them back over - your calm while help them to calm down too.

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J.K.

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My ten month old wiggles and squeals. He hates being messed with in any way. I just do it as quickly as possible.

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N.D.

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My daugther did the same thing, and still does from time to time... I've tried everything to get her pre-occupied with something else, but with no luck... I think it's because they just don't want to be messed with, and want to do their own thing. The best thing I can tell you is that she will eventually grow out of it to where it won't happen as often. And when it does, I've resorted to trying to sing to her, as she LOVES music. But if nothing's working, then you just try to struggle with it until she gets over it.

A.H.

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I had the same problem with my son and called my pediatrician for advice. Basically they were thrilled with the news and told me he's doing exactly what he should be doing at that age. Great - so how does that help me?! Haha. Anyway the key is NOT to get upset, don't try to hold her down or raise your voice. For sure that will just upset you and make the situation a lot worse. Just start trying to sing songs she likes, or do things that normally make her laugh. You only need a minute, unless it's a blowout poop, so a quick distraction can get you through it. Otherwise, just do your best, hang in there, it does get better eventually.

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E.G.

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2 out of the 3 of my kids were wiggle worms! Give the the diaper or wipe to hold. It gives them an "important job!"

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S.M.

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Props to you for still using the changing table. We had to abandon it at 7 months with both of our boys. Yes, both our kids went through the same wiggle-butt phase at 10 months. As hard as it is, they do outgrow it. I try to have a distracting toy or something to ease up on the wrestling!

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E.R.

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My daughter did this for a while and still does occasionally (she is 16 months old). My husband sometimes comes in and plays peek-a-boo with her while I change her to distract her. We also try to sing her favorite songs. It will pass. Don't get upset, and if she really gets upset, let her be in a wet diaper for a little while and then try again.

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S.S.

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Hey M.,

What a pain in the butt no pun intended. I have three kids and the youngest did the same thing it was truly impossible and incredibly frustrating to change a diaper. I had to learn to change his diaper while he stood up. Yes you can learn to change a diaper and a poopie diaper while your child is standing up. They are so young you really can't reason with them so to save yourself and them the frustration give it a try. I'm going to assume that you've already tried to redirect their attention to something else or gave them a toy or food to chew on while changing. Best of luck.

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S.M.

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My daughter did/does it too. It's just a phase. My new thing is to give her a clean diaper to play with. It's always a challenge, but just keep trying different things. Sometimes it's no big deal, other times she freaks out.

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S.S.

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The only thing I can think of about that is that it is cold when you pull off the diaper and she might not like that. How about putting a blankie over her when you are changing her? Just a thought.

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